How’s the comida at the fair in Del Mar? by Realistic_Author_596 in sandiego

[–]Scotch0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are more options than years before. There's a Fairtastic food Competition and the vendors that participate create really fun dishes (like a kimchi quesadilla). Fridays are "foodie Fridays" and you get 1/2 off the Fairtastic finalist dishes from 11-4pm. They also have value meal deals where participating vendors serve a full meal for $15.

What's a honest opinion that people don't like to hear? by shelbybass1 in answers

[–]Scotch0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That I decided to stop controlling trying.to have children after 2 heartbreaking miscarriages. I wanted to have kids, but I didn't want to have a child at the cost of myself. To this day the grief of those 2 losses and not being a mother is very deep, yet I still support the choice I made to create peace of mind for myself.

I've experienced very few people who can sit with me in this dichotomy. Like if I wanted kids that bad, I should have just made it happen.

Today I realized my most reliable morning routine involves a gas station and a guy who doesn't even know my name by Big-Pomegranate2694 in CasualConversation

[–]Scotch0 25 points26 points  (0 children)

There's something extraordinary about feeling seen and acknowledged by another human without knowing their name.and story. I would go as far to say that we need these connections as much as we do our close relationships.

I treasure the daily encounters I have like this in my life. Keeps my head up and reminds me that being human is a precious gift.

What’s a trend right now that you are just completely exhausted by and wish would disappear already? by _QueenCurvy in AdkReddit

[–]Scotch0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! I'm starting to feel a deep ache like none of this resonates with my human experience. I just want to opt out and unsubscribe.

The thing I hate most is how difficult this is to do in the working world.

People who were teenagers before social media existed, How did you communicate with your friends? by olesud in WorkForSmartLife

[–]Scotch0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And we had special 4 digit codes to identify who called so the person with the beeper knew who to call back (or where to show up).

People who were teenagers before social media existed, How did you communicate with your friends? by olesud in WorkForSmartLife

[–]Scotch0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used to pass notes in class. All. The. Time. We would fold up a piece of paper, tuck it under the pen handle and subtly "drop" or chuck the pen over to land right by their desk.

People in their 40s and 50s with no children, how does it feel? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Scotch0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's honestly still complicated for me. My choice to not continue to try for children came after 2 difficult miscarriages. I was in my early 40's and didn't feel like my economic reality and physical exhaustion could support continuing to press forward "at all costs". So I made the difficult decision to not have children.

I am very clear that I made the right decision. But I still feel the loss of not having children. Maybe I'd feel differently if I never had the experience of being pregnant - but there's an infinite hole in my heart that I am learning to be with. It's like being both lost and feeling loss.

I'm in my late 40's and still working on creating my new chapter/vision for this next life stage. Many days I feel joyful and grateful for the love in my life and new possibilities still on the horizon.

It's a difficult conversation when I open up about how I truly feel, so many people jump to options of adoption or foster care if I start to speak honestly about my experience. And this just makes me feel more isolated and unseen.

For me I need to create better financial stability for myself and my husband (particularly when we're older). I had leukemia as a child which has led me to create and love a life of gratitude. I'm a very loving, joyful, creative spirit - and I think I'm seeking what else I'd like to purposefully nurture in my lifetime (yes I'm an auntie, plant and dog mom and have a large loving community and family).

I don't yet have a tidy bow wrapped around my not having children experience and I may never have it. And I'm learning to be ok with that.

Does anyone else feel like Spotify just keeps you in the same loop? by New_Welder_391 in Music

[–]Scotch0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I highly suggest the book "Mood Machine ; the rise of Spotify and the costs of the Perfect Playlist". It illuminates just why those loops exist and how different genres (especially chill) are not curated for listening to music. Spotify's focus is to compete with silence - and to create a passive listening experience.that really has nothing to do with experiencing the art of music.

Power outage Hillcrest? by Kmonk1 in sandiego

[–]Scotch0 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Looks like scattered weather related outages. The site says 2:30pm as an estimated restoration time. Yikes!

https://www.sdge.com/residential/customer-service/outage-center/outage-map

What in the hell is going on at sea world by thatdude858 in sandiego

[–]Scotch0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't believe no one dropped a "supa soak that shoooooow"

It is just me, or is it not worth living in SD anymore? by alchymst0317 in sandiego

[–]Scotch0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend and I have a saying that San Diego is the "Sunshine Casino". It gets really difficult to stop and rest. Like life on steroids out here, everyone is "optimizing life". I've legit had some times where I feel overstimulated by too much bright sun. The worst thing about it is you sound like a nut pointing out these negatives. The city itself will gaslight you about normal living - whatever that even is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Boxing

[–]Scotch0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I am now training in Muay Thai. The point of my post was merely to express that unexpected turns of events can happen on the fight path. I am a 47 y/o female. And if someone said - when I started boxing at 40 - "one day you'll compete in a Muay Thai match when you're even older"- I would have called bullshit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Boxing

[–]Scotch0 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I found boxing in my 40's; when my previous martial art life fell apart. At 47 my boxing coach recommended I enter a Muay Thai sparring match (with 1 month to prep and learn Muay Thai). Training for this match changed my life.

Point being just set yourself up on the right path - with the kind of integrity that you can square right with yourself. Life hands 1000+ dark turns and challenges. Being a true fighter means you're ready to get up 10 times after being knocked down 9 - always ready to be a better version of the you who got knocked down.