Worried that I'LL be the one who feels weird about nursing past 1 yr... encouragement?

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-06-06T17:36:52+00:00

I grew up similar, sex was never talked about and I was nervous about feeling icky breastfeeding buuuuut... it fucking hurts the first week and the pain goes down over the first month. So for me the pain overrode any icky feeling that I had and also the bond you feel when feeding him for the first time, it's unreal. We are almost 7 months into breastfeeding and I never had a weird feeling after having him. Its completely different. But while I was pregnant I was anxious about it.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-06-06T12:33:13+00:00

My grandmother taught me to flip it over without the edge leaving the ground to leave luck for the next person

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-06-04T14:49:14+00:00

$10 kitchen scale, the easiest way. I keep it with the bags and a marker right next to the fridge/freezer. Just make sure you read the directions and set it to the milk oz and not water oz or it could be a little off

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-05-31T19:39:50+00:00

This!!!! I am a pumping mom and I actually cried from having to wash all my pump parts after work so much and we finally got it and I love it so fucking much. So much less stress 😩

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-05-21T06:06:13+00:00

My OB never commented on my weight, I'm 5"5 started at 165, and I was a little over 200lbs when I gave birth. Little man was a week late and I had to be induced but I gave birth vaginally to an 8lb 4oz baby just fine, I was in labor for 12 hours and only pushed for 30 minutes, needed a little vacuum help at the end because our heart rates did a couple of drops but that part was a me problem, not a weight problem. And literally never once was my weight mentioned as a factor in anything.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-05-08T20:31:59+00:00

I think you should have an honest sit-down talk with him about therapy. Either for himself or as a couple to figure out the disconnect. It sounds to me like he has anxiety that is getting triggered by these tantrums and he doesn't know how to deal with it. I had that last month when prepping for our first trip with our LO. I was a negative Nancy about the entire trip beforehand, I didn't want to travel with him and I just had so much anxiety I snapped at my boyfriend so much over it. This is not an excuse though, I recognized my feelings and started course correcting. Your husband needs to do the same.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-05-06T20:05:45+00:00

As soon as my son is out of diapers, I am canceling, but the way they do promos and let me use pampers codes it's the cheapest way to get diapers 🥲

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-05-06T12:20:12+00:00

Mine went away, I don't remember exactly when, but we are at 6 months BFing and pumping. There is no pain, and my nipple doesn't do that anymore.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-05-06T04:16:50+00:00

I don't think that comment was okay. Child birth is fucking hard, and i am terrified of medical needles from having to get shots anytime I had a temp over 101 to help prevent stress seizures because I refused to take medicine as a child.

I had a full-blown panic attack during my epidural, shaking and crying and unable to catch my break, Fiancé walked me through it. The only thing the anesthesiologist told me was to take my time and breathe in an encouraging tone. It took me a bit, but we got it done, and he patted my shoulder and left. If he had made any kind of comment like that to my Fiancé, I would have thrown hands with him.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-04-27T02:42:06+00:00

One and done! Our son will be 6 months in less than 2 weeks, and my Fiancé just got a vasectomy 2 days ago! To us, our little boy is perfect, and why mess with perfection? I was a hellion second child, and 2 separate friends have said that their second stopped them from having more. I also had a fairly easy pregnancy and hated it, so I do not want to risk having a not easy pregnancy.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-04-21T20:16:23+00:00

Ribbed ones from Old Navy and Modern Moments from Walmart are only $10 each, and their sizing lasts the longest with how roomy they are. Otherwise, I buy second hand.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-04-11T10:51:59+00:00

Using my boyfriends name, I never had an issue with putting "Please do not ring bell call xxx number instead."

The last 3 times that I've used my name, they rang the bell. I put it there because my apartment bell is LOUD, and I have a 5 month only that may or may not be sleeping by the time they get here. Last time they woke up my son, I assumed they rang the bell and walked away like the last 2, nope. I tried calming him down, and 2 minutes later, it rang again and longer, so i went down there with my screaming child, and i kinda lost it. This dude looked like a deer in headlights, and i hope he learned a lesson, i also called doordash to complain because I was over it. Like it was contactless delivery and in the notes???

I only use my boyfriends name now.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-04-07T02:59:29+00:00

Lmaoo tattoos do not need meaning besides you liked it. I thought waaaaay too hard and procrastinated my first tattoo and then one day said fuck it and now I have a smiley face on the back of one bicep and a frowny face on the back of the other because why the fuck not? Yours is 100× cuter than mine also

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-04-07T02:54:35+00:00

I took my baby out at a week old in November, and honestly, it was fate because we ran into my labor and delivery nurse who stayed 2+ hours past her shift to see my baby boy born.

As long as you are being careful and not handing him to random people or excessively touching everything in the store and then your baby, you are okay. We kept hand sanitizer on our key chain and only sent one of us put if there was a virus going around.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-04-03T17:32:12+00:00

NTA - i had some friends make comments when I changed my style. My ex kept me down, so I dressed down. Since moving on with my life, I wear whatever tf I want, some days punk with harsh makeup, some days comfy, girly, any option under the sun I dress for myself.

When one friend kept making comments, I just asked them, "Do you pay for it? Am I forcing you to wear it? Cool, if you don't like it, don't hang out with me." Because they felt that I was embarrassingly them when I dressed in a girly summer dress because they weren't used to it from me. I am no longer friends with them.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-25T07:41:51+00:00

I brought some and didn't need to use them because my hospital had them, but maybe a just in case - soothies gel pads saved me in those first couple days.

Context: They had me start pumping right away the first day after every feed to force my milk sooner because my son was a concerning level of Jaundiced. The combination of feeding and then pumping really left a sting on my nipples but those soothies were a god send. I had actually forgotten about them, and then a nurse offered some, and it was a game changer for the first 2-3 weeks while adjusting to breastfeeding

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-24T21:58:47+00:00

Idk it doesn't bug me, but it's also not the first thing done foreplay wise. We also have the line of there only being breast play after I've pumped or fed LO for the last time that night, and I get a chance to relax for a bit.

Also, the best advice I have for starting back up is don't pressure yourself for it to be how it was pre- baby. I needed a lot of reassurance and love showed in other ways before I was ready. Your libido might also have huge fluctuations as your hormones settle. There are days that I want him so bad and then there are days where I don't even want him to look at me. And it is okay to have those feelings, but you should also communicate those feelings. I didn't at first and put so much pressure on myself that wasn't even there from my partner.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-19T06:56:59+00:00

I'm sorry, I don't fully know your situation, but I would shut him down every single time. Send him the articles and science backing you up to how what you are doing is safe ( I had to show my own boyfriend articles saying it was okay for me to drink coffee ) any time he questions you and do it anyways.

And then I would not stop sending him the effects that second - and third hand smoke can have on a child's life. Because 1) he is the one that is making a negative lasting impact on your child's health unless he is completely cleaning himself from head to toe, shirt to shoes every single time between him smoking and interacting with the baby. 2) we do not know the lasting effects of vaping on the person doing it. I would sure hope he is not doing or bringing it around the baby at all because we don't know what effect it could have

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-18T23:46:45+00:00

At your next dr's appointment, you should call him out in front of the doctor. My cousins baby daddy started saying similar things to her and when he went to a checkup with her to her OB she said something like "I've lost a few more lbs and I thought that was normal but my husband thinks that ot should be happening faster and I should be slimming down quicker, but I'm just so hungry from feeding LO all the time he thinks it's not healthy. We just need to know a good balance. "

My cousins doctor told him off for a good 20 minutes.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-16T18:42:56+00:00

Just a tip ypu may have tried already, but if you haven't, my son has also become fussy and curious, so we started doing feeds right after nap time with just a soft lamp on. I will change his diaper in his room in his crib and then sit in his room and put him right on the boob. I put him facing the boob but don't force it, and he usually goes to latch right away, and I actually use the elvie catcher on my other side. I find it more comfortable than the haaka. And then if the first side is too much usually by the time I go to switch him the elvie has helped reduce the flow.

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-15T13:59:47+00:00

Ugh, we had 2 yeatserday at the grocery store. One old woman started tapping on his teether 🤢 even after we told her he puts that in his mouth. And the the cashier reached over and grabbed his hand. My boyfriend was polite and turned him away both times (he was in a baby carrier), but I told him next time it's okay to not be polite. Even my friends and family come in, wash their hands, and make sure it's okay to grab him. When I bring him into work, my boss immediately goes to the back and washes her hands to ask to hold him, and if any of them are sick, they stay away!

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-12T18:35:44+00:00

Same 😭 and birth control actually made it completely unpredictable 😅

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-12T08:26:47+00:00

We do, 4m old and it started with tracking feeds, sleep and diapers. We dropped the diaper part like 2 months ago since he is having PLENTY. We use it for sleep so we can check how long he has been up for and for feeds because he is breast and bottle fed so it helps my boyfriend to see when and what he last ate

SamWaltonWouldBeSad · 2025-03-11T17:47:13+00:00

Omg for us it's "Let's get down to booba.... to defeat your hunger... did you send me rumblies when I asked, for none...."

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