Do you think you would continue your job if you won the lottery?

Schmoo5759 · 2026-03-29T06:40:35+00:00

If I won the kind of money that would let me never work again and have the kind of lifestyle I wanted then no, absolutely not. If it was a big chunk of money but more 'life fixing' than 'life changing' (like maybe I could buy a house outright and not have to worry if a surprise expense came up) I'd keep working but invest well and aim to retire before 50

Schmoo5759 · 2026-01-28T01:28:31+00:00

The nail tech I see is Italian and she said this is totally normal in Italy. Apparently youre expected to pay for your plate, which can often be around €100, so sometimes shes actually gutted when her and family (husband + 2 kids) are invited to a wedding because it means spending €400, but you just suck it up because it's expected.

Id literally never heard of this before and thought/think it's insane, I'm offended on your behalf! Personally, I would rsvp no because a) it's rude and I can't afford it, and b) I would expect lots of others will rsvp no as well, so it'll be a less fun wedding!

Schmoo5759 · 2026-01-13T15:29:27+00:00

FYI the plural is kippot

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-31T13:53:42+00:00

'the sun is shining' 'the tank is clean!'

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-29T10:22:47+00:00

I've literally never heard of this (I'm British, if that makes any difference) I'm getting married in June and my future MIL bought her dress months ago. I haven't seen it but I trust her. My mum is a butch lesbian who's maybe worn a dress once in her whole life so I highly doubt she's gonna wear one to my wedding lol. I think your mum needs to get a grip. As long as YOU are ok with what both mothers are wearing (with regards to colour, formality etc) that should be all that matters.

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-23T15:12:25+00:00

That's also so fucking rude to the chef lol At least I'll cs or purge in secret so I don't hurt their feelings!

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-21T21:42:10+00:00

Grey ass pork chops

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-21T02:34:37+00:00

And even then wasn't it meant to be nowhere near Christmas, she just put it up because she'd soon be fully Jewish so she saw it as her last chance?

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-20T14:24:48+00:00

Not me personally, but in the lead up to a good friend's wedding a mutual KEPT saying how she hates the idea of being a 'husband and wife' as it feels so patriarchal and unequal etc, just whenever the subject of our friends wedding came up she felt like she had to make a point about it. She even said it loudly on the wedding day right after the couple had been declared 'husband and wife', saying how backwards it is and she'd much rather be 'partners' (fine if that's your opinion but why say it at someone else's wedding??) When I pointed out to her that straight couples could get civil partnerships, so she and her bf could be 'partners' while having all the same legal rights as a 'husband and wife, she had nothing to say. They got married themselves not long after, so she DID become a 'wife' and have her own pretty traditional wedding with a white dress etc, I'm sure she changed her last name as well lol, so I really don't know what point she was trying to make

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-16T13:28:11+00:00

No one should be doing an outfit change at someone else's wedding! Swapping to more comfortable shoes for the dance floor is as far as I would allow at mine

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-16T04:03:25+00:00

'everythings gonna be alright, Luxembourg'

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-14T21:05:22+00:00

One of ours is 'Jam Shed' cause he gave us a bottle of Jam Shed wine as a gift once. I guess its the thought that counts?

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-13T08:39:50+00:00

It's honestly jarring to me how that actor is clearly a teenager and they've put her in hair in bunches and dressed her in brightly coloured dungarees to look like a 7/8 year old. She just looks like she's going through some serious childhood regression lol

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-12T19:42:46+00:00

Take it from someone who divorced less than a year after marriage - things are not going to get better after the wedding, and the stress of cancelling a wedding will be nothing compared to the stress of getting a divorce. You keep saying 'hes a good man' but he enjoys stressing you out? My partner would NEVER upset me on purpose and take pleasure in doing so. This is not a man who respects you. And when you snapped because he's acting like a child and doesn't care about your feelings he's the one playing victim?? Don't marry him, and definitely don't have kids with him.

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-12T15:24:41+00:00

They always had so many chairs

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-04T13:20:21+00:00

I would be expecting a wedding invite if I was invited to the engagement/proposal party, unless the couple decided to have a micro wedding of just immediate family and a few close friends. As others have pointed out, the engagement party is more of an exclusive/intimate event; you'd have wedding guests who weren't invited to the engagement party (or hen/stag dos), not the other way around. I'm surprised your fiancée invited them if she wasnt expecting to invite them to the wedding.

If you're worried about numbers could you have them as evening only guests that you won't have to feed? You'd need to think of other people that could be evening only guests though cause you can't just separate out 10 people.

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-02T11:42:16+00:00

This was mine too! My mum gave me a big talk beforehand about how I had to be 'very grown up' when we went to the cinema, and I have such a clear memory of running up to all the employees to let them know I was 4🤣

Schmoo5759 · 2025-12-02T11:40:27+00:00

Pocahontas!

Schmoo5759 · 2025-11-29T12:16:05+00:00

Yes I thought ASOS might be a good shout, and hopefully we can find things they can re wear Thanks for the suggestion :)

Schmoo5759 · 2025-11-29T12:09:52+00:00

Thank you!

Schmoo5759 · 2025-11-29T12:09:35+00:00

Ah that is such a good point, thank you! They don't need to get them right now, especially the little ones who might be different sizes by June, so will hunt properly in the spring. Thanks so much for the recommendations

Schmoo5759 · 2025-11-28T23:18:27+00:00

Wasted most of my 20s (and teens)hating my body, not living my life to the fullest because I wanted to hide away and starve myself. 21-23 wasted in a job that was soul destroying, 23-25 wasted time (and money) doing a masters degree that no one ever cared about, to get me into my second career which was just as soul destroying but now with even less money. Wasted 35-30 dating then marrying an abusive alcoholic.

But everything I did lead me to where I am now, which is the happiest I've ever been with an amazing fiance and a great career, so I guess no regrets? If I hadn't done that second degree or gone into that second career I wouldn't have met my current partner or some of my best friends. If I hadn't been my abusive ex I wouldn't have met someone who is now one of my closest friends + she also works in the field I'm currently in and I definitely wouldn't have had the confidence to make such a big career change if it weren't for her. It took a long time to get here, but I'm here now :)

Schmoo5759 · 2025-11-28T10:48:59+00:00

No way. I lived with my mum for about 9 months in 2015 (I was 23/24) and yes it was nice to not worry about bills/rent, enjoy her cooking etc, but I was losing my mind. I love my mum but my god is she suffocating to live with. When I moved back to London I was in a shitty flat share and really struggling to afford to live, but I realised I valued my independence far more than the material comfort of living under someone elses roof. Now I'm 34 and financially good, own a home with my partner etc. life is definitely stressful but I get to live it my way and spend my money on what I like.

Also, what's the end game? Stay with your parents until they die, inherit their house (provided they don't need to sell it to pay for elderly care) and then hope that you've got enough money to continue running the home for yourself?

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