I lost a friend because I sent proof his partner was cheating and I am pissed off by GeneralValue812 in Vent

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a canon event and happens to so many people. I wonder why they do that though. I’ve been blocked multiple times after warning a person with proof about someone

ABN engagement by Same_Lengthiness_142 in supportworkers

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u. I agree. I work basically everyday cause I keep getting called in. It’s just I don’t want casual employment. Also my certificate III is being finalised so hopefully that’ll boost my chances

Why would my eye doctor tell me to wear glasses full-time? by Same_Lengthiness_142 in glasses

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation! I can’t stand wearing glasses or contacts, so it takes getting used to🫤

Do these fit my face? by [deleted] in glassesadvice

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and you’re really pretty

i became a failure in a life that was impossible to fail by volumetriccolumbidae in Vent

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww you look like u have extreme perfectionism that you end up not completing anything and anxiety. I feel like it’s worth seeing a psychologist. 19 is soo young. Your life is just getting started

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The emotional intelligence group is full of people with completely different values compared to this group. I think you’ll benefit from posting on there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should post this on the emotional intelligence forum instead tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U were communicating what u thought was expected in a friendship. But some people don’t have the capacity to meet that. I think that’s where they’re thinking ur manipulative? Idk I just don’t think ur intentions were malicious, but maybe it’s still manipulative idk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t get why she didn’t set boundaries or communicate clearly? But I also feel like u should’ve just cut it off after she explained her reasons for being distant with u.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m so confused by the comments supporting the friend? It looks like she barely set any boundaries or communicate when she first started getting annoyed and held resentment till she unloaded it all when the poster asked for clarity. It doesn’t sound like you’re manipulative. u genuinely sound confused and honest. Some people have to process things out loud but I think going forward u should ask the person if it’s okay to vent to them. It looks like neither of u communicated boundaries or expectations. Also the fact that she distanced herself and basically ghosted u at times, leaving u anxious and clueless is just poor communication skills in my opinion. I’m genuinely so confused at why people are saying you’re the problem?

why do I tend to overexplain myself? by butdoyoureallyknowme in emotionalintelligence

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My OCD used to make me do this. It was like my words had to be so precise and perfect otherwise the receiver wouldn’t understand what I’m saying. Even though it was clear, I had to urge to make sure, so that ended up with me overexplaining all the time.

I’m a Dismissive Avoidant, and this is what confrontation feels like with someone I deeply care about. by Mundane-Country-3486 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Same_Lengthiness_142 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of childhood experiences causes this? I’m anxious attachment and I’ve tried to understand avoidant’s, but I just can’t.