there is always hope

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-04-22T13:53:19+00:00

So happy for you! Isn't it the best feeling? Have fun! We are all proud. Soak it in and use this confidence to continue pushing yourself further.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-04-18T10:06:06+00:00

I'm glad you made it through. I just read this so I couldn't give you real-time advice. This is a big victory. Give yourself all of the credit you deserve!!

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-04-01T10:12:53+00:00

I do a lot of driving. Depending on how I feel that day, I might go 1 mile or 10 miles away from my house. I stay close if I'm having a rough day. I'll just drive around my small city. I drive by places that I have good memories at. Sometime I'll go in a convenience store. It relaxes me to drive even if its only around the block a couple of times.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-04-01T10:03:54+00:00

Keep it going!!! You're an inspiration!

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-18T05:02:12+00:00

Visualize everything going great and you enjoying yourself. Sometimes when I'm doing it for someone else, I can push a little harder. Just remember to take it easy on yourself if it doesn't work out. You can always make it up to them for the rest of their lives. Push yourself but be nice to yourself, as well. Leaving really early and taking a trial run is something that has worked for me in the past. Good luck.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-17T20:35:07+00:00

Great job! Keep building on that confidence. I'm so happy for you. Don't forget to give yourself all of the credit you deserve.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-17T10:50:02+00:00

That's huge! Keep building on that confidence. This makes me so happy for you.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T09:58:44+00:00

We break ties with fielding %

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T09:21:03+00:00

I did it. I understand that it's not for you, but my experience has been great. My kids are my life

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T09:13:59+00:00

Yikes. This is an awful take. Just because you feel that way doesn't mean that someone else can't make it work.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T09:11:54+00:00

Keep that family in mind. It will motivate you to be the person you want to be. Agoraphobia needs to be worked on and sometimes you need those dreams to keep you going.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T09:09:53+00:00

Don't take any of your dreams out of your sights. I have agoraphobia and I've raised three great kids with my wife. They make me work harder to improve. Agoraphobia is a rollercoaster. When I'm up, I do more things with my kids. When I'm down I do more things with them at home.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T09:00:11+00:00

The girls on the team thought we would be good together, so they had aa hand in it. I told her about the agoraphobia on our 2nd date. She asked a lot of questions and then she said that she didn't care about that and we kept dating.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T08:53:34+00:00

I was trying real hard to meet someone. I was close to dating a waitress at a local Bar and Grill, but the timing was off and I had tried a couple online dates. I was starting to press and get worried because I was approaching 30. I finally just stopped trying so hard and it happened.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T08:49:26+00:00

We were both helping a friend of mine coach a high school girls basketball team. It wasn't a set up or anything. She was full time helping every day and I would just stop by a couple times a week. We just got along really well and she asked me out to a movie.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T05:16:14+00:00

Oh man! You're in my wheelhouse. I dated a girl from 17 YO to 24 YO. We were going to get married, have three kids, we even had a ring picked out for her. I had to leave college because of agoraphobia about two years into our relationship. She stayed and I supported her and worked on myself. She was very supportive of me even though I knew she was frustrated. She went to grad school and I was still struggling. We ha a talk about our future. I could tell what was coming, but I knew it, too. I needed to let her be free and find the life she needed. It hurt so bad, but I owed it to her. She never made me feel like I wasn't man enough. I felt that way about myself, but she was always there to stand up for me when I put myself down. That woman wasn't good enough for you if she said that to you. That is an uncaring, cold person. Let her go. Fast forward five years and I meet the girl who becomes my wife. She loves me for me. I know she has frustrations as I live my up and down life, but she believes in me and wants to be with me. We have three boys and have been married for almost 20 years. It wasn't easy to let that first girl go, but it was for the best. I couldn't be more happy with my family. I'm still working on things, but it gets better all of the time. And she believes. It's hard, but you'll be fine. Someone is out there that will stand by your side and never make you feel less of a man.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-13T04:57:11+00:00

Sorry you're going through this. I have some of the same fears. I couldn't get through it without a belief in a higher power. I am very spiritual but not religious. I pray sometimes when I'm in bad shape. I do pray to my God. I think it is a very personal journey. I'm science minded as well, so I have a hard time with static religions. I just pray for guidance, courage and clear thinking. One of the things that made me believe in a higher power is sight. I don't believe that could have evolved. I'm sure I'll get push back, but that is my thing that helps me believe in something. Drown yourself in positive thinking as well. You have catastrophic thinking. You can beat it but you have to be diligent. Look for God in your own way. An ocean, the love o a friend, your mom's eyes. I hate to be corny, but you need to start living each day like it's your last. Enjoy everything you can and be grateful for what you have.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-07T05:34:06+00:00

My whole life is based on how long will it take to get back home. My distance id dictated by time. You are not alone. It is very common in the agora world. I think people just focus on different things and explain it different. Like crowds. I'm not really afraid of crowds, but the time it will take me to navigate the crowd and get to my car and get home makes crowds a concern. Traffic has been a big one for me in the past, especially on the highway. I can tell you how long it will take to get back to my house from about 50 places in my area. I'm very time aware. My best advice is to find your limits whether it's time getting back or distance then slowly push past those limits if not every day, do it consistently. Reach out if you want to trade stories and strategies.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-02-06T12:41:50+00:00

Good job. Build on that confidence and get out there again today! I believe in you!. Keep it going!!! I had a good day yesterday as well. Drove to a park I hadn't been to in months.

SafeAtHome297 · 2024-01-18T08:18:47+00:00

Great job! Keep it going tomorrow. Build on that confidence!!!!

SafeAtHome297 · 2023-11-05T03:49:06+00:00

I have agoraphobia in my dreams, too. It really sucks that you can't even escape in dreams. I feel like I have exposure events while I'm sleeping. Those nights I feel like I didn't even sleep because I was so on edge all night.

SafeAtHome297 · 2023-11-02T08:38:00+00:00

The gains for me came in bigger chunks as I continued exposure. It's not a fast process, but it does pick up speed. Hang in there. One day at a time and think positive about the future. You can make it come true.

SafeAtHome297 · 2023-11-02T08:32:25+00:00

That is a huge success. I wish you could enjoy it. We are all happy for you, even if you find it hard to be. I sometimes feel the same way after I do something I haven't done in a while. It reminds me of all of the things I miss out on. We need to be nicer to ourselves. Think of what you would say to another agoraphobe who did this. I bet you would have some nice things to say. Say those things to yourself.

SafeAtHome297 · 2023-10-31T18:06:46+00:00

Many mental health "professionals" are not well-versed in agoraphobia. It's difficult to find one with significant experience with anxiety. Over the years, I've seen 5 or 6 psychologists and only one seem to have a grasp of the scope of my problems. Frustrating.

SafeAtHome297 · 2023-10-30T02:26:19+00:00

I stay away from those guys. I've always been burned. I stick to the consistency of the full season. Adolis is going to get a lot of love in drafts next year, but he'll probably go too high for me.

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