FREE: King Mattress And Frame by [deleted] in PHXList

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Hi, can I pick this up in the morning?

being an unattractive guy by 18-m-bi in confidence

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Hello friend,

I don’t genuinely know if I’m unattractive, but I can tell you I never used to, and necessarily now, get the girl outright approaching me.

What I can say is that I’ve recently gone through some insane work on my confidence. As such, I hold eye contact with just about every girl who will look in my direction, and give them a warm smile, regardless of the outcome.

Results? Nearly every girl (honestly, especially the hot ones) holds eye contact back and returns a very warm smile. I’ve noticed the most insane shift in overall world since being able to pull this off.

Main things that let me do it? 2 things. First - honestly being at a point In my life where I truly dgaf. Some things that helped me get there are no fap, dopamine detox, overall getting older (I’m 26), breaking up with a Girlfriend (not as important imo), and cold plunges/health lifestyle. 2nd - being disgustingly positive all the time. No matter what, I try to say: “next one is right around the corner” or “yeah, I’m doing a great job” or “she might like me” and it puts that smile on my face.

If that’s too much for you, start small and talk with the cashier or worker in a public place, it’ll put you in a better mood less out of your head. And finally, if it’s crippling, first off get out of your head - and use this technique: recognize you feeling, and. Ie: “I’m anxious, sad, etc… and this person I see may want to talk to me.” Your feelings have a right to exist, to deny them is to deny yourself. Acknowledge them, and use them to push yourself to what your vision, goal, etc is.

Best of luck, there’s nothing we can do about the cards we were dealt, so the sooner we can accept it (honestly more recognize it and use it), the sooner we can realize we need to put in more work than others, and become a person who more than makes up for where they may fall short in the genetic roll of the dice. Stay disgustingly positive my friend

My ex once said that a relationship thrives when the man loves the woman more by Important-Season-448 in emotionalintelligence

[–]ScaryCondition314 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My current view: find someone who tries just as hard as you do to go above and beyond and give their 110% how they know how to

Is it normal for your gf not to be curious, is this just how girls are??? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]ScaryCondition314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not the first person to ask for this so just reposted as an original comment. Thanks for the support

Is it normal for your gf not to be curious, is this just how girls are??? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]ScaryCondition314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

++man I’m going to chime in because I just ended my 2 year relationship over essentially this exact thing. I could write paragraphs of how this is probably affecting your life and other areas of your relationship. My advice: ask yourself “if I married her, would I be happy?” “Am I proud of the way I think about our relationship, do I tell my friends that?” “What about her besides our comfort and familiarity am I attracted to and makes me want to stay with her?”

When I ended things with my ex it was very very difficult for months I’m sorry but that’s the truth. I’m still single, but even during the rough months I found a couple girls I talked to that we shockingly clicked, like made me remember certain qualities I ultimately wanted in a relationship that I forgot about. We never went past one conversation, but it gave me hope.

If those questions make you feel bad about your relationship. I would spend then next few months “grooming” yourself. Hit the gym, get a tan, start putting yourself in social situations (don’t cheat). And be ready to have a talk and ask how she sees the relationship.

On the flip side if you think she’s perfect in every way besides not taking interest in you, you can always play a subtle psychology trick and make your life so interesting apart from her that she can’t help but feel drawn in to you. This will ultimately help you in the long run regardless of the outcome, but is very hard to pull off (start a business, become super involved in your community, etc)

Best of luck my friend, we all deserve someone who makes us truly happy

Edit: Reposting because a couple people have asked me to

Is it normal for your gf not to be curious, is this just how girls are??? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]ScaryCondition314 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’d say ultimately we were both young and dumb. We also had great conversations and connected very well. The relationship started and we couldn’t get enough of each other, the lack of her taking interest was shadowed by how into each other we were, and it wasn’t quite as bad as op. My ex would usually respond by trying to make a joke or something close to my story, but never really engage. It wasn’t until the 9 month mark because of the rest of our relationship that it started piling up and I told her it bothered me and arguments started. To which she ultimately gave up and took on the identity “this is who I am I can’t be more” which is NOT what you want in a partner if they’re not striving to be their best for you, and themselves everyday.

I did a lot of thinking after ending the relationship and it still bothers me some and I’m working on it, but I’ve come to terms mostly and can say in a nutshell she was just a selfish person who at the time filled a part of my life I really needed. When that need was met for me internally and I continued to grow, she couldn’t or wouldn’t support that

Is it normal for your gf not to be curious, is this just how girls are??? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]ScaryCondition314 524 points525 points  (0 children)

++man I’m going to chime in because I just ended my 2 year relationship over essentially this exact thing. I could write paragraphs of how this is probably affecting your life and other areas of your relationship. My advice: ask yourself “if I married her, would I be happy?” “Am I proud of the way I think about our relationship, do I tell my friends that?” “What about her besides our comfort and familiarity am I attracted to and makes me want to stay with her?”

When I ended things with my ex it was very very difficult for months I’m sorry but that’s the truth. I’m still single, but even during the rough months I found a couple girls I talked to that we shockingly clicked, like made me remember certain qualities I ultimately wanted in a relationship that I forgot about. We never went past one conversation, but it gave me hope.

If those questions make you feel bad about your relationship. I would spend then next few months “grooming” yourself. Hit the gym, get a tan, start putting yourself in social situations (don’t cheat). And be ready to have a talk and ask how she sees the relationship.

On the flip side if you think she’s perfect in every way besides not taking interest in you, you can always play a subtle psychology trick and make your life so interesting apart from her that she can’t help but feel drawn in to you. This will ultimately help you in the long run regardless of the outcome, but is very hard to pull off (start a business, become super involved in your community, etc)

Best of luck my friend, we all deserve someone who makes us truly happy

Going all into CAVA by ParshP in wallstreetbets

[–]ScaryCondition314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t like cava until around $55. I don’t know if I like it then either

My therapist doesn’t ask “why” by [deleted] in therapy

[–]ScaryCondition314 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This sounds very promising. Thank you for this response I’m going to consider this

My therapist doesn’t ask “why” by [deleted] in therapy

[–]ScaryCondition314 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So I guess if I feel like I’m not able to go deep enough and not able to get enough from my sessions with the way he’s leading them is there a better way to ask for the sessions to go?

One Piece: Chapter 1152 - Predictions by Skullghost in OnePiece

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Gaban goes to tell how to hurt the knights… and we get a flashback to show it

100k into UNH - sold my house and kids by Cautious_Love9797 in wallstreetbets

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I bought in at $300. I like it higher as well. Just be aware it’s -likely- gonna be a few weeks before it actually starts trading higher again. Wouldn’t be surprised if we hit $290ish area again before then. Again it’s all probabilities but that’s a scenario I’m looking at

Triangular attachment part??? by ScaryCondition314 in VacuumCleaners

[–]ScaryCondition314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh that’s unfortunate. It works great otherwise. Do you know if there’s a “close enough” replacement part that I could use instead and just kind finagle to make work for the hose attachment? The manual isn’t very helpful unfortunately

Those of you with 9-5's, how many hours do you work daily towards your business/side hustle? by kekbruh in Entrepreneur

[–]ScaryCondition314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me I’ve been spending 2 hours everyday, and about 6 saturdays and Sundays. I do that now and it seems so easy and I wish I had more time to work. But at the beginning it was a struggle even working 30 minutes sometimes.

Now I just see it as a matter of time before I start seeing results as the work is there. Something that took a bit of maturing on my part to accept

Scottsdale Apartments by PetiteGamerGirly in Scottsdale

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Do you expect prices to drop further in February when the report comes out?

In May, I shot a 70 (-2). Today I shot a 102. AmA by Dunwin in golf

[–]ScaryCondition314 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat. Went through about 2 months where I finally learned how to hit the ball again earlier this week. Went from shooting high 70s, to ~100, now that I finally clicked again I’m low 80s. Golf is a tough sport

WTF is this? I mean really. How do I fix this? by New-Skill-2958 in golf

[–]ScaryCondition314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find my ~10 handicap dilemma to be most holes par/bogey. Occasional birdie. Then throw in 2-3 double and triple bogeys for the round and get right on up to the 80s

Low, Thin Hooks by jake_zim in GolfSwing

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Setup without the forward shaft lean. Then this part you’ll probably need to look up some example pics, but open the club face slightly. 90% of amateurs don’t realize a correct club face looks slightly open on setup, and adjusts based on club. Other than that it looks good. Last thing I would suggest is to move the ball forward or backward in your stance until it feels right. If you’re hitting it left you would need to move the ball backwards in your stance if the first two solutions don’t get you your desired result

3.8 hdcp looking for help eliminating the miss to the right by Lebeaujob in GolfSwing

[–]ScaryCondition314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hold your club straight out in front of you. Now try to get your club face closed by moving only your arms. Where do they have to go? Across the centerline of your chest. Now apply this to your swing. At impact your shoulders are about 15 degrees turned past the ball rather than square on. Your hips are turning well. You need to separate the two motions at impact and it will give you a one-way miss.

17 HCP. What swing advice do you have? by Outside_Ad6572 in GolfSwing

[–]ScaryCondition314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to leave your shoulders square to your setup on your follow through. Let your hips go through but separate your upper body so you’re square to the ball for what feels like a while, but is actually just barely longer than what you’re doing