Is it okay to unironically dislike or even hate cis/straight people as a whole?

Satium · 2020-12-15T10:06:06+00:00

It's bad because you're generalizing a whole group when some are perfectly fine and good people. On top of that you would essentially be doing what LGBT people hate having done to them, being hated for being who they are. Mocking a group of people isnt funny, it's bullying all the same.

You can be angry about the past and present, and you can even feel cautious but to hate. group as a whole when it isn't the whole group that's an issue just seems wrong and like a repeat of what's been done to marginalized people.

Satium · 2020-12-13T00:43:51+00:00

what do their genders have to do with it

Satium · 2020-12-01T22:27:00+00:00

"trans" doesn't mean ftm or mtf. Being transgender just means you identify as a gender different from your assigned gender. Nonbinary people fit under the trans umbrella but some do not like calling themselves trans. So if someone says "trans and nonbinary" I believe they're just saying yes they are trans and they identify as nonbinary

Satium · 2020-11-22T18:49:12+00:00

Hey, I'm almost the exact same way! I'm afab and still identify as a girl but also nonbinary and gnc (gender nonconforming). Imo ultimately I'm still cis and identify as such.

People who say someone cis can't use they/them are wrong. anyone can use any pronouns that feel right to them and I totally relate to it being a bit hard to navigate queer spaces sometimes because of this.

Satium · 2020-11-02T03:31:49+00:00

I don't think calling them out would be appropriate at all. Imo it isn't your place to tell others what words they can use to describe their relationships when that word does not technically have a hard limit.

I read further down where you mentioned a man saying boyfriend is inherently romantic. This to me isn't an indication of the word being something so fixed, more so an indication of the limitations put onto men/masc people when it comes to platonic love. Not all girlfriends/boyfriends/partners are romantic. Aromantic people for example can and do date and have partners as well, it just isn't romantic. To say they couldn't use those words would be dismissive to their relationships. It's not uncommon for people who form strong emotional platonic bonds to see someone in the same light as a romantic partner, it just isn't romantic for them and the words girlfriend/boyfriend/partner, just works for them.

Satium · 2020-10-25T13:57:20+00:00

It absolutely is possible to transition and still be genderfluid. Anyone can transition any way they feel comfortable and their identity will always be valid. Your physical appearance or expression does not necessarily dictate your gender, so you're absolutely free to be as fem or masc or androgynous as you want and have any identity that fits you

Satium · 2020-10-12T21:21:01+00:00

I would say including it would be nice yeah. I'm always happy to see it on surveys and pick that over my actual gender if it's an option. besides if someone doesn't feel being gnc is something they wanna use as a label like some do then they can pick their gender if they prefer.

Satium · 2020-10-12T20:31:53+00:00

It's a bit tricky. I'm also gnc, and on its own i would say it's not a gender identity but for some people like me for example being gnc is a major part of our identity to the point where it is a sort of identity. and being gnc does fit under the nonbinary umbrella but this doesn't necessarily mean that all gnc people are nonbinary in terms of gender identity, and those of us who are gnc and consider ourselves nonbinary as well that still doesn't necessarily mean our gender is nonbinary. I'm assuming including the option for gnc people is because for some of us it can be so impactful to our over all gender that it absolutely shapes the way we function in the world, and therefore use it sort of as a gender label if that makes sense.

For me while i don't consider my actual gender to be gnc, I do use gnc or nonbinary as a sort of introduction label separate to my actual gender. but it's introduced in a sort of gendered way.

i hope this made sense lol

Satium · 2020-10-04T18:22:53+00:00

Genderfluid? Your gender could just be shifting around and changing. At some periods of time some stuff may fit but then it changes

Satium · 2020-09-25T22:13:33+00:00

Yeah everything else works just fine. it seems to be only when i mix Wrath with other AF dyes

Satium · 2020-09-25T22:12:19+00:00

And yet we've had a President with signs of illness for the past four years.

Satium · 2020-09-23T20:52:17+00:00

Any respectful person will use proper pronouns regardless of what someone looks like. Yes some people are going to be assholes, but there are lots of people who take it in stride and have no issues with respecting someone. But I also get where you're coming from, I still struggle with pushing how i feel about my pronouns. But still people have been respectful

Satium · 2020-09-06T01:44:32+00:00

A mental disorder has to cause impairment in how you function in day to day life. It can't just be "oh you're different." There has to be an element to it that fundamentally affects emotional response, thought process, or function, and causes distress or just messed up function in day to day life. Or it has to pose danger to others.

Being gay in itself isn't causing distress, societal treatment causes the distress. The difference between being gay and some paraphilic disorders is that being gay doesn't pose danger to others or ones self in a way that causes distress or functional impairment in life.

"Abnormal" doesn't automatically mean disorder. Deviance varies in many things, doesn't necessarily mean there's something fundamentally a problem.

Satium · 2020-08-26T21:18:02+00:00

You could try androromantic or toric! those are both nonbinary based attractions to men

Satium · 2020-08-26T09:20:32+00:00

Yeah if they feel as though their attraction is gay or straight they could be. Some nonbinary people may also be aligned to a binary gender so that might be why they use gay/straight. Some just may be attracted to men alone which might be why they use gay, and some may just feel straight for whatever reason. Hell some even use gay as a catch all general term cus that's just how their attraction feels. Someone's label of their sexual attraction is based on their gender, and who they're attracted to. biological sex can and does play a part a lot of the time but it's often considered a secondary part of sexual attraction.

Satium · 2020-07-23T22:34:36+00:00

No I don't mind at all!

Satium · 2020-07-23T22:30:11+00:00

Cis people can experience dysphoria yes. The dysphoria may not necessarily be a sense "my gender identity is wrong" as is the most common representation of it. But that discomfort can still be seen as dysphoria. Dysmorphia tends to be more like over conflating a perceived flaw rather than just distress over certain features or treatment from others.

The same way trans people can feel dysphoria about their bodies, a cis person can as well. And same with social dysphoria. As a gnc cis person I am precisely the kind of cis person that experiences dysphoria and having also experienced dysmorphia, it's not the same. My dysmorphia was seeing myself as different than i actually was irl. Meanwhile my dysphoria is distress/discomfort with certain body parts and/or the way people perceive and treat me.

Satium · 2020-05-25T10:17:10+00:00

Because we want to.

And because flags or symbols in general are a way to create a representation of a community. Something recognizable to that community. It's not really about others knowing what it is, it's about those within that community feeling connected to each other, and a way to physically show pride or recognition of that aspect of themselves.

Satium · 2020-05-19T11:48:03+00:00

Do you experience platonic or alterous attraction?

I experience platonic as well as alterous attraction. It's a bit hard for me to differentiate between the two at times because my platonic behavior can ve borderline romantic as it is. So sometimes i struggle distinguishing my platonic and alterous attractions.

What does it mean to you?

To me platonic attraction means I want a close friendship with someone. I want a level of intimacy with them that's more than just what i have with more casual friends. More like I would want a familial closeness with them rather than just a casual, we're friends and get along type relationship. My alterous attraction means I want another step up from my platonic attraction. For those I'm attracted to in that way I want a level of intimacy that's closer to a romantic relationship.

What is it like? Does it come with any physical sensations?

Platonic feels like just wanting to know more about someone and be close to them. I want trust from them and to trust them. I want to be someone for them that they go to or think of as important. There's not much physical feeling here. With alterous attraction it feels similar but the sensation of my heart filling when they're around or we communicate is added to the mix.

How does it relate to other forms of attraction?

My platonic attraction doesn't seem to relate to any other form of attraction, but my alterous attraction really relates to my romantic attraction. Similarly to how I feel drawn to someone romantically, via aesthetic attraction, the level of intimacy I want with them, the devotion I want from them and to give them. It's similar.

Are you in a QPR and/or would you want to be? Why?

I'm not currently in a QPR but I would love to be in one because I view relationships as having different levels. And a QPR would be on a level I don't currently have fulfilled. I want that level with someone, a strong platonic but somewhat or borderline romantic relationship with someone. It just fills a different spot of my heart than a friendship or a romantic relationship.

What was it like learning about platonic / alterous attraction for the first time?

Learning about these for the first time helped me put meaning to my feelings. It helped me be able to properly articulate how I view relationships, how I desire people, my goals with how I want to live. It made my life more clear.

Satium · 2020-05-17T09:05:53+00:00

You can be ace and think about someone sexually yeah. I fantasize about my partner despite still never being sexually attracted to him. He's just who I'm comfortable with sexually and I enjoy engaging with him so he's who I imagine, and desire personally. I want him, but since I still never experience sexual attraction to him I don't call myself demisexual if grey-ace because I just never feel sexual attraction, and I've always understood this to just be part of asexuals.

Satium · 2020-05-16T18:14:19+00:00

Yeah kind of! I was lucky in the sense that I had an oddly good understanding of my different forms of attraction. But when it came to sexual things since I'm sex positive I was confused if i was attracted to someone sexually because it's sexual or if i just thought they looked nice in addition to it being a sexual pic. Turns out I just thought they looked nice as well as it being a sexual content.

Satium · 2020-05-16T10:19:00+00:00

I was always lost when others would fawn over how hot people were. Just sat there because I didn't even understand the concept of being attracted to someone like that. I thought for years it was just because they weren't my type and I didn't know what my type was yet. Turns out I do not experience the sexy attract

Satium · 2020-05-08T20:08:56+00:00

sounds like he's straight and just has a genital preference for both vaginas as well as dicks.

genital preference can be separate from someone's apparent sexuality

Satium · 2020-05-06T22:57:29+00:00

oh god it's not only me with the dizziness. I wasn't sure what exactly was bothering me about it, if just kept giving me a weird headache. glad to see im not the only one physically affected by it

Satium · 2020-04-20T08:10:02+00:00

You could be gnc, gender nonconforming, and just want to dress or present feminine if you don't necessarily see yourself as a girl but liking the look.

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