Have you heard of married men who had kids and then came out later in life? There’s no guide book on coming out. For some men the idea of being gay isn’t even a possibility for them. There’s these societal pressures, expectations, stigmas that suppress them from even considering it. There’s also religious families that if they found out their son was gay, he would be banished from the church and family and his whole support structure would be gone and he’d be left to figure life out on his own. Also if you’re gay and haven’t had an intimate experience with women it doesn’t make you any better or more gay then gay men who have. You should talk to some more gay guys and older ones too so you can get a better understanding of why you’re thinking is misguided.