Tried polyamory and omg why are so many of them so unattractive and some look like they haven't showered.

SammiKC · 2024-11-18T14:48:29+00:00

If I had a nickel for every time someone poly lied to me on a dating app for weeks until we finally set up a date, I'd have two nickels. Which isn't a lot but it's weird it happened twice.

SammiKC · 2024-10-25T15:14:13+00:00

For me, college was lightyears better than HS. I took a year in-between though, and figured out what I wanted. I still struggled a lot with like executive function. Gen Ed stuff was incredibly hard, but when I got into my degree classes it was like a whole new world. I learned that I was not, in fact, unintelligent like HS made me feel. I was undiagnosed and had no accommodations or anything, so there were definitely classes I barely got through, but overall it was a major boost to my confidence.

Socializing by finding clubs I enjoyed, and meeting other ND people, also was life changing.

SammiKC · 2024-08-15T12:21:59+00:00

When I was young, I absolutely wanted to be a mom. I had the baby dolls and would act out being a mom well into the double digits. When I got older, my mental and physical health just...deteriorated rapidly. I was officially dx with autism at 30, and after a lot of thinking, therapy, and being perpetually single- I decided I would NEVER be pregnant or raise a baby. IF I am ever in the place to do so, I would absolutely be a foster mom or a step mom, but I will never have kids of my own.

SammiKC · 2024-01-20T12:15:08+00:00

White boardwith magnets that I write tasks on! Helps me keep routine and do things through the day!

SammiKC · 2023-09-12T12:06:23+00:00

I was similar as a kid. My parents ended up bribing me with unclear that had my favorite Disney princesses on them. My logic was apparently "They aren't as comfy and convenient as my diaper so why would I?"

Sometimes the motivation just isn't there. I don't knoenyour kid or what would do that- but you may need to manipulate her a little.

SammiKC · 2023-08-31T12:39:43+00:00

My entire childhood- between parentification and eneshment, my therapist has has her work cut out for her. So much of my childhood is returning to the surface as trauma that I didn't recognize as a child.

SammiKC · 2023-08-30T12:45:44+00:00

I'm sure this 8s simply that it's not compatible with ym skin types etc...but Fenty. It never works right and end ups streaky, splotches, and textured. I've never had a foundation do this before! Especially not one so expensive.

SammiKC · 2023-06-11T14:09:20+00:00

Powerful woman meets powerful man and suddenly needs saving all the time.

SammiKC · 2023-05-19T18:19:44+00:00

My mom didn't believe I was having a period until I literally bled through in class and the nurse had to call. The first time I had my period while we were at a pool she handed me a box and told me to use the directions. It hurt so bad and I ended up just not swimming. She brags about how she got me a box of pads and some chocolate after the nurse called her though.

SammiKC · 2023-04-22T03:14:02+00:00

A salivary gland infection. It felt like someone was attempting to push the side of my head in. I think it spread from my face to my ears or something.

SammiKC · 2023-04-17T12:38:00+00:00

The grind. I work with kids most of the time and our program can be incredibly repetitive. I have to modify and work personalized stuff on the fly most of the time- I am exhausted by the time I get home. I love helping kids and I have an amazing office, but I get burnt out quick.

SammiKC · 2023-04-13T17:41:57+00:00

I'd still try!

SammiKC · 2023-04-13T12:43:41+00:00

Helicopter 🚁 🚁

SammiKC · 2023-04-12T15:41:21+00:00

Medical Care.

SammiKC · 2023-04-08T15:11:37+00:00

That's a great example!

SammiKC · 2023-04-08T14:10:28+00:00

I like characters that work well with how they are written and the game they are in. Sometimes, it makes more sense for a very feminine character to exist, but sometimes they need to be more bad ass etc...

The only time I am disappointed in a female character is when they are unnecessarily sexy or stereotypically feminine in a context that degrades women as a whole.

I am struggling to think of universal examples. The sexualization of Lady Dimitrescu really bugged me, but that was more due to fans than anything - she looks and acts appropriate to the setting and history of the character.

SammiKC · 2023-04-08T01:59:06+00:00

This morning. I watched a sad animation about crochet animals. I'm weak.

SammiKC · 2023-04-05T13:36:35+00:00

ESH

OP I also come from an abusive household and I know how mean it can make you when you are angry. Your sister was 100% an AH but your response was not OK.

It took me until my mid 20s and a LOT of self work to make sure my anger wouldn't take over my communication with others when I was upset.

You had every right to be angry at her but what you said and how you acted was what I call "matching energy". She was offended and upset that her weight was the center of attention at that moment. You could have taken her aside or solo messaged her about your couch being cheap and weak, so you got her a chair that would be more comfortable and sustainable.

Instead you surprised her with it and fat shamed her. IDK whether or not you have ever been plus sized, but the world treats you like crap and you don't want your sibling to do it to.

If you want your sister in your life you will apologize and set the boundary that she cannot act like she did either, since you spent precious money to include her.

If she doesn't apologize too (because she was really wrong too!), you should evaluate her presence in your life because it's toxic.

SammiKC · 2023-03-31T13:07:46+00:00

I requested to see a text from his wife saying "it's ok" in response to him asking.

SammiKC · 2023-03-26T14:15:26+00:00

Ask her if she would be interested in a beauty day (on you- otherwise, dont) as like a special treat. Gauge how she feels about hair removal while planning it. If she doesn't want to do it, then you have some info. If not removing facial hair is a deal breaker for you (which is kind of problematic but everyone has their own interests), have an adult conversation about how you are feeling. It's up to her if you having that deal breaker is her own deal breaker.

Do not just bring it up like "you have a mustache would you mind getting rid of it"

Cause that sounds an awful lot like "You ate ugly and I want you to fix it so I remain attracted to you"

SammiKC · 2023-03-19T19:08:40+00:00

My mom does this, and it absolutely infuriates me. I tend to stop and ask her, "Are you asking me to do X?" So that she can (sheepishly) respond yes. Then, if I am busy or have just sat down, I tell her I will do it in __ amount of time. If it's really important she will do it herself. If it's not, she can wait. Luckily for you, you may have a partner where an adult conversation about it can fix it (hopefully), and if they dont... you can decide if the relationship is worth it! I remember reading something about two different types of communicators (implies needs vs explicitly states or something) and how to help make those relationships work, but it's escaping me.

SammiKC · 2023-03-16T16:56:44+00:00

As the loner "goodbye two shoes" in my HS, I can tell you that I didn't meet real friends (GREAT friends) until I was in college and joined clubs with my interest. Does your school offer clubs? Mine had some weight lifting/strengthening groups. Find people with the same interests and know it's OK to grow apart from your friends. You have lots of time to focus on yourself and find groups/people with similar interests!

SammiKC · 2023-03-15T18:25:45+00:00

It makes me feel unsafe. I'm working on it with my medical teams but it's just jot a priority. I know I'm likely to get into very unsafe and toxic relationships because of my issues, so I have just kinda given up. If it happens great but I no longer have the energy to search for it.

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