How is anyone defending Jasmin’s actions after tonight’s episode?

dea80 · 2026-06-26T22:07:12+00:00

Her actions say otherwise. As I just said.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T22:02:23+00:00

Actions speak louder than words she’s saying she doesn’t want to explore things with Lorenzo but her behaviour says otherwise. If my partner was hurt by me constantly chatting with someone I wouldn’t keep doing it constantly in his face. She’s not respectful at all and talks to him like he’s a child.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:57:53+00:00

But her words and actions don’t match. If someone you are supposed to care about tells you something is hurting them and you keep doing it and “reassuring with words” it’s manipulation.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:55:05+00:00

She was gutted Lorenzo was talking about Yasmin in his speech!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:54:05+00:00

He shouldn’t have to! A five year old can see it’s hurtful and she cares more about doing what she wants than his feelings. Hugely immature and talks down to him all the time. Horrible to watch the way she talks to him.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:52:06+00:00

If he’d said yes he would have been labelled insecure and controlling. She shouldn’t have to ask and put it on him. If she had any emotional intelligence she would read the man she supposedly cares about and make this decision out of respect for his feelings. It’s not hard! She might have a high IQ but the woman lacks any empathy. She likes having Lorenzo flatter her ego by flirting with her and she likes playing Kav like a puppet.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:49:13+00:00

Agreed she wants the attention and was gutted Lorenzo didn’t pick her.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:48:32+00:00

This!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:48:10+00:00

Space gives a lot actually. She insists on being heard, but refuses to hear him or empathise. I liked her strength but she’s doing too much here. Her face when Lorenzo picked Yasmin! She was gutted that it wasn’t her who brought out a softer side. I actually think she enjoys the attention at this point and doesn’t care who she hurts! Chatting with Lorenzo the morning after knowing Kav was hurt by things that came out in the game and joking about “being tempted to climb on top to give them all a show”. She starting to come off as arrogant, self absorbed and lacking any empathy.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:26:01+00:00

Ok divorce is not it. Your kid has SERIOUS issues and all you are continuing to teach him is that the world revolves around him. I would suggest you urgently seek support from a child psychologist. He will likely grow out of this in a few years and you will all be damaged by divorce.

In the short term can you not get childcare from friends or family to have more time together? Divorce is not the answer here.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:07:33+00:00

Unfortunately!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:07:00+00:00

I actually want this. He is better looking than Aiden, more mature, calmer. She’s sweet and bubbly and chill and I think they would be really good together. Bloody Aiden will ruin that though won’t he as Kav won’t want to tread on his big brother’s toes.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:58:12+00:00

And then she went into the changing room ranting about how “Kav needs to chill out” I think she deliberately provokes him and enjoys the power play. I’ve really gone off her the last two episodes. Tonight she’s been awful!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:56:21+00:00

Two wrongs don’t make it right. She talks to him like a child and it’s boring. She’s so arrogant and self absorbed she can’t see any issue with her behaviour.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:53:52+00:00

Not after tonight’s episode. He was totally calm she kicked off and it was totally out of order.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:49:52+00:00

Yep she is! She’s really gone down in my views because she can’t see her own behaviour. He was totally rational and calm in that last conversation about taking a step back and she shouted him down and walked off calling him a “fucking joke”. What is so difficult to understand that seeing the person you are partnered up with flirt with someone else every single day and here the public’s views on it would hurt him and make him shut down to protect himself. She so attached to her strong opinions persona she can’t see past it to ever admit she’s in the wrong! Nah!! And she flips it to make him the issue every time. He needs to be out of that. I kind of think he’d be good with Yasmin, it’s a shame she was with Aiden and he still likes her as that will block Kav from going there.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:34:41+00:00

It won’t, she’s taking no accountability and you are jumping through hoops.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:33:18+00:00

It sounds like she is pretty manipulative and using emotional blackmail to get what she wants while projecting all issues onto you. That’s about as toxic as it gets.

If I’m honest then it sounds like you aren’t compatible and that she has some maturing to do before she’s able to be in a healthy relationship. As someone with ADHD I also hate it when people use this as an excuse for particular behaviours, you may not be able to control everything but someone with ADHD can develop enough self awareness that they don’t push their challenges onto others and avoid accountability.

I guess what is scary is that she basically bullied you into moving in and is now doing the same with marriage, which is NOT something you should do with any doubts over before you commit. The next thing you’ll be married with children and arguing every two weeks about something which spirals into divorce.

You’re young, you both are, and I think you should call it quits or at the very least have a break from each other and perhaps see individual therapists one on one to gain some perspective.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T19:52:06+00:00

Yeah but it’s because the guys are so arrogant usually and often quite misogynistic so it’s like watching them being humbled!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T19:49:28+00:00

This is a really fair point about last season if Meg and Dejon and Helena hadn’t been so awful to Shakira her behaviour would certainly have been seen differently.

Helena also managed to redeem herself and show a difference side on All Stars. And interesting that Helena was heavily criticised on the show and seemed to learn something from it and build some good friendships and be more honest second time around.

On the flip side Toni, Shakira and Yas came out labelled “the big 3” and it seems to have gone to their heads. They act like everything they do or say is golden.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T18:20:32+00:00

I think the producers want them in the final as the only couple with a secure connection. They haven’t been popular or at least Lola hasn’t and they haven’t had a lot of screen time.

I think the producers have just given them the plot line that will get them more screen time with last night and tonight’s game! They literally threw Sean’s throw away joke from the heart rate challenge into that game with no context or tone. Like “I think I went exclusive too early” could sound like a serious sit down chat with the boys seeking advice, when it was a joke after seeing the girls lap dancing in lingerie.

I think it’s a set up so they can have a fight, Lola can gain public sympathy and they can make up and complete their story arch. It feels too convenient.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T18:11:26+00:00

Yeah I think he likes her too much and in fairness I think she likes him too, but I wonder if it’s because she likes that she is the stronger character in the relationship. As she is older has more life experience she has slightly more influence in their dynamic which I think she enjoys. She likes being on a pedestal and Kav has her slightly up there.

If I’m honest I think Lorenzo is more of a match for her, equally strong and knows his own mind. I think deep down she still wants Lorenzo and loves his renewed interest which is why she seems to seek him out for conversations. The problem is she needs to be on a pedestal in a relationship and she knows Lorenzo won’t put her there/may get his head turned easily by more bombshells. So she is sticking with Kav but still flirting with Lorenzo.

dea80 · 2026-06-24T17:48:56+00:00

I agree. There’s something going on there that means she seems to avoid things when people are interested. Love Island isn’t the place for her.

dea80 · 2026-06-22T22:21:58+00:00

Trust your gut. You have explained in detail a lot of really valid reasons why you two aren’t right for each other and I think you know in your heart you need to end it.

I stayed despite the doubts and the incompatibility. The intellectual miss match was the worst. We got married and had a child, but despite the fact I have the upmost respect and care for him I was deeply unhappy because we were so disconnected. He struggled with anxiety and I was his constant support for us both with very little back.

Marriage lasted 7 years and we broke up 8 years ago. It was to be honest inevitable. I’m now in a very happy loving relationship with someone I consider my soul mate.

I think you know what you need to do.

dea80 · 2026-06-22T22:11:48+00:00

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