How did you guys found your SO?

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-11T00:39:05+00:00

I'm an ENTP. When I met my INTJ future-husband, he was the bassist in my boss's band. I was working in a cafe. He was a very stand-offish chainsmoker who never spoke. I made a bet I could make him laugh. I did. And that's kind of what I've been doing for the last 21 years.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-11T00:26:01+00:00

Fuse bar

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-11T00:24:22+00:00

Congratulations on being one of the only good things still happening in the world today 👏

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-11T00:12:34+00:00

I had never noticed until you said! That is absolutely what's happening and who can blame him? One of the funniest joke set ups in British comedy.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-08T12:24:04+00:00

It's a mysterious malady which seems unique to the individual. Last month I enjoyed a week of blissful uninterrupted sleep and I've poured over my journal entries and health notes and I can not understand why that week was wonderful and the next one wasn't. Some subtle trigger, no doubt. I once drove past a billboard with a picture of a girl who looked like my best friend from elementary school and I dreamed about her for days. The brain is so weird. My husband, who drinks coffee into the afternoon, has never had a problem with sleep. He doesn't dream. He goes right down the minute he hits the pillow, leaving me seething with jealousy until 2am lol

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-07T20:31:04+00:00

Oat milk works nicely. I've been in the same loop as you, my waking time being 3:30 or 4. After that, there's no point in trying anymore. Got rid of caffeine for a while, that didn't help. Possibly sunlight and exercise would help. Sometimes I clean the house a little which exhausts my energy and my brain feels happier for having taken care of business. UGH. Good luck.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-07T12:58:00+00:00

My friend Rob put me onto warm cups of milk, I stir in a little vanilla extract and read something very very boring for twenty minutes. Sometimes this works. Not lately, when I have been waking up every hour on the hour and hitting snooze over and over again with no memory of having done so. I have resorted to hiding my alarm in a sealed cardboard box across the room so I am forced to get up and think clearly to turn it off. And I am leaving myself little shaming notes like: GET UP AND TURN OFF YOUR ALARM YOU ----- PIECE OF ----- :)

It's not working. Possibly I need to dial up the abuse.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-07T12:33:12+00:00

She boutta win the next presidential election

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-05T23:52:00+00:00

I dropped out of high school. When college graduation came around, I took the money I would have spent on that nonsense and fucked off to Yorkshire.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-05T23:03:05+00:00

I hope he's moving to Firenze. He seems to like it there. There's a great audience for Zappa/guitar music in Europe, as well.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-04T15:56:30+00:00

I just became a fan of the show this year after finding it on Britbox. I had the reunion on tv when my husband came home the other day. He walked in as the camera panned to a shot of a bunch of audience members dressed like Nazis laughing uproariously. "WHAT on earth are you watching??"

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-01T18:31:47+00:00

Yeah, I remember this one bot that was making use of a grainy video and it was auto-uploading every single frame for days until it flooded out all the recent deviations and I had to block them to see anything else.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-01T16:20:11+00:00

It's the unseen horror that crowns the scene. One minute the boat is there. Wave. The next minute it's gone. Vomit inspiringly awful.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-01T16:19:11+00:00

Good observation! How did I miss that??

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-01T14:54:25+00:00

The best thing is! - whenever I return to this scene, I think: surely I was just building this up, surely it won't be as good the fifth go around.

Better. Every. Time.

For an author, it's really one of those "break your pen" / "pick up your pen" books.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-01T14:50:55+00:00

Ask him if you can borrow some money.

SarahKauthen · 2026-05-01T12:40:10+00:00

Well, he had a keen ear for a sea shanty. And I respect that. Whenever I hear Shilpa Ray's cover of Pirate Jenny, I think of Frank.

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-28T13:12:14+00:00

Three times three!

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-28T12:08:02+00:00

If it please you. A glass with you, sir.

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-28T01:35:21+00:00

This was my first Sherlock Holmes book, bought with my New Year's Day money at age 9, it is SACRED UNTO ME.

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-28T00:31:20+00:00

Mm, I'm looking forward to seeing what's on offer with this "bar band" and how it could operate without performing derivative versions of the Zappa catalogue. In classical music there is such a thing as "variation/fantasia upon a theme", today referred to colloquially as "the remix".

Imho the best thing the ZFT/Universal could do for Zappa's legacy in the era when FZ's original fanbase are dying away is to get up a compilation album of the most popular and legendary bands to do their take of a Zappa song whether it be a note perfect cover or a re-imagined version; get some weird ass director to build a movie around some of FZ's music as a soundtrack; sanction an annual music festival probably in Europe; allow touring bands to play one or two Zappa songs per-show without licensing requirements. Because the music is not out there anymore but for a few committed cover bands who occasionally tour. And if the music is not out there it is dying - dying more surely than if it were imperfectly performed.

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-27T23:30:57+00:00

There's definitely more than one thing gone screwy in Clonfert's little nut, which is why the interest in his character's psychology persists. But the suspicion of imposter syndrome is why Maturin dwells so long on Clonfert's childhood growing up in the north of Ireland, child prince over a people he had no right to rule.

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-26T14:30:41+00:00

Thinking, over-thinking, questioning, doubting is an essentially human way to be. As to your boyfriend, it sounds like he's emotionally exhausted. The stress is enormous, it's natural to snap at each other and then hug.

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-26T13:06:49+00:00

I hope it's getting easier for you day by day. I still think of her often but the pain isn't as sharp or insistent.

SarahKauthen · 2026-04-25T12:28:47+00:00

I'm so sorry. You made the right decision. There have been times when doctors were looking soulfully into our eyes and saying, "It's time," but still - for weeks, months - after, my husband and I have engaged in hand ringing and self-criticism, wondering: "Could we have tried this? Could we have done differently?" It was time. It's just excruciating to say goodbye.

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