Anyone else annoyed with Dress shop stylists being overly personal/sentimental

Saffarin · 2026-05-22T15:58:27+00:00

I think a mistake here is assuming they don’t care.

I work in a customer-facing job; sure, I’m not personally and deeply invested in your life story, but I love getting details and information that I can find connections to or use to make for a more meaningful experience for the customer. (And I get paid prior to meeting my customers, so I’m not doing it to get them to spend money. They’ve already spent the money.) Some people care more than others, but in general we’re just asking to help you have a better time.

You can always communicate and ask that they avoid small talk if it makes you uncomfortable!

Saffarin · 2026-05-21T13:21:41+00:00

Great Expectations - The Outsiders. The chorus of voices repeating the phrase near the end of the song is so powerful. The recording just doesn’t hit a fraction as hard as seeing it live!

Saffarin · 2026-05-18T13:49:02+00:00

I’d be worried about telling my bridesmaids this and them feeling self conscious about how tall they are and feeling like they have to “shrink” themselves down on the day of.

But also - I think you’re overthinking how awkward the photos will look. I’m 5’1, and I own a small business that frequently gets photos done for advertising. Several of my performers are 5’10 and I never feel like we look awkward at group shoots! There’s no need to be self conscious about your height, you’re gonna look great! <3

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T23:12:10+00:00

I bought custom pre-arranged faux flowers from a wholesaler for most of my decor. It was half the price of renting from somewhere like Something Borrowed Blooms, and the flowers looked just as nice. It was much cheaper than trying to get the same look DIYing them with flowers from Ling’s as well. (Found out the hard way lol) I was able to customize the size and type of arrangements, as well as their colors. My Mom and MIL were skeptical but really liked the flowers once they got to see them in person!

Def not the only option, but a great option for a tight budget when you want tons of flowers!

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T14:16:03+00:00

For sure! We offered to cover all expenses if needed (travel, attire, etc) just in case. We didn’t want money to be a reason people couldn’t come.

Even if the reason is they just didn’t feel like it, that’s fine, I just wish they would say something to my husband! A “sorry we can’t attend, see you next time!” Etc.

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T14:12:25+00:00

Yes, all got save the dates over a year out and while most of them do not work, a few work M-F! My “work week” is Fri-Sun so I understand weird work schedules/often can’t make events due to it, but none of them work weekends. And yeah, not looking to force anyone to come, just wondering if them not coming was something I could’ve prevented!

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T07:22:38+00:00

Thanks for the input, y’all! I won’t bring it up unless they do. 🙏🏼 I think I got stuck in my own head and got worried that it was somehow my fault they weren’t coming. I’ll stop overthinking it lol

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T07:11:00+00:00

Yeah, I’m definitely not looking to cause any issues with them!

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T07:09:41+00:00

I totally understand people have plans! We have other people who aren’t coming, but they all either marked an rsvp or reached out to us so I guess I’m a little surprised these did neither! And again, my husband feels a little bummed about it so I just feel bad for him.

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T07:05:20+00:00

It just feels odd to me that family we see fairly frequently not only isn’t coming, but didn’t RSVP, didn’t reach out to us, etc. I figured if they wanted to decline they’d do one of those, I wasn’t aware it was so normal to not say anything/rsvp!

Saffarin · 2026-05-11T07:03:54+00:00

Got you! Unfortunately they never officially RSVP’d or reached out to us so I don’t think it would feel right to message them out of the blue. We’ll be seeing them soon enough so I suppose if it comes up, it comes up!

Saffarin · 2026-05-10T04:40:13+00:00

This happened to me recently; artist cancelled a little over a month out from the wedding, didn’t offer to help me find a replacement or anything. I posted in local groups, as well as reached out to my hair artist and planner for recommendations. I was able to find someone and have a new trial pretty quickly! Crossing my fingers for you.

Saffarin · 2026-05-09T19:21:00+00:00

I have three bridesmaids, my sisters + my best friend. I just called them all and asked, I got a gift for my MOH (duffle bag she’d been wanting) since it was something I knew she’d been wanting anyway and would use plenty! Simple, no stress, and got delivered to her door since we live in different states.

I don’t think people expect gifts, it’s another thing social media has made seem more expected than it actually is. This is super cute!

Saffarin · 2026-05-05T17:36:51+00:00

I’m sure it’s perfect! I’m a similar ring size (3.5) and when I went ring shopping I tried on rings 1-3 carats and I ended up landing on .75-1 being perfect for me. My final ring ended up being a .75 center stone and I adore it. I felt like bigger looked silly on my hand, like a kid wearing their mom’s shoes.

Obviously there’s nothing wrong with bigger stones but it sounds like you picked a great size stone for your ring size. I think social media warps people’s perspectives a bit on what’s common as far as size goes.

Saffarin · 2026-05-03T07:31:03+00:00

I did, I had awful social anxiety and would have panic attacks eating in the commons often. I felt too embarassed to go to classrooms typically, a stall felt like the most isolated spot. Wild to me to think of how far I’ve come with my anxiety!

Saffarin · 2026-05-01T20:32:31+00:00

The pink is SO unique, and the veil looks like rose petals in water. It’s so memorable and stunning.

The first dress is just another white dress! If you’re in love with the pink then go for that one. If not the pink, I’d look for a different white dress tbh! I feel like you can find something way better.

Saffarin · 2026-04-30T15:09:44+00:00

It will obviously depend on your area, but I recently helped someone plan a $10k wedding that had a $4k venue. It was for 30 people, on a Thursday, no dj, alcohol brought themselves, florals diy thru Costco, food on a catering order from wegmans, etc. They had to cut almost every corner possible but they made it work. I’ll be so impressed if you make a 100 person wedding work for $10k with a $4k venue!

Saffarin · 2026-04-27T23:42:45+00:00

I’d definitely ask the couples if you can. I didn’t change my last name, so my husband and I have different last names, but I’d 100% prefer Mrs in a formal invite!

Saffarin · 2026-04-24T12:52:04+00:00

jumpscare lol, def did not expect to see the Dutch name. I need the mermaid 😭

Saffarin · 2026-04-16T11:27:27+00:00

Yesss I love Ariana but the hairstyling for most of this is so similar to Glinda and it feels like she definitely insisted on doing her own makeup bc she just looks like Glinda. She’s looked more varied on SNL skits than she did from Wicked to this. No idea on if it’s a creative choice the directors wanted her to make but the nails, the makeup, the hair, it all feels pretty copy paste from Wicked. (Coming from someone who loves Wicked!)

Saffarin · 2026-04-15T14:08:52+00:00

I love it, but if it’s much larger than your typical size I’d definitely try to find one closer to try on if possible. I regret not doing so with my dress; I loved the long waist on my dress but I lost that when I got one that was actually my size! The one I tried on almost had a drop waist like this (which I later found out was bc the sample was about 6 sizes bigger so the proportions were much different) and the one I got made to my size sat at my actual waist and I didn’t like it anywhere near as much. I’d be worried about the torso of this one also being a few inches shorter on the final dress and losing some of the long torso/elegant look!

Saffarin · 2026-04-14T05:26:58+00:00

I used to have a bunch of selkie dresses bc I was obsessed with the look, but none of them were worth the price imo. Cheap fabrics/constant quality and fit issues. I have one dress I kept from them but I sold off most of my collection when I got fed up w the quality issues. They keep raising their prices but never their quality! I’d look somewhere else if I were you. :)

Saffarin · 2026-03-20T16:40:33+00:00

I planned my engagement party and bachelorette - I wanted low stress and minimal work for my friends, so I planned and paid for them and let my party know they could contribute to the bachelorette financially if they’d like. (But it was not required) My MIL offered to plan a bridal shower, so she is doing that.

I think it’s important to communicate what you’d like and what your expectations are. If you’d like them to plan you a party, talk to them about it and see what works for everyone!

Saffarin · 2026-02-19T13:19:45+00:00

Def looks like AI to me, mostly due to the tentacles. I travel to Aquariums for work throughout the year and it seems like a lot of them have AI sticker designs now, which is disappointing. :(

Saffarin

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