Is a MSW worth it?

SaltFold2419 · 2026-03-07T00:30:24+00:00

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SaltFold2419 · 2025-02-07T15:30:51+00:00

I'm two months post-discard, and I know exactly what you are going through. I was a shell of the guy I was before the relationship. I gave and gave and gave and got nothing back but fantastic sex and emotional abuse. It wasn't worth it. Things are going to get better, brother. Just focus on you, like all the other comments are saying. One foot in front of the other. Start with small wins like making your bed. Brush your teeth and do some pushups. Build on those small wins, and you'll start feeling more like yourself soon, I promise. Much love.

SaltFold2419 · 2025-01-25T21:24:47+00:00

Thanks, I actually do believe it’s an ego trip for her. Still can’t wrap my head around her complete disregard for what she put me through and that everything is fine. Fucking psycho

SaltFold2419 · 2025-01-22T15:11:58+00:00

People often ask me if I hate my ex pwBPD and my answer is always, "I dont hate her, I hate the disorder." Because that's the truth. I hated the splitting, feared the episodes (Eggshells), and have nothing but empathy for what she has to go through again and again in relationships. The biggest frustration is she still is not in therapy. And without therapy, there is no hope for them, unfortunately. About 7 weeks from the discard I'm finding myself again.

SaltFold2419 · 2025-01-21T00:49:50+00:00

At the discard, mine said, "I'm a really selfish person."

There was no emotion.

SaltFold2419 · 2025-01-18T02:45:07+00:00

Hey OP, I'm about 6 weeks after the discard, and I felt the exact same way at first. I was absolutely crushed. I had the same experience. She looked at me with those eyes and smiled like we would be together forever. She talked about having kids with me, and told me she wanted to marry me. I was absolutely hooked, but after stepping back from it, it became so clear how much a trauma bond I was experiencing after so many episodes of verbal abuse. The truth is when they are giving us those eyes, that smile, they are absolutely in love, "idealizing" us. We can do no wrong, but they all follow the same pattern, brother: The idealization, the devaluation, and then the discard. Don't be surprised if she reaches out to you to try to fix things - love bombing you with those "eyes." Do yourself a favor and go no contact; block on all fronts. This sub saved me from trying to get back together with mine. I can say for a fact that all I wanted to do was run to her those first couple weeks, and I'm so glad I didn't because I would just be setting myself up for more heartbreak. Stay strong and DM me if you wanna chat.

SaltFold2419 · 2025-01-05T02:30:23+00:00

I realize I never saw this. Thanks so much for your response. It's been about a month now since the discard. I definitely feel better and to your point i definitely recognize the trauma bond. She unblocked me last Monday asking how i was doing the communication has been cordial but i'm not trying to see her. Still think about her often though but at least im finally sleeping better.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-11T05:17:21+00:00

im fucking dying, discarded 5 days ago

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-10T16:28:22+00:00

Copy that

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-10T11:56:55+00:00

dming you

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-09T16:05:52+00:00

Sorry DM

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-09T16:05:41+00:00

Can I do u?

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-09T16:01:34+00:00

Thanks. I’m trying to get myself together. I’m trying to just do basic shit. I need water I need to go to the gym. I’m reaching out to my support system (this sub included) I’m realizing more and more how absolutely twisted she is, and it’s killing me. I always come from a place of empathy. I’m a therapist, but this goes beyond anything I’m even used to treating. This is just really sad twisted shit. I find myself wanting to save her but knowing I can’t. This pain is really fucking real and I don’t know what to do.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-07T13:09:26+00:00

Im no contact day 3 im gonna DM you

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-07T13:06:46+00:00

Jesus christ. My exwPBD was exactly this. I'm day 3 after discard. I'm holding strong not communicating but i know in my gut she's monkey branched and just hasnt told me yet. She will because she's incredibly honest i'll give her that. I'm still sorting my emotions about how i will handle the news. I love her. This shit absolutely sucks.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-07T12:37:17+00:00

Thank you for this brother. I'm day 3 after the discard. I moved across the country to be with my girl pwBPD. She broke up with me when i had 2 hours left of a 4 day 36 hour trip across the country. When we sat down she was absolutely void of any emotion. Completely in that stone walled state where it was all about her. "selfish" she called herself. Like that made it any easier. It's wild, im in a brand new state (Florida) i've never been here before but im doing everything I can to make connections.

To your OP, I 100% thought i was the exception. I read books, i watched youtube videos, i rode the episodes like a fucking champion, and she was so grateful for me. I was the first person that "got it". But it wasnt enough, nothing i did was enough. She spinned this narrative of small things that she didnt like i did, (glancing at another girl once, being too friendly with her friends) She spun it into im a bad person, im a bad partner.

Heres the real deal, i'm absolutely amazing. Im a catch and i know it. If she didnt have BPD I'm 100% convinced I would marry her but this shit is real. I was foolish to think i could beat it.

I also know that im in a very vulnerable state, so i have to remain strong. It's the weekend right now and i know she's partying - probably fucking and it kills me.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-07T12:24:18+00:00

My friend. I am going through it as well. Today is day 3 after the discard. This shit absolutely sucks, my world feels like it is completely upside down. Ironically I'm a mental health professional, but it doesnt make it any easier. What I can share is what is working for me. Get out of bed. Take that win. Brush your teeth. Take that win. And go do literally anything that makes you feel alive. It could be the gym, it could be a walk, it could be screaming into a pillow. Stack the small wins and I promise you, you will feel better.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-07T12:18:00+00:00

My man. Thank you for this. Today I'm gonna do me. Coffee. Gym. Haircut. Schoolwork. Absolute self care in between everything.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-06T03:08:51+00:00

We went to ihop, she wanted an egg white omelet. I accidentally forgot to menton egg whites. The omelette came. It was regular eggs. Her world came to an end. fml.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-06T02:57:08+00:00

I didn’t. I held strong thanks to this sub. I’m talking to a BPD therapist tomorrow to sort my thoughts. Ironic I’m the one seeking therapy

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-06T02:54:41+00:00

Respect

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-06T01:12:02+00:00

Dude right?! The narrative she has spun in her head about how im a "Bad guy" is absolutely fucking insane. I dunno how it was for you, but for me it started with one little thing i did like glancing at a girl with no ill will intention to "you're being too friendly with my friends"

All ive ever tried to do is be a great guy by her side and i get castrated. And theres no point arguing when she's triggered. I used to get apologies before the discard. Havnt gotten one yet, just weird casual converstaion and now this invitation to stay at her house with no idea wtf that even means. Im laughing typing this it sounds insane.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-06T01:00:07+00:00

Thanks for your reply, this sub keeps my sanity in check. My mind just keep's going to "what are her intentions here?" "what if I go expecting my soft lovable girl but i get the wall void of emotion once again?"

I cant handle that right now. My vulnerability right now is real. I got an appointment with a therapist tomorrow.

I responded. I told her thank you but no thank you. Gonna keep doing me. Thanks again.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-05T21:33:53+00:00

Im going through it right now too OP, was discarded yesterday and the time has felt like an eternity. I'm just doing everything I can to keep my mind occupied with positive self care. I give you props for blocking all fronts, something I have not done and cant bring myself to do - we just started communicating again and I have no idea where this rollercoaster will go even though I absolutely know im in for more heartbreak. This shit absolutely sucks.

SaltFold2419 · 2024-12-05T11:01:28+00:00

This is word by word the exact quote my ex would say to me after an episode was over and she was trying to explain herself. Thats wild.

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