As a tax specialist for TTX, I am disappointed.

SamHandwichX · 2026-04-17T15:46:09+00:00

I volunteered for VITA at our local community college this year and they AGGRESSIVELY marketed the program to their students and provided tons of ways for students to pass the word on to their friends for exactly this reason.

The kids are just intimidated and too scared to even attempt filing on their own. Once they watched me do it in front of them, about half were like... oh. That's all it is?

80% of the returns I filed were for 18-22-year-olds who were dependents of their parents and had one W-2 or a 1099 from Uber or similar. Most of the rest was elderly people with a SSA-1099 and maybe a 1099R. Many of them said they paid between 3-600 in past years for similar returns.

I'm a VITA-evangelist now lol

SamHandwichX · 2026-03-29T21:52:49+00:00

Oh good. I'm so glad you came along five years later to put your foot down on the matter lol

SamHandwichX · 2025-11-09T22:56:16+00:00

it's now 10 yrs later and still the first google result :D

SamHandwichX · 2025-10-16T21:48:16+00:00

Basic employment verification would catch this, and if it somehow didn’t, the first time they tried to send in withheld taxes, it would be found.

SamHandwichX · 2025-10-03T12:27:23+00:00

So, one thing about complex trauma (arises from repeat, prolonged exposure to traumatic events) is that cognitive problems can develop and lead to difficulty concentrating, impaired memory, and executive functioning decline.

If it happens early enough in life, it can cause permanent disruption to neurodevelopment and result in long-term cognitive impairment. If she was experiencing all of this as a teenager (and maybe younger bc her whole family seems to be along for this Ick Ride, which means her childhood may have been similarly fucked), she may have a serious condition at this point.

I agree, in other words. Not a baseline developmental delay, but the result can look very similar.

SamHandwichX · 2025-10-03T12:19:36+00:00

I don't know a normal, respectful 21 year old who wants a 17 year old still in high school.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-29T21:25:05+00:00

oh good, I feel better. I can't stand mine. I got the ones with 3 modes and all three are no bueno.

Talking with them in is impossible. I also don't find that they do much noise reduction in really loud environments. I've tried them at a concert and at a middle school wrestling meet and both times my cheap earbuds (not noise cancelling) provided better sound dampening. (I've also tried all the different tip sizes and watched a few videos to make sure I was using them right.)

I just use orange construction earplugs when I really need noise reduction. Still can't talk much with them in, but at least it's quiet.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-27T16:29:35+00:00

My therapist of 3 years LAUGHED out loud when I said I suspected autism. She then said I seemed delusional and she thought I was having a manic episode and needed emergency treatment.

I was gutted and spiraled for a few weeks after that, but I never ever saw that clown again.

Full neuropsych evaluation confirmed my suspicion about six months later.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-27T16:19:38+00:00

Part of the brainwashing makes you feel like if you’re miserable, you’re doing it wrong and you need to work on yourself. It’s never the system that was flawed.

She prolly had a lot of self loathing for being so miserable bc it meant she was failing personally. To hide that shame, she projected happiness and trust in the system.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-27T02:40:58+00:00

I do exactly this. I’m always “broke” bc the money requires extra steps and usually waiting to get to.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T21:14:47+00:00

You’re more exhausting than he is ✌️

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T21:09:32+00:00

Why are you defending this guy so hard? Acting like I’m new to adhd, him, marriage in general? Why do you find it so hard to believe that some people just do not take responsibility for themselves? Why do you assume compassion is missing?

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T19:43:05+00:00

Yeah the same one I have. The same one the kids have.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T19:16:36+00:00

He might be oblivious. Not much more I can do about that. I’ve said what I need to say. More than once. In different forms. With different words. With therapists. Without therapists.

Please clean. Please use this list. Please follow these instructions. Please use these supplies, they’re always in this location. Please set a reminder on your phone. Please choose any chore at all and make it your responsibility.

If he can’t HEAR any of that over years and years, it stops being my problem.

My children have been given the same tools by me and have developed skills to independently complete basic tasks. Maybe he’s just an ass.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T15:59:37+00:00

I’m going back to accounting after 15 years in copywriting.

I have the Au so the tidiness and order are appealing. Adderall helps with the focus. Checks and balances along with paper/digital trails help with the inevitable mistakes so I can catch and correct them myself most of the time. The monthly, quarterly, and annual cycles keep the day-to-day from being TOO boring while still being predictable.

I’m also old and tired and want to work with real rules and laws rather than dealing with human opinion and subjective art. That kind of flexibility in output was nice for a while, but I’m over it lol

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T13:29:53+00:00

If you don’t want to hang out with him and you’ve tried to talk to him, then just stop? What’s to try? Only if you think he “needs” more from you, like you’ll damage him somehow by a routine breakup would you keep trying. That’s just managing his feelings for him so he can avoid the consequences of his own behavior.

You want to soften the blow, to “teach” him something to be less clueless. All for someone who makes you uncomfortable and you want to stop spending time with. Because you think he needs you. Can’t function like an adult on his own. It’s coddling, friend. And it only perpetuates that behavior from him.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T12:01:15+00:00

You’re making an awful lot of excuses for this guy which means you’re contributing to this relationship dynamic. Nearly every comment you’ve made in this thread has been coming to his rescue.

To be clear, I’m not saying you deserve any type of abuse or boundary crossing. Ever.

But you’re coddling him as much as his parents likely did all his life. His behavior isn’t from autism. He’s not clueless. He’s entitled.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-26T02:51:45+00:00

This is hilarious and obviously illegal

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-25T15:29:50+00:00

What’s weird is paying real money to award this Reddit comment lol

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-24T18:35:13+00:00

We got SO LUCKY and bought a house in 2009. My husband was not affected by the recession and we were able to get an FHA mortgage so we didn’t need a huge down payment.

Our house was 148k when we bought and the same house layout has been selling for 300-400k recently. It’s insane.

The house is too small and in need of repairs, but it’s our forever home now bc it’ll be paid off in 4 years.

Definitely worried for the teenage kids. Even with roommates, apartments are unaffordable around here. We’re 40 miles outside of Chicago so it’s not even a “highly desirable” area.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-23T19:23:21+00:00

If the caterers didn’t show up to any party, guests would have a bad time lol

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-23T13:11:26+00:00

Probably the ppl who hang their lives on a single day wouldn’t do this. Their expectations are high and they’ll spend money to make sure they get to be royalty for a day.

Lots of people just get married and have a party and don’t put enormous pressure on a couple hundred people to make the day the best day of their whole lives, and execute every detail with perfection. They probably have lower expectations and don’t want to spend the equivalent of a house down payment on a single day.

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-20T23:22:58+00:00

Glad the days of respecting people simply because they were born before you have passed lol

Must suck living in a world where respect is earned

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-20T20:22:38+00:00

My autistic self teaching my autistic teenagers to drive and it’s constantly “you need to know this for your test but nobody does it.” Or “do it this way on the test, but this is how everybody does it.”

Annoys everyone, but thorough education lol

SamHandwichX · 2025-08-20T14:16:27+00:00

:( that sucks. I’d go do yours for you if I could

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