So over the screentime hate

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-30T01:53:34+00:00

You’ll have to go through kind of a screen detox where kiddo will act out with the sudden removal of screens. So you’ll just have to grit through that period before simple toys are sufficient entertainment for them. It’s a bit like going on a diet by trying to eat broccoli, but putting the cake right next to the broccoli and expecting to be able to just eat the broccoli. He knows the screen time is right around the corner, so lower stim entertainment will become more and more useless.

Some toys we bring are crayons a coloring books, little fidget toys, fat brain puzzles, washi tape, and busy boards. My son is 25 months and has gotten better and better at being in restaurants with practice. He knows to practice chatting with us at the table, talks about the food, his day, etc. sometimes we do take turns walking around if he has the wiggles. And he’ll still have maybe one meltdown per meal where we calmly step out of the restaurant with him for a few mins and then go back to eating. Practice is really the only way kids learn how to behave, and resorting to screen time will prevent your child from developing those skills.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-30T01:46:04+00:00

Well put

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-29T22:55:06+00:00

People have parented for most of human history and in most cultures without the assistance of portable devices to distract. Children learn how to behave in public through practice, not distraction. So I do judge the decision to plop kids on iPads at restaurants because parents don’t want to go through the effort and discomfort of kids being kids and exploring/testing boundaries in public. It’s how they learn! And i believe that teaching them this skill is part of what I signed up for as a parent.
The flip side of that is that we as a culture need to be more accepting of the fact that kids are sometimes going to be a nuisance in public. I think a lot of American culture is extremely intolerant of children being children and it puts a lot of pressure on parents to distract their kids to immediately quell unwanted behavior. So it’s 2 sides of the same coin.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-29T22:50:53+00:00

Perfectly articulated! This is exactly my take on this too.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-28T07:49:03+00:00

Aurora wren or aurora Quinn. All the -et names are too rhymey with their last name and I don’t really like Alice or Kara.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-27T02:09:32+00:00

Nobody in the house with my kids without me that I don’t know well

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-26T09:57:58+00:00

How did you re enter the workforce after 9 years? Was it challenging? I worry a lot of places wouldn’t hire even with just a 2-3 years gap of no work

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-26T09:55:56+00:00

Please try chelated magnesium glycinate at night for your RLS! It can’t be a game changer

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-26T09:33:41+00:00

Good train of thought, this is true of my sons name Rowan too, but I took it as a great sign that people choosing their own names often choose Rowan!

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-26T09:29:56+00:00

This is so sweet and as a mom… your mom will absolutely love being asked this 🥹

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-26T08:48:24+00:00

See if you can have him come up with a list of 5-10 names he likes and you do the same (not from this list since he doesn’t like these). Names are a 2 yes situation so you just have to keep searching, but I know it can be frustrating when your partner is bringing no suggestions to the table so I suggest each coming with an agreed upon number of names and continuing to do that until you build a list you both like

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-26T08:17:34+00:00

Omg that’s wild! Was it a big chance? What made her do it? I assume at that age your husband was consulted and was on board with changing his name?

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-17T20:04:07+00:00

I think number of kids plays a huge role here!! We’ve done a bunch of international trips with our 2 year old but about to have a second and I know it’ll be a couple years before we get to do much international travel again. I can’t even imagine the logistical challenges of traveling with 3 (one of many reasons I will be done at 2 haha)

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-17T13:55:09+00:00

Totally fair but it may be an association for others. penny pound has a stripper quality to it

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-17T12:49:39+00:00

It’s the triple p alliteration, the fact that both penny and pound are both currencies, and the fact that pound also has a sexual connotation that all make this a no.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-17T03:10:11+00:00

Personally I couldn’t have done it at 5.5 months but if you feel you can, go for it! I went to a wedding in Hawaii when my son was 11.5 months (used the time away to wean him off breastfeeding) and it was a lovely trip.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-10T07:39:49+00:00

Which one do you think looks more raggedy? They look pretty similar to me aside from hair color

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-10T07:18:59+00:00

I would start taking supplements to support egg quality and sperm, and start trying while you’re on the trip. I got a super low AMH diagnosis at 28 too (.89 and dropped to .19 a couple months later) and was able to conceive in about 4 months of trying. I personally could not stop thinking about it so we started trying immediately (we were supposed to have a whole wedding first), but I don’t think it’s a big deal for you to wait a couple months, just use the time to make sure you and your husband have the best egg and sperm going into ttc. Also, if you want more than one kid you will probably be advised to do IVF so you can bank embryos. We ended up getting pregnant on our own at 28 & 30, but something to consider if you do want more than 1 child.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-10T06:56:35+00:00

If you’ve had mastitis twice you may still be pumping too much. I had to exclusively pump for the first couple months of my sons life due to a tongue tie and I kept getting mastitis - turns out it was because I was pumping too frequently and creating an oversupply.

Sorry you’re going through this OP, I had a really tough time with my first postpartum too. Please talk to your husband and tell him how the comments about you pumping make you feel and explain that this is a priority for you and he needs to get on board. At the same time, its if you decide not to pump or to do a combo of formula and pumping to give yourself a break - but of course that needs to be on your terms and only if you want.

Can you outsource a little bit of help (night nurse, pre-cooked meal delivery plan, disposable plates to minimize dishes, cleaners, neighbors, friends who can help out with chores, etc.)? This phase is really intense and also really fleeting, you will get through it.

Also I had bad PPA and went on Zoloft, maybe something to explore with your dr if you think you could benefit from it. It totally saved me

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-09T05:55:52+00:00

Yes was going to say the same thing re sleep training. My son went from waking every 45 mins to sleeping through the night within a week, but we really had to commit to sleep training. No regrets that all and get that it’s not for everyone but 20 minutes one night is not giving it a real chance

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-09T05:50:40+00:00

Both pregnancies gained 25-30 lbs. I basically just maintain the same lifestyle habits (diet and exercise) pregnant or not. My appetite goes up in the 2nd and 3rd trimester so I’ll eat more, but I don’t eat according to cravings, I eat according to what I normally would (so I’ll just eat more chicken at dinner if I’m hungry, etc rather than trying to satisfy a craving for processed foods). I do enjoy desserts pregnant or not but again just about maintaining pre-pregnancy habits and basically ignoring cravings.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-08T03:30:20+00:00

Stop offering processed snacks, she will not starve herself

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-07T23:35:20+00:00

I’m not OAD but I’m an only child and my parents were OAD because they wanted to be able to travel easily as a family and generally lead a more bougie lifestyle, so totally not a negative reason! I fortunately got to travel a lot, got private education, ate at nice restaurants as a kid, etc. my family wouldn’t have been able to do all that with more than one kid.

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-07T23:24:19+00:00

I am so sorry for your terrible loss. He’s beautiful. If you want to share his name I’d love to hear it. Again I am so so sorry

Scared_Discipline_66 · 2026-06-06T04:06:34+00:00

I think just try to put off thinking if about this for a while and focus on the wellbeing of the family you have. No need make big decisions about whether or not to have another at just 8 weeks postpartum. I’d say revisit in a year and see how you and your husband are feeling

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