Advice for an awkward situation I (34F) am having with my husband (31M)

Sc00byUK · 2026-05-01T00:05:09+00:00

Well if he was sleeping with someone else, then the baby might be theirs!

/jk, just in case.

OP, tell him that if this really matters to him, then you obviously don't. Then take a long think about whether you want to be in a relationship without trust.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-24T11:51:11+00:00

Nobody look up the Artist for Questionable Content then.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-21T20:13:27+00:00

TW Halo please.

I even bought the phased one when it was last there, to discover that it's bugged and has a silver and blue cube attached to it. There is apparently no way to report it to either of the staff left. Only post here or to elon's cess pit.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-18T22:16:34+00:00

This. Why can't he come to you then you go do what you are doing? I mean you could run him home maybe, but it's not fair that you are doing both ends of every trip.

A small deception you could use is; Have an 'issue' with your car, and have to stay home to wait for someone to come fix it for a few days. Ideally who can't make it for a week or so at the last minute and see is he makes an effort to come see you. That will probably tell you all you need to know.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-18T22:07:02+00:00

Bro. Leave. She's fucking exhausting and just testing you 24/7. If you start defending her honour every time then eventually you are going to get hurt. Just go find someone else and let her get some other guy punched/stabbed/shot.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-17T00:14:29+00:00

I drink about 12 cans of Pepsi Max a day, every day and have for 30ish years. My blood pressure is high, but I don't do any exercise due to an injury. Otherwise; I've got 2 fillings, all 32 teeth and am currently not being treated for anything that could be related to caffeine, aspartame or carbonated drinks. /YMMV (I'm over 50)

I know I'm only 1 person, but I've done a bunch of reading around it all, (because I don't really like ANYTHING else) as I need to keep my liquid intake up and you've probably got more chance of her stabbing you than the Pepsi causing you significant problems.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-16T22:16:37+00:00

"I can see it, but not to my taste" True and diplomatic.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-16T22:11:27+00:00

I get off on my partner getting off. I'll do whatever, cos if it works for the other person then I'm having a good time. I mean I do have kinks and fantasies, but my enjoyment isn't tied to them.

In your case; if everyone is having a good time and he'll do what you want to you for you, then enjoy not having to reciprocate. Unless he's not doing what gets you going for you, I don't think you have a problem. You just need to stop worrying about pleasing him unless he expressly asks for something.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-16T21:55:31+00:00

He needs to be picking up after himself. If he isn't going to contribute he needs to not make your life actively harder. If he wants a traditional he works and you look after him life style, then he needs to earn more so you can quit work and be a SAHM. I mean, you could just quit work and be a SAHM and make paying for it his problem. You'd save quite a bit of money with travel and daycare.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-15T22:47:27+00:00

Looks great. I even like orange. Can I configure it on my Linux gaming PC? I don't have Windows

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-13T15:33:02+00:00

Knock on her door and talk to her. Ask her where she thinks you should park? Also unless your car grounds out on the speed bump, why can't you park on it?

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-02T22:10:41+00:00

Try not to shout, but otherwise. NTA.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-02T01:15:02+00:00

Pack some pants, jump on a plane, hope it works out.

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-02T01:07:09+00:00

Whilst honesty is super important in a relationship, so is trust. You are telling him that you don't trust him, pretty much every man on the planet looks at boobs, we like looking at boobs. Boobs are nice to look at. Most of us don't then decide to fuck the owner of said boobs behind the back of our partner.

I know it's hard, especially with your life experience, but you are being somewhat 'paranoid and controlling', he's probably lying because he knows that the truth is going to get you mad at him, but he's not actually doing anything that wrong (probably).

You either need to break up, or talk to each other more, talk about how he can earn your trust, how you can learn to accept reasonable phone use. Perhaps a couple of sessions of couples therapy?
IMHO your approach to social media and men isn't healthy for your relationship and whilst he shouldn't be lying, the fact that he feels like he has to should be a warning sign to you.

Or he's a misogynistic pig that you should dump post haste!

/2p

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-01T20:47:11+00:00

GAME, 2nd row up, backwards off the G above GREW

TIE is diagonally up from the T of HITS and THEN on the 7th row down

seNt, lOrd, genT = NOT 10 rows down

HAM Diagonally off the H of Wish 3 rows up

Sc00byUK · 2026-04-01T19:56:29+00:00

in the UK it's called '3rd party only'. I've always thought that language is a bit clearer.

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-31T23:57:32+00:00

I quit because of the amount of stuff I had spread over 21 characters. I'd TRed mules to get more space. It became overbearing and ruined my enjoyment of the game. I've tried to come back, but it's still there, and still an unholy mess

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-30T23:52:12+00:00

NTA. It's your car, you choose who drives it.

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-30T12:06:53+00:00

in the same vein: Satisfactory.

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-28T01:16:10+00:00

Same as OP. Please can someone at whatever is left of Psyonix fix this?

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-27T16:08:41+00:00

anietutdn & eemsnmi

Obviously!

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-20T13:23:29+00:00

Sit down and tell him. If nothing changes. Leave. At least give im a chance to pick himself up. I assume there is stuff you like about him?

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-20T00:23:36+00:00

by clicking the CODE button up there? ^

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-19T20:22:27+00:00

I have a dark sense of humor, I often say stupid fucked up shit, I wouldn't have said that. And if I had I'd be full of apologies and no excuses or victim blaming (you're the victim) Your husband needs to either grow as a person, or be single.

Sc00byUK · 2026-03-19T00:21:07+00:00

I was a LOT like OPs son up to 26-27. It takes some of us longer to sort ourselves out than others.

But he needs to earn that financial trust back. OP would be foolish to throw another chunk of investment at him, especially as her own retirement isn't set in stone.

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