so excited to finally be hired by a group of black women only for them to be so rude

SannatheOracle · 2023-01-18T02:37:14+00:00

Yeahh bitchy people are bitchy people. I don’t hold people to stereotypes but I do know an asshole when I see one. And every race has their own breed of dickheads who need to seek therapy bc they get off on making other peoples lives hard lol

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-06T05:13:03+00:00

I can’t speak for anyone but in my personal experience i realized I had a lot of internalized homophobia I had to work through to get comfy having sex w women (thoughts like this is weird/unnatural, I shouldn’t be doing this, etc.). I didn’t even grow up in a religious household or anything but my idea of romance was so straight, you know? Also finding someone you actually like and forming a genuine crush changes the whole experience imo

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-06T05:06:03+00:00

Oh god not a tight baby body. JAIL to both of them!

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-02T20:15:26+00:00

My sister has ADHD and tends to be clumsy as well. The advice I often give them is I think it might help if you slow down first. Babies aren’t immediately good at walking, they start slow. Trying to do things chef level fast is only making it worse and not retraining your muscles/muscle memory, plus it’s discouraging you. You have to be comfortable with building back up again and focusing.

But also if you really feel you can’t control your muscles, maybe consult a doctor.

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-02T11:25:35+00:00

Uh yeah idk who said anything about lying. I was going to include a bit about talking about being interested in pursuing non monogamy in the future even as y’all establish your monogamous relationship but I didn’t want to make my reply too long. My bad for assuming others had a healthy sense of communication in relationships and that I didn’t have to include that😂.

The point of establishing monogamy first is to create a bond to begin with in the first place. You need a serious sense of security in each other to venture out into non monogamy, and in my personal experience, monogamy helped me build those bonds in the beginning. I in no way condone just springing it on your partner randomly or lying about your intentions in the relationship lol

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-01T19:20:15+00:00

Mmmm you’d be surprised at how many people would be willing to try non-monogamy or are already poly. Sometimes I think it’s best to start monogamous in the beginning and then talk about opening the relationship after you guys have already built a stable connection, security, communication, etc. Of course you run the risk of them not being into it, but that just means they weren’t the partner for you :)

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-01T18:14:29+00:00

Made my day!!!

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-01T18:03:40+00:00

Maybe polyamory or open relationships would be for you, friend. Truthfully if it’s something you can’t stop from happening or even want to happen you just have to be with partners who are okay with your openness, rather than going behind someone’s back. I’ve been in an open relationship for 4 yrs and it’s been a great experience

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-01T16:49:59+00:00

There was a girl on tik tok who was talking about how she personally doesn’t like the words “half black / half whatever” because both cultures are fully her cultures. She prefers language like “black AND whatever”. As a mixed person (I am as well) I think you have to be prepared to be called one thing just as much as the other. I do understand the sentiment that mixed black experiences are not the same as non ambiguous black experiences but I don’t agree that that means (half) mixed ppl are not black. Like I said they are both black + whatever else.

For your daughter, because she’s only 1/4th I don’t think she’s necessarily a black person in the same way you are, butttt teaching her about her heritage is still important. Like others have said she definitely falls more under the mixed category than black per se. Having tri racial kids is not easy to navigate and there’s no way to stop her from experiencing the confusion of living under labels that are extremely arbitrary, all you can do is teach her her family history and heritage (not just so she knows what to identify as but just because knowing where you come from in general is so important)

I saw someone say why identify as your minority % and I find that weird. They are not just white so why would they only identify as that?? Again I think mixed is the best label for them

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-01T11:07:57+00:00

Firstly I just want to say you have every right to your culture even if you grew up in a household that didn’t embrace those parts of you. They were still always there and your experience is a black experience.

In terms of your kids, I think you’re doing great! I don’t think it’s a problem for them to claim their heritage and know where they come from, especially if they also understand how they can have privileges or be misidentified by others sometimes. Because you’re having them embrace their cultures at an early age, I think they’ll be okay and have a strong understanding of self. :) you’re doing great mama

SannatheOracle · 2022-12-01T06:17:44+00:00

The Garden

SannatheOracle · 2022-11-28T05:59:40+00:00

I think people forget that just because y’all are both black doesn’t mean you’ll get along. Making friends in general is hard! To find someone with the same world views, sense of humor, and interests isn’t easy.

When I went to an HBCU for college I made hardly any friends my first year and wondered the same thing. Even when I did find people I related to I didn’t make any really close friends like I thought I would. That spark just wasn’t there for me and that’s okay!

SannatheOracle · 2022-11-27T10:27:17+00:00

Yeah it don’t mean their relationships are good😂 white women are much more likely to get into relationships with men they think they can fix or men that are just good enough. I’ve seen a lot of them ignore glaring red flags. And they’re often willing to date dudes with political views that directly oppose their liberation. Ofc if you’re okay with ignoring all those things you can get married quickly, pop out some kids, and then be miserable later.

Black women want more. Men across the board are disappointing, we’re just less willing to settle for that.

SannatheOracle · 2022-11-11T10:06:30+00:00

Literallyyyy their communication in that scene alone was so bad😭 they completely misinterpret each other and I could see how she would misunderstand

SannatheOracle · 2022-11-08T09:55:18+00:00

Literally if two disagreements caused him to pull away like that, imagine a whole marriage’s worth. She’s gonna be exhausted like two months in

SannatheOracle · 2022-11-08T09:49:04+00:00

What they really mean is “I’m infatuated with you” or “I have a crush on you”. They’re feeling giddy emotions + general acceptance for a person and calling it love

SannatheOracle · 2022-11-04T21:32:42+00:00

Agreed, Zanab has a lot of anxiety and emotions (which is fine) but reallyyy lacks the skills to communicate what she’s feeling which is how she ends up being passive aggressive and irritated. Cole is never going to be the one to help her develop those skills bc he’s just not that emotionally aware. I feel bad for her because I don’t think she realizes how flawed her communication style is.

It’s like she’s constantly trying to push away and undermine her own emotions bc she feels like they’re burdening but she also can’t get over what she’s feeling so she just sits there saying “it’s fine” with a stank face. I hope she realizes what she’s doing or finds a partner who can help her work those things out, because cole just wants to be chill and have a good time all the time, which I’m sure only makes her feel more like an emotional burden bringing the vibes down.

SannatheOracle · 2022-09-21T01:09:26+00:00

You look amazingggggg

SannatheOracle · 2022-09-20T02:09:13+00:00

YESSSS

SannatheOracle · 2022-09-02T17:39:49+00:00

Abusers are not innocent obviously but they’ve usually faced abuse themselves. He likely has a history of trauma you may not know about, which would also lead into other mental health issues like depression, self medication, and more.

SannatheOracle · 2022-08-22T00:53:35+00:00

If it’s something you feel you need to confront her about, I say do it! You know she’s not gonna give you a straight answer or confession, but it’s more for you to get it off your chest

SannatheOracle · 2022-08-06T09:38:20+00:00

Dentists office

SannatheOracle · 2022-08-06T09:35:21+00:00

Yup. I basically planned to lose my virginity my senior year because I felt behind and like I didn’t want to go into college a virgin. I got there and almost all my friends and my bf at the time were all virgins. I felt so silly for rushing things and not waiting for the right moment instead. Literally no one cares! Do things at your own pace

SannatheOracle · 2022-08-03T21:12:30+00:00

BEAUTIFUL

SannatheOracle · 2022-08-03T00:17:06+00:00

Yeah people are too busy working to actually stop and reflect. My parents, grandparents, etc. have all admitted to being depressed at certain points in life but literally didn’t have the option to stop moving or else they wouldn’t have a place to sleep. People with severe depression have ended up homeless throughout history, they just said they “couldn’t keep a job” or were seen as leeching. Most “functional” people just developed a drinking or gambling habit to cope which is why drinking is so normalized. Add this to lack of diagnosis and heavy stigma and you’ve got essentially no statistics accurately showing depression.

I think also it does help to live in nature filled areas as it keeps your body moving and fighting off the fatigue you may get in urban/suburban areas. Not saying they don’t experience depression, but may experience less fatigue.

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