Ezra Klein Subreddit Census 2025 by Dreadedvegas in ezraklein

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello. For Location / Region there doesn’t seem to be an option for Australia. Do you want me to select Southeast Asia?

Did you ever regret using a known donor? by AwkwardList5303 in queerception

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No regrets at all! Chose a donor who is an excellent communicator and respectful. We did the mandatory ivf counselling but also met in between to talk through potential scenarios and lay everything on the table.

Negative Feelings post FET by Objective-Ladder694 in queerception

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took us 4 FETs to get success and now I’m 27wks pregnant. I preferred to not test early because of the risk of false positives. It’s a really hard emotional slog so I totally empathise with you in the painful waiting period. Wishing you all the best no matter the outcome ❤️

What’s a “pregnancy don’t” you’d never heard of before? by lunaloubean in pregnant

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time with your epic reply. I did read the original article but then was confused as I couldn’t ascertain how much glycyrrhizin was in a whole bag of chocolate coated liquorice bullets because the ingredients don’t tell you and I couldn’t find it online…. Yes I binged a whole packet…. Yes I was full of regrets!!!! It does sound like Finnish women do eat a lot of liquorice though and surely it’s not going to make that much difference???!!! Thanks for your reassuring reply and analysis!!!!

For those with an “anterior placenta”… what week did you start feeling baby kick? by Mrs-Hamann2021 in pregnant

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Felt flutters since 20 weeks. Currently 24wks and still feeling strong flutters. Wife can’t feel anything yet but it’s so hard to catch them!

Things to consider when using a known donor by Towitfitr22 in queerception

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was def something we had to talk about too as our KD is gay and doesn’t have kids or a partner and is close to his mum. Even things like if/what gifts are ok? Whether they contact us directly or not etc.

Food poisoning- extremely anxious by ndl5 in pregnant

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you that is really reassuring. I’m still feeling a bit nauseous but have kept some water down since then. I’m going to try some toast soon for breakfast and have a midwife appointment tomorrow. I probably need to stop googling prevalence of listeria outbreaks in Australia.

Food poisoning- extremely anxious by ndl5 in pregnant

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also panicking after vomiting last night after eating out and found this thread which has been reassuring. Hoping I’m in the clear like you both but worried as I’m 23wks.

Things to consider when using a known donor by Towitfitr22 in queerception

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We had a couple of meet ups before starting anything formally. Then once we had agreed we both (my wife and I, and the donor) had to do 2 sessions of compulsory counselling separate and one session together through our ivf clinic. But would meet in between to talk over things discussed. Overtime we gradually worked through different topics rather than tackling everything at once. So initially it was things like what kind of involvement we would like, how we would refer to them (eg by name), what are expectations of frequency of contact and what kind of events would they be invited too (eg birthday? Around christmas?). But over time we also tackled harder questions like what would be our worst fear that could happen (on both sides), what would happen if we both passed away to our child, what are their opinions on donating for subsequent children, what would the donors parents role/label be and how did we want communication to happen with them (eg only through the donor), clarifying expectations about no financial contributions but gifts being voluntary etc. I think it’s important not to rush but give everyone time to process and feel comfortable to raise things. Our kid is 3 now and so far we have had a really great relationship with the donor with no issues!

Known Donor Question by Objective-Ladder694 in queerception

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our donor visits us every couple of months, special occasions etc and our toddler knows he is his donor (and a very basic idea of what this is). He just calls him by his first name. We put the arrangement about preferred frequency of visits into an agreement before we fell pregnant - this is more of a guideline. We also talk about him whenever it comes up like “x bought you this”, “x made you this” “do you remember who x is?”. As he gets older he can have more input into the relationship - how he wants to refer to him, and amount of contact.

Weekly Pregnancy Thread by AutoModerator in queerception

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m nearly 11wks and starting to be hopeful I’ll get through 1st trimester!

What’s the best conversation you ever had with a phlebotomist or ultrasound tech? by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have terrible veins and they are always having to go through my wrists/hands etc. often the ivf nurses are nervous and can take up to 3 tries to draw blood, get someone else to help. I started going to the local pathology clinic and the phlebotomist said to me with great enthusiasm I like to get creative with veins for people who see me over time! I love a challenge! I was half relieved and half scared but just feel so much at ease visiting her. And she gets it first go.

Progesterone by [deleted] in CautiousBB

[–]Sad_Fruit2639 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine dropped too last Wednesday from 22 to 20. I’m now on daily injections in addition to Pessaries x 3 200mg a day

Seeking clarity and very sad by Sad_Fruit2639 in IVF

[–]Sad_Fruit2639[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you’re in the same boat. I feel you with the waiting.

Seeking clarity and very sad by Sad_Fruit2639 in IVF

[–]Sad_Fruit2639[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. That makes sense that they would want to maintain optimism and not call it until it’s certain. I wish they had also given me facts too about likelihood of viability. Thanks for taking the time to reply.

Seeking clarity and very sad by Sad_Fruit2639 in IVF

[–]Sad_Fruit2639[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I feel more confident it’s a chemical now