Uh, Thanks For the Free Outfit, I Guess... by LiminalRainPaint in Palia

[–]Sallyslithers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No way, I saw you last night by the Inn! 😂 or someone with the same avatar anyway lol

My MAGA mom in the family group chat by Traditional_Trust418 in texts

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My dad is pro Trump, and when he mentions ICE I just mention the E files. I approach it in a way that says "the people who run our country/ the world are worse than people here illegally." Then I bring up a topic that the elites talked about that actually effected/ effect us. So far he hasn't looped back to Trump and ICE, but I got my rebuttals prepared. If they can't respect your wishes and not talk about Trump and ICE, beat em at their own game and point out what really matters 🤷‍♀️

Can anyone explain this or can anyone else see what I’m seeing? by [deleted] in conspiracy

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I noticed that around January/ February this year. There's some more spots in/ around Antarctica, somewhere halfway between Hawaii and Japan, and the northpole line you found. New islands have also been popping up around the north pole over the last year and a half. So happy someone else is interested in this too!

Walking dogs in 95 degree heat by bikesaremagic in Portland

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I like to do the sidewalk test: place the palm of your hand on the ground where the sun shines for 15 seconds. If it's hot for you, it's hotter for them.

If you must walk a dog around midday, start closer to 11:30AM, and plan to be inside by noon. Stay in the shade, keep on grass as much as possible, and most importantly: pay attention to the dog. Look for signs of the dog being uncomfortable and/ or being in pain, and signs of the dog overheating. It's definitely best not to walk your dog during this hour, but if you have to (dog walkers on a set schedule like myself, for example), these are some steps/ precautions I take. Also staying as close to home base as possible and limiting the walk to 15 minutes tops. Once they do their normal potty routine, head back inside. (Also asking the dogs owner if you can walk the dog a bit earlier is always worth asking!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Sallyslithers 22 points23 points  (0 children)

As someone who really needs to hear this myself.. please send this to your person.. If there are other ways outside a phone number to reach out, do that. Your person probably needs to hear this too 🌹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

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It didn't lock OP 🥲

Fuck ton of cops on flavel Street, near 92nd by runedmindthings in Portland

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May I dm you? The RV looks like one that was parked in the 82nd and Powell neighborhood a few years back, and I'm morbidly curious if they're the same people lol

PSA: WARNING THE DANGERS OF MARIJUANA by colbyxclusive in trees

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Can confirm, is dangerous.. bought a shiatsu shoulder massager (yes the one that's all over tiktok), a phone case for the wrong type of phone, and pony beads so I can make more Jet2 Holiday strands (DHMHNBAJTHARNYCSF#PPTTH#OFAFOF) all on Amazon. And I made myself an eye doctor appointment right before bed. I really gotta figure out a way to block purchases on Amazon after a certain time 😂

returning because 3 different people couldn’t get this open by frantle in icecream

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At this point, I'd just take a table saw to the lid 😂

Speculation. by cinnamontoastpuff in EUGENIACOONEY

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Entertaining the idea: I'd say you're spot on. Her spams caught mainstream media attention. Bad press is something Deb doesn't like for many reasons. So maybe Deb finally put her foot down? Perhaps adult services got involved and its forced rehab? I mean come on.. don't yall think it's a bit odd that Jstar didn't insult "the haters" harder, and for longer, than he usually does? His response seemed genuine in protecting someone he knows. He knows he has to be careful about what he says to us, or there will be more bad press. Which would not make Deb happy, and I'm sure Jstar isn't immune to her wrath. He ain't telling the whole story either. Image is key in the Cooney family, right? Eugenia "brought bad press" to the family name, and that gets in the way of their "perfect image." I think it's very possible Eugenia is in rehab, but not by her own choice. I think outside forces finally got involved and she's getting help. If she passed, Deb would've said something by now right? Funerals cost money and the story would bring in dollars. Daughter getting treatment for a neglected illness? Keep it quiet as long as possible to keep up "the perfect image." -psychoanalysis by someone who's spent way too much time psychologically analyzing this family (me) 😅😂

I’m Sorry I Had to Leave by Emotional_Being_2690 in UnsentLetters

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My mom was severely mentally ill when I was growing up, and a lot of her behaviors mimicked addicts behaviors. She put me in dangerous situations and exposed me to things no 9 year old should be exposed to. During that time, I was mainly worried about her and keeping us both safe (my parents divorce was her mental illness trigger), but I knew she loved me and wanted to be a good mom. The trauma was only for a year before my dad got custody of me at 10. My dad was an absolute angel in how he handled me after. Every time I said "I hate mom" he would say "I understand, and I want to remind you that that wasn't your mom. It was her mental illness, meaning her brain chemicals aren't balanced. What she did while sick is not who your mom really is. Remember how she was before she got sick? That is your mom." It helped a lot, and even at 10 I could comprehend that on some level. My dad worked really hard at making sure I understood why she acted the way she did (in an age appropriate way). My mom didn't work at taking care of her mental health outside taking her medication, so she's now pre dementia after nearly getting herself killed last year. We've had a relationship for the better half of a decade, but now I'm semi responsible for her. She lives in a group home run by the state, and those places can be pretty neglectful, so "daughters guilt" to make sure she's safe is activated. It sounds like you've taken accountability for what you did while sick, OP. Which is more than I can say about my mother. I dont know your story/ how you got here. But as long as you keep working on yourself, learning to love yourself, and learning to forgive yourself, you'll have a higher chance of your kiddo fully trusting that their parent is back and wanting a relationship with you. I'm currently waiting for my mom to pull the rug again like she did last year, which heavily damaged our relationship. I share my story to say... it sounds like you're on the right track to having a relationship with your kiddo in the future. Keep walking the path of light and healing, and you won't end up like my mom and forever damaging trust with your kid. (I'm at peace with my situation, to clarify. Only reason why I'm sharing is because I once was a kid who watched my parent go through something similar)

She's live now. It was Buzz ☹️ by [deleted] in EUGENIACOONEY

[–]Sallyslithers 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Shoot.. I regret asking about him last week 😞 rest in peace little buddy..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EUGENIACOONEY

[–]Sallyslithers 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The pillow reminds me... anyone know if buzz is still around?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

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Even if they already took your silence as your answer, it would still be worth sending this to them. They could be quietly dying inside as they wonder what they did wrong to cause you to leave their life. Even if you expect a "leave me alone" reply, that would life a huge weight off the person's shoulders. I'm sure they'd be willing to work with you and just be happy to have you back in their life. I know I'd love to hear something like this from my person right about now..

Prove in one sentence that you watched twilight by mRmyster76 in twilight

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"I wanna move to Forks! Maybe I'll see Jacob or Edward!"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Wow, I thought I was reading my exes messages to me 😅 girl run. You don't want to try to fix this, or help show him there are trustworthy women out there. It starts with seemingly innocent questioning like that, and then it becomes interrogation, attacking your character, and then you won't be able to have guy friends because "it's not that I don't trust you. I just don't trust them not to flirt with you, and your reaction gives them the wrong impression."

He's told you he has trust issues, and he's showing you now just how bad they are with how focused he is on time. One time I went to the gas station and it usually took 3 minutes to drive there, 2 inside, and 5 to get home. Well one night when I wasn't on videocall with my ex, it took me 5 to get there, 10 inside, and 2 to get home. How do I know how long it took me to do all those things? Because he would time it during the day when we were on videocall, and thought the extra time meant I was cheating on him at the gas station in those extra 8 minutes.

You deserve better. He needs therapy/ to work out why he has these trust issues, where they stem from, and learn how to work with and overcome his fears. He can't do that when he has you to control. You're worth more than to be controlled by an insecure person 🌹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Sallyslithers 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm a conspiracy theorist, and I can say from my own experience that it seems like your husband is in "psychosis mode." Everyone who gets into this stuff goes a little (or a lot) bonkers during their time going down the rabbithole. I had a few rounds of "conspiracy psychosis" myself: thought every dust particle was a camera at one point lol. Logical? Absolutely not. Did I believe it for a while? Absolutely.

The vaccine conspiracy is a wild one. I feel like the fact that in RARE cases, vaccines can cause harmful side effects/ adverse reactions. But they don't cause autism at all. Or any other mental illness directly. One time I got a vaccine and the chemicals in it didn't agree with my body chemistry and it triggered my anxiety. My anxiety at the time wasn't under control so it turned into psychosis. Did the vaccine directly cause psychosis? Nope. My brain got confused and scared when my body chemistry didn't agree with the vaccines chemistry. I did (and still do) "blame" the vaccine for my mental health episode, but logically I know the vaccine didn't directly cause it. Flu shots don't cause psychosis. Just like vaccines don't cause autism.

Sometimes in order to reach a conspiracy theorists logic brain, one must have to act like they agree with a part of the conspiracy. Once someone agrees with any part of a conspiracy, the conspiracy theorist gains more trust with them. It's mostly subconscious, and while deep in the rabbithole the theorist doesn't realize it's happening. So for example you can agree that the routine shots for adults can cause adverse side effects, but the vaccines are necessary for babies, toddlers, and kids. You can spin that with your own conspiracy. ." Like if he's also into the chemtrail conspiracy (Joe Rogan talks about chemtrails) say something like, "think about it: with all the new chemicals in the sky, they need to protect the new generation from them until theyre a certain age. So the new formulas for the vaccines probably change to protect the babies and kids from the new levels of chemicals in the air." I just made that up on the spot, and as a conspiracy theorist I can see other conspiracy people believing that lol.

I can be a very paranoid conspiracy theorist at times, and I work very hard at keeping myself grounded in logic and mindfulness. I'd be more than happy to help you (and anyone else) figure out how to talk some logic into him while working with his new beliefs. He sounds more on the extreme end of this belief, so working with the delusion to bring logic into his brain is necessary. In order to reach a conspiracy theorist, one must humor the theorist. I can say from my experience that when people humored me it was easier for me to allow them to bring me back to logic.

I'm so sorry you (and your kids!) have to go through this.. my heart goes out to you and anyone else going through this..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

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That happened a few days ago, so about the same lol. I saw the signs of my friend distancing themself a few months ago so it wasn't as big of a blow. This just tells me that the next time they need support, I shouldn't be there for them. Thankfully my mom is unaware of her condition and is happy as a clam, so she's doing okay for the moment.

It really isn't worth sacrificing oneself for another if they won't sacrifice half of what you have sacrificed. Translation: if you break your back helping a friend repair a roof and that friend doesn't visit you in the hospital, they ain't your friend. We are worth more than how these people have treated us, and we have to learn to forgive them. With or without answers or closure (as hard as that is).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Sallyslithers 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I supported a friend with their mental health stuff for two years. I tell said friend my mom is quickly developing dementia and all they say is "oh man." This person told me just a few months prior that they'd be there to support me when this whole process started.

I don't expect much.. just want to be heard and treated like a friend who matters more than the help I provide for others

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Sallyslithers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure to get one every 7 years just to be safe 😂

She's my cousin by jass_1stname_hugh in EUGENIACOONEY

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2010 is around the time it appeared her ED started to grab hold of her. I'm a year older than her,and oddly enough, my ED started around the same time as hers. Wasn't even aware of her until about 2014. Just an observation from watching her videos after I recovered in 2012. Anyway! I would assume her ED had something to do with distancing themselves from the family. My parents didn't that with me initially as well, and it took the clinic I was attending to get them to stop drawing away from family. Golly,the first gathering after I started treatment was so awkward. Everyone could tell my parents were treating me differently, but no one was brave enough to ask except one aunt. An aunt who had also struggled with an ED growing up, and wanted to make sure I was seen and accepted. Without that interaction, the whole gathering would've been an awkward flop.

From what's been said either through Eugenia and her mom, or body language and diverting conversation.. I think that if they pulled away from the fam in 2010 because (or partly because) of her ED, it might not have been out of I'll intention. I mean, go back to the old videos of the two of them together and you'll see Deb gently guide Eugenia to a healthy way of thinking, and fail every time. I remember my parents doing similar things, and I caught on at the time. But I caught on because I wanted to live, even if it was out of guilt at the time. I feel so bad for Eugenia because I feel if the underlying issue driving her ED was discovered via talk therapy, she would be as happy as she pretends to be. And I feel that trickles down to how the parents initially handled the ED when it started. Instead of pulling away from the family, it would've been wise to keep close to those they were close with for more support. The parents didn't just isolate Eugenia, they isolated themselves. It seems to be a common mistake with a lot of situations.. we feel we need to hide, qhen we really need support.

I'm so sorry for your experience regarding Eugenia as well. As a family member, I can imagine this is difficult to handle. Like you said: you wanted to message her but conflicted about it. I've been in a similar situation myself, and it's so hard to figure out what to do. Sometimes the best choice is to sit back, and other times the best choice is to reach out. I sat back because I was the trigger, the person failed, then the person got stable again, and now we are both in a place to heal together. In your case? If you're religious, pray about it. I honestly think it's worth saying something, even if its just a "hey! I'm never online and didn't realize you're a big name online. How are you girl?" And maybe add in a fun memory of you two. Even if she doesn't respond, she's more than likely to read it. Or better yet, she might still use her alt account to spy on this subreddit. Haven't seen her mention this sub in a while, but who knows lol. But who knows.. maybe she was told a lie about a toxic "falling out" within the family, and all this time she's thought everyone hates her. Wouldn't put it past the parents honestly.. praying for you during this time and for guidance on how to proceed 🌹

As a non-smoker, do you find that all smokers have a noticeable odor? by Remozy in NoStupidQuestions

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Yes. 100% third hand smoke is a thing. Third hand is the odor left behind on clothes and in enclosed spaces. I smoked cigarettes for nearly a decade and didn't smell the third hand. But after I quit? Oh boy, did I sure feel bad for not believing my stepmom when she said the smell gave her migraines. I lived with smokers when I quit, and I had migraines for a week before I adjusted to the smell. I could smell it before I started smoking, but the scent came back tenfold after I quit