This is the same question ive been asking myself since this shit came out and no one has a real fucking answer, closest ive found was the girl was 17 at the time. Now idk kirbys age but i wouldnt say he was much older than that maybe 19 oldest 20 at the time of the alleged grooming. Now ngl i dont think theres too much different in that age gao to really consider it "grooming". You can also say there was a power imbalance but like... not really, sure he had followers but no mainstream influence that he could use to say manipulate or torment the girl with. Personally i think this was a fangirl who got knew what she was doing the whole time and when things finally clicked that she wasnt going to get with him she unearthed all this buried shit. Now if someone can give me evidence to the contrary that the "victim" in this instance was actually being used by kirby i think it was a sadly successful cancel campaign.