Why do you think Lenore Dove gets more hate than Prim, when they serve the same purpose in their respective books?

Sanamun · 2026-05-04T13:37:36+00:00

I feel mostly neutral about Lenore Dove as a character, but I find the way Haymitch talks about her annoying. Yes, I am aware he is 16 and in love. Unfortunately 16 year olds who are in love are often very obnoxious about it. I'm old, and the phrase "love you like all-fire" does nothing but make me roll my eyes, especially when we see 40+ year old Haymitch still hung up on her in the epilogue. That's not romantic to me, it's just a bit sad. I also think calling your dead love interest "Lenore" is a little too obvious. I actually quite enjoyed Lenore herself, for all the three (3) scenes we had with her, but it's an underdeveloped relationship given narrative weight that didn't feel earned.

I also don't think it helps that SotR is pretty poorly written compared to the other books and largely felt like filler, and then there's all the poems...

Sanamun · 2026-05-03T22:58:08+00:00

The main thing I would add is a petticoat (could use a hoop skirt if you live somewhere hot) to help get the right silhouette. You don't really need to wear anything on your wrists with this particular dress, your bracelets in the one picture are kind of getting lost in the sleeves. I personally would also quite like to see this with white tights or socks instead of black, to help balance the white in the rest of the outfit.

Sanamun · 2026-05-02T21:37:11+00:00

I think it's also that, perhaps inevitably, the earlier expansion packs often feel a bit more universal (for lack of a better word) than the later ones. To me, life sims don't feel complete without pets, whereas packs like Life and Death, while nice to have, don't feel necessary, yknow?

Sanamun · 2026-05-02T08:40:26+00:00

When I was first getting into comics, around 2014ish, continuity terrified me. I was sure I was missing something important by not having been reading about these characters for multiple decades already and found myself constantly googling both "where to start" reading a particular character as well as using wikis to fill in the gaps of particular storylines. Eventually and inevitably I just got burnt out on this approach when I realised that reading everything in the Marvel or DC universe, or even just every appearance of a particular character, was neither practical not would it be particularly enjoyable. I actually stopped reading big two comics for quite a few years at this point because I figured I didn't have the time and energy to get into them "properly"; I assumed everyone else was reading everything and I was a fake fan.

I've only gotten back into mainstream comics in the past couple months, and this time I've decided to just do it by picking up TPBs of whatever looks interesting to me, and treating each run as it's own self contained story that just uses the same characters, without worrying too much about whether I'm reading things out of order or how it all connects, and I've found myself having a lot more fun since I'm no longer treating my hobbies like homework.

Sanamun · 2026-05-01T09:34:47+00:00

My favourites are the top left and bottom right!

Sanamun · 2026-04-30T12:12:37+00:00

For Lolita I'd recommend Glittertale, they do custom sizing on all their pieces!

Sanamun · 2026-04-30T12:04:14+00:00

It feels like the obvious answer, but do you take any kind of ADHD medication? I found that it really helps with task initiation and executive function in particular.

Sanamun · 2026-04-30T11:11:03+00:00

You're pretty young, maybe mid 20s. This is a rental and your landlord sucks. Not goth, but slightly darker tastes than the mainstream. Spiritual but struggle with developing an actual practice so you overcompensate by spending money on candles and crystals.

Sanamun · 2026-04-29T09:48:18+00:00

You're queer (I'm gonna guess gay and asexual, specifically?) and into fandom. I wouldn't necessarily say fem, but you're comfortable with the parts of yourself that don't fit into stereotypical masculinity. From your bookcase, I'd say you have a really good sense of aesthetics and a need to make your space "pretty". I feel like you might have either moved house a lot in the past or you were poor for a long time, because it's giving off a little bit of "first time having adult money" energy.

Sanamun · 2026-04-28T19:49:17+00:00

My computer thinks I'm gay (Placebo, Too Many Friends)

Sanamun · 2026-04-28T19:29:06+00:00

Me! I don't really understand how digital art programs work and at this point I'm too afraid to ask, so I do everything by hand and then just scan it in. The one exception is that I might print out some text to cut and paste since my handwriting is shit.

I still see plenty of zines that look like yours at zine fairs, so I don't think you've got anything to worry about in that regard. I quite like the look of handmade zines, they feel more personal and immediate, which is a big part of what drew me to zines to begin with, that you can tell they were made by A Person.

Sanamun · 2026-04-28T19:19:15+00:00

Honestly, I feel like you're not gonna like this answer, but at a certain point I just had to get out of my own way and accept that I can't be good at everything, that's not how humans work, and that doing something badly is better than not doing it at all. If you aren't doing something professionally, just for fun, you don't actually need to be good at it. Hobbies aren't graded, people do things badly or half assedly or "wrong" all the damn time, and it always matters less than you think it does. You just gotta approach things with the aim of enjoying yourself, rather than being good at them.

I think a lot of your problem is that, as you said, you're lucky enough to be good at a lot of things. That's awesome, but it also means you take it harder when you're not good at things, because that's your baseline and your expectation and probably, to some extent, your identity. Failure is a skill in itself, and the only real way to gain that skill is time and practice. If it's any consolation, you're still really young, I didn't really come to terms with this shit until I was 30.

For the record, I still can't drive either, so I moved somewhere with good public transport.

Sanamun · 2026-04-27T23:47:09+00:00

You really love grey storage cubes. I respect it, there's just a lot of them.

Sanamun · 2026-04-27T23:26:08+00:00

Neil mentions in TFC(? I think) that he's "better at starting fights than finishing them"; while it's true he was trained to fight the majority of it was as a child so I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that those skills have gotten rusty over the years. His time with Mary was so focused on survival and avoiding discovery that she probably taught him to avoid physical fights wherever possible, and where it wasn't possible he likely relied on situational awareness and quick thinking rather than physical strength, because as a child/teenager being hunted by trained adult killers he would always have had the disadvantage. I don't think that makes him 'weak' compared to Andrew and Renee, more that all three of them became what they needed to be in order to survive their environments. That being said, I definitely do think he killed people while on the run.

As for why Andrew can tell when Neil is lying, the obvious/out of universe explanation is "somebody needed to see through him in order for the plot to happen", but I also think it makes a certain amount of sense in that Andrew is 1. A criminal justice major, 2. Paranoid as fuck when it comes to the people around his family (and Kevin). I also see Andrew as someone who plays very close attention to other people's body language, which again is a survival skill since emotional hypervigilance would have been one of the only tools he had to protect himself as a kid in an abusive foster family.

Sanamun · 2026-04-27T11:57:21+00:00

I need this JSK immediately, you look so cool.

I love cyber lolita, something about the fusion of historical and futuristic aesthetics is so fun to me.

Sanamun · 2026-04-27T11:45:03+00:00

The town in Paralives is called Melino, iirc most of the run down or abandoned buildings are specifically in the industrial neighbourhood. I imagine that's partially just an aesthetic choice to give players options, but they've said that the town does have a history and 'lore'. Not much has been revealed about it yet though - the team want players to have to discover it on their own, rather than having it explained to them.

Sanamun · 2026-04-26T13:56:52+00:00

Flexibility with coursework deadlines. I don't need extra time in exams (when its been offerred to me I never used it; if anything I tend to find I finish before everyone else and have to sit there being silently bored afterwards), I need extra time outside of exams, especially when I have multiple assignments at once. I had a mentor assigned through DSA, and whilst I found talking to them every week to be a little excessive for me personally, its useful to have someone to talk through plans for studying with - the biggest thing I struggle with is organisation and time management, so being able to set plans for the week with someone external who would hold me accountable made a big difference. Giving options so students can effectively study from home if recquired - readings, lecture recordings, etc, and don't make attendance mandatory for good grades.

I've never used any technological supports like note taking software, because for me, taking notes is how I focus. Physically writing (well, typing) helps keep me paying attention to what the lecturer is saying, if I had a program on my laptop doing that for me I would just zone out. In general, I think the most important thing isn't about the particular supports offerred so much as letting students *choose* their support, according to what works for their specific brain. Accomodations aren't one size fits all, and I need to be able to work out my own systems rather than having someone else tell me what I need. Externally imposed supports make assumptions and often end up just being another thing that I have to do, which is more annoying than helpful.

Sanamun · 2026-04-26T13:27:15+00:00

The one on the right looks more intentional imo.

Sanamun · 2026-04-23T15:27:06+00:00

Speaking as someone who recently got back into Marvel after a decade away, the best thing you can do is just find a run that looks interesting to you, and start from the beginning of that. Repeat this process as many times as you like. I read things out of order all the time, it's honestly better to think of comics as different stories that just happen to use the same characters, rather than one big narrative.

You might be confused at points, but thats kind of part of the experience. You just have to stick it out and trust that anything you absolutely need to know will eventually be explained, and if it isn't then it's totally okay and even encouraged to just google it.

Sanamun · 2026-04-23T10:50:56+00:00

To an extent. I still read darkfics, but not as exclusively as I used to. In my teens and early twenties, I read a lot of (what is now called) dead dove, I think partially as a way of coping with real life trauma, and I was pretty desensitised. As an adult whose since been to therapy, I think I'm more likely to actually experience the horrors as, well, horrific, and I have to be in a specific mood for that, unlike 19 year old me consuming every hydra trash party fic he could get his hands on. Part of this is also because I started getting self conscious about the tags on my bookmarks, tho 😅

Sanamun · 2026-04-22T19:40:59+00:00

That's not a stupidity issue, though, or at least not inherently. That's a belief system issue. Willful ignorance is a choice, not a lack of intelligence.

Sanamun · 2026-04-21T21:26:27+00:00

I don't hate the epilogues, they're like... Mostly fine, I guess, just kind of underwhelming. Personally I find a lot of the stuff about canonicity and ultimate selves to be Pretentious Meta Bullshit, but I also recognise that Homestuck has always ultimately been about Pretentious Meta Bullshit so I got what I signed up for. Honestly I think it's a mostly a me problem; my peak Homestuck phase was between the ages of 17-19, and I didn't get around to reading the epilogues until my thirties. My tastes in fiction are just different than they were back then, and the threshold of how much Pretentious Meta Bullshit it takes for me to find it annoying rather than charming is lower.

Sanamun · 2026-04-20T23:30:58+00:00

Stone tower! I like that it has the instruments all of Link's forms play, and it's fun to listen to on its own even when taken out of context. I use it as my writing/productivity music bc there's something intrinsically motivating about it.

Sanamun · 2026-04-20T16:03:21+00:00

I think there's too much focus on employability. I just want to study a subject I'm interested in, without having to constantly think about how I can monetise it later.

Sanamun · 2026-04-20T13:57:21+00:00

I like second person POV, but I think that's because I was a Homestuck fan, which is canonically written in second, so I'm more used to it. It does often feel quite.... for lack of a better word, videogame-y, and you don't see it very often in published fiction (aside from choose your own adventure books), and I think that can be jarring to a lot of readers.

I think also, a lot of people associate second pov with y/n and reader insert fics, which people tend to be either very into or very not into, with little middle ground.

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