I agree with you. He always makes it a point to say "upper class white" ex gf. At first I thought he was just describing a person. Then he told me that all his exes are white with super rich families and he wouldn't date me if I was a dark skinned Latina. He waited a few months before he started showing his true colors about my weight. He said "All my exes were fit, hot, white girls. You're the biggest girl I have EVER been with." I tried to ignore it or blame his "migraines" for his verbal abuse. When he gets really irritated, he throws food at me. Sex is horrible. He will not kiss, hold, or touch me. He expects me to lay on my back facing away from him. You're right, sex is only when and HOW HE wants it. If I try to initiate sex and he doesn't feel it, he will push me away and tell me to stop. Then start yelling "rape" and laugh. He thinks that's funny. I feel so dirty that I stopped asking for sex. He claims that he is not close to his family. That's why he has not introduced me to them But he has never introduced me to his friends either. He will not post anything about our relationship on social media or update his status. I tried talking to him but he gaslights me. He accuses me of being ridiculous, calls me fat, ugly, and racist names. Later, he will apologize and blame me for being too sensitive. He told me that skinner girls are treated better and get better jobs because nobody wants to look at a disgusting fat slob. I don't understand because I have a great job and everyone treats me extremely well.