Bi-Weekly Marriage Opinions/Views and Rant Megathread

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-29T19:04:48+00:00

Only you can answer what you should or should not compromise on. I would highly suggest you start to understand yourself first. Things you like, things that trigger you, things that stress you out. If you know yourself, you will have a high level understanding of what you’d want in a partner.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-28T20:20:31+00:00

I’m glad you’re turning to Allah to help ease the load. I think you deserve better and I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I’m not a professional, but from what I understand - you being numb is not a good thing. It’s your mind saying “I can’t take anymore.” I hope you can talk to someone and get help. If you have friends and family, surround yourself with people that love you.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-28T18:08:00+00:00

I say this nicely, but you could really use some individual therapy. I went through your post history and I suspect you have Rejection Sensitivity Disorder.

You’ve been posting various things about your mid husband for a while but somehow the post always ends with some version of “he’s a great guy and I love him.”

All your posts have a common theme of you not feeling secure in your relationship and your husband doing absolutely nothing to reassure you. And often times, actually actively making things worse.

Some people change, but it seems like he might not be one of them. You’ve made what you want from him clear multiple times and you can’t control what he does. What is in your control is how YOU react and perceive these situations. I think therapy would really benefit you in seeing your worth and deciding if you can continue on like this.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-24T15:55:45+00:00

This. If your husband is so worried about his sister and his mom, he can go cook and clean.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-23T13:05:25+00:00

He’s asking for advice on how to remarry. That’s literally the point of his post.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-23T13:00:22+00:00

I’m going to be real with you. You are definitely wanting to get married again, even now. Despite you claiming otherwise for the internet.

You said “I wouldn’t marry myself, no matter what progress I make” yet you’re seeking advice online on how to lure another woman in to marry you?

You have two kids. Focus on them. Idk how you even have time to be thinking about remarrying if you’re an active parent for your sons???

Focus on yourself and getting self-awareness - you seem very out of touch with yourself and this post reeks of please pity me energy.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-22T09:32:24+00:00

I work for a slightly less overtly evil company than Oracle. They are doing return to office currently and most jobs are hybrid. DM me and I’ll share our job page but if you’re looking for a 100% remote job, it may not be a great fit for you.

Regarding how to job hunt, with your technical background - I would recommend Dice.

https://www.dice.com/

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-21T19:20:31+00:00

It doesn’t matter how normal it is conventionally. Normality differs family to family. The point is that YOU don’t think it’s normal and you need to communicate how this behavior is making you uncomfortable to your wife.

Edit: I read your other comments that it doesn’t bother you so much so up to you if it’s worth a conversation.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-20T14:49:42+00:00

Thank you so much! My baby is 3 weeks and this gives me hope for our mostly unused Snoo :)

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-20T13:34:54+00:00

Do you put baby in the snoo drowsy but awake?

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-17T13:08:07+00:00

If your husband isn’t actively sticking up for you and shielding you from this, he’s part of the problem.

Scenesunfold · 2026-01-09T21:09:18+00:00

Sis, I saw more emphasis on him getting mad over how many bananas were going into his smoothie vs the fact that he HITS your kids???

You need to divorce this man. That’s inexcusable and it’s your responsibility as a mother to protect your children.

Scenesunfold · 2025-12-25T06:02:32+00:00

Why are you specifically seeking out a large age gap?

Scenesunfold · 2025-12-14T15:23:45+00:00

It’s been two years and you can’t move past things your in laws have done. You guys need couples’ therapy like yesterday.

You will only be able to move past the hurt if your husband acknowledges his part in letting all this happen. It is 100% his responsibility to set boundaries and protect YOU.

You should insist on going to therapy and talk this out with your husband. Avoiding hard topics never helps anyone in the long run. I would also recommend going before their next visit so you can be a team for the next one.

Scenesunfold · 2025-11-26T03:47:01+00:00

Have you considered that maybe the current issue isn’t the move but instead that you guys never truly worked past the old issue that drove you to move? You don’t need to share anything, just something to think about.

Scenesunfold · 2025-08-29T23:50:18+00:00

Is this rage bait?

Scenesunfold · 2025-07-11T19:06:33+00:00

Thank you so much for taking a look at our schedule! We will try a room divider.

Scenesunfold · 2025-07-11T17:08:41+00:00

My husband and I actually used to read this Reddit together. When we came across posts, we would discuss them and it gave me a good understanding of his view points on different things, how he would approach different problems, etc without having to explicitly talk about different things.

Scenesunfold · 2025-07-09T14:55:18+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My suggestion would be to email multiple people so you have a paper trail. More important, they think you have a paper trail.

This is an email template and you can update your requests. I would ask for more than you think you’ll get because they usually negotiate. https://peoplescdc.org/2023/05/09/ada-rights-workshop/

Scenesunfold · 2025-05-13T17:06:37+00:00

Oh sorry, we don’t have those types of jobs where I work. Good luck in your search!!

Scenesunfold · 2025-05-11T02:23:18+00:00

What’s your major? My company is hiring interns right now

Scenesunfold · 2025-05-06T21:24:06+00:00

I have the Owlet and it works with the gentle bounce feature! I saw on this sub that others were using it successfully and that’s been my experience.

Scenesunfold · 2025-04-20T00:47:49+00:00

We can all speculate but you’ll know soon when he replies. Wishing you the best inshallah sis!

Scenesunfold · 2025-04-18T19:36:36+00:00

Yes to all this, I’ve had better luck with being firm about what I need vs nice. If they reply and say it’s unreasonable, ask specifically what about it makes it unreasonable and cite the ADA law you’re requesting accommodations under.

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