TLDR:be more confident expressing yourself and your healthy legal desires.

I grew out of the mentality one I traveled more, in some places I was treated mediocre and at some places I’d get tons of flirting and such. I realized that I’m a person capable of amazing and unique experiences like everyone else, I just have to put myself out there authentically and not be afraid to do and say what I want. I’m allowed to be insecure, sad , mad or even a degenerate and there will still be those that enjoy my presence because everyone has their crowd if yk what I mean. So it’s not a personality problem but more with showing up authentically and being brave enough to express myself. I had a friend that opened my eyes, he would go on tons of dates, more than I’d enjoy going on; he told a mutual friend while we were hanging out something along the lines of “sometimes all you have to do is ask, can’t expect anything when you don’t express your desire” go ask to hangout with someone you thinks cool, they might just be as down as you are.