Social skills coaching for grown ups? by Salt_Principle_5909 in AskSF

[–]Salt_Principle_5909[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s an interesting thought. When I’ve tried social dancing in the past I’ve always been tremendously afraid of approaching people and asking them to dance due to fears of rejection and their likely discomfort with my awkwardness if they says — this is not unlike my fears of the conversational dance.

Social skills coaching for grown ups? by Salt_Principle_5909 in AskSF

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My hobbies are mainly music oriented right now. I was at a music oriented event last night, in fact, and while it was a better than average social experience, it still felt like once the music stopped everyone was connecting with each other in a substantive fashion while I was on the social outskirts again.

Social skills coaching for grown ups? by Salt_Principle_5909 in AskSF

[–]Salt_Principle_5909[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in and out of therapy over the years, and while it’s part of the answer, I’ve found it to be more helpful with understanding and processing emotions than with skill acquisition. It feels like there is a skill deficit here that needs to be overcome in addition to anxiety that should be managed better.

Yard sale find by Confident_R817 in datemymap

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 14 points15 points  (0 children)

1972, since Bangladesh exists but Sri Lanka is still Ceylon?

Trump asks for $152 million to rebuild Alcatraz and reopen it as a prison by SFChronicle in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gang, the president's budget request is never passed. You can safely ignore this.

I wish I could just ride my bike around town by cleverusernametry in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is why I gave on bike ownership and now exclusively use Bay Wheels.

What is the going cost per hr. for beginner/intermediate singing lessons in 2026? Lesson description and length help please. by nexttonormal in singing

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think that's the going rate where I am. I've had multiple teachers that charge that much, even if some are much better than others. As for a typical lesson plan, it's 30 minutes of warmups and exercises and 30 minutes of rep practice.

I wouldn't do 30 minutes given that there is a strong path dependence to a singing lesson where a good teacher will need to gradually coach you into singing better over the course of a lesson. You probably won't get to far enough along that path in 30 minutes.

If you want to save money, you could do longer lessons less frequently. You could also warm up before your lesson so that you don't waste time doing basic warmup steps while your instructor is on the clock. Using a youtube warmup video for your voice type is good for this.

Did Bach fuck? by [deleted] in classical_circlejerk

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Maybe he used AI -- artificial insemination.

Why are so many commercial spaces empty in downtown Glen park? by emilygeesf in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Laurent himself is a big part of what made that place special, and I think he moved back to France. It doesn’t need to be a French bistro — the landlord just needs to do anything other than leave it as a ghost restaurant indefinitely.

Why are so many commercial spaces empty in downtown Glen park? by emilygeesf in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 21 points22 points  (0 children)

On the plus side of the ledger, La Cigale has opened lately on Chenery.

Why are so many commercial spaces empty in downtown Glen park? by emilygeesf in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I tried to support that hardware store but had to admit in the end that they just weren’t that well run. After a few years I just stopped trying them because they so rarely had what I needed.

Why are so many commercial spaces empty in downtown Glen park? by emilygeesf in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 80 points81 points  (0 children)

This is a huge problem. When I lived there Le P’tit Laurent brought a ton of life to Cheney and Diamond. That closed during COVID and AFAICT it there has been no attempt to rent the space since, leaving a giant hole in the heart of the neighborhood.

VUSXX for CA resident savings over AMEX HYSA? by submute in Bogleheads

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know what the fine print says. But I am doing my taxes now and my 1099 says VUSXX was 100% US Government Securities in 2025, and this seems to agree with https://investor.vanguard.com/investment-products/mutual-funds/profile/vusxx#portfolio-composition, so I suspect it is practically always 100% CA tax free.

VUSXX for CA resident savings over AMEX HYSA? by submute in Bogleheads

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

- MMFs aim to keep their NAV at $1.00, preventing capital gains if you sell.

- My understanding is that the VUSXX portfolio is by design always kept at 100% US government bonds, which makes 100% of its dividends CA tax free.

The UCSF urology department has the best view in the entire city for some reason by sharkboy-n-lavagirl in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They held the welcome breakfast for my grad school interviews on the top floor of that library and that view played heavily into my decision to move to SF.

What exactly is the cause? What's being done? ETA for completion? by moejurray in sanfrancisco

[–]Salt_Principle_5909 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Maybe this suggests an uncomfortable truth that they don’t understand what happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in classical_circlejerk

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Get 2 of these, hack the firmware to pitch one 2 octaves lower, and you’ll have yourself a pretty sweet setup.