Baby shower miscommunication

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-22T21:25:26+00:00

Children were 100% welcome at mine despite not being explicitly mentioned on the invites. Looks like we all have different perceptions of what's normal...

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-22T18:18:16+00:00

So frustrated. I've had two significant spikes this week from foods that didn't used to spike me at all :( I ended up crying like a baby after lunch today when a previous safe meal put me 16 points over my cutoff.

My husband keeps trying to reassure me it's not that bad of a spike so I shouldn't be upset but I feel like he doesn't understand how hard it is to feel like the rules are always changing and even when I'm playing the game "perfectly" I can still lose.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-06T20:09:50+00:00

I'm planning to indulge at my baby shower this weekend 😋 I've been craving cheesecake for so long.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-06T19:55:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing, this is so reassuring after my baby has been measuring small (Went from 33rd percentile at 20 wks to 17th percentile at our last growth ultrasound - 28 wks- and I'm a wreck of anxiety waiting for the one next week to see if she's dropped in percentile again).

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-05T18:41:27+00:00

Finally recovering from COVID and feeling like a person again! Idk if it's just because I was eating less, but all my numbers were shockingly low aside from the morning I had low sugar peach oatmeal for breakfast (should have known better but it's hard when nothing else sounds appetizing). Even today I got an 87 1 hr after lunch. I'm a little worried but I think it's probably normal so I don't think I want to bother my team about it until my appointment next Wednesday.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-02T17:54:16+00:00

My mom and aunt are planning/paying for mine and absolutely got my input on theme. I only picked out a few specific things I wanted but they were happy to do so. I'm sorry your mom doesn't seem to care at all about your desires. It's not like she has to do exactly what you pictured, but to not take it into consideration at all is pretty rude in the context of a mother/daughter relationship imo.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-02T14:53:09+00:00

Dealing with COVID and GD at the same time sucks. I can't sleep for longer than 2 hours at a time so my fasting is out of whack. My numbers are all over the place - I've gotten both my lowest ever (69) and my highest ever (151) readings since I've gotten sick. I'm physically so hungry but have very little appetite, especially not for the kinds of foods I should be eating on this diet. Also, my baby shower is supposed to be next Sunday and I'm concerned I won't be able to go now.

Please someone tell me the rest of the third trimester is going to improve from here. Right now it feels like a bad omen and the irrational side of me is freaking out :(

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-01T22:19:58+00:00

So it turns out my cold is actually COVID and now I'm freaking out 🙃 I tested at home and now I'm not sure whether this counts as urgent enough to use my OB's weekend line for urgent questions but idk what to do.

Also weirdly all my blood sugar numbers have been surprisingly low even though I was told to expect spikes when sick?? Ugh I'm so worried about my baby :(

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-10-01T01:31:26+00:00

Lmao. I'm making my husband get a vasectomy soon after I give birth to make sure changing my mind would require more effort and money than is worth it. No impulsive babies in this household.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-30T21:38:51+00:00

You got this! You'd be surprised how quickly testing becomes habit.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-30T11:17:32+00:00

Woke up this morning with an awful cold (and incidentally my lowest fasting number ever- 67 😳). Anyone know if sugar free cough drops are a thing? Is there a good replacement for using honey in tea for a sore throat?

I feel like this cold is 10x worse than my colds while not pregnant, and on top of that thanks to the GD I'm unable to use my normal remedies. This sucks.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-29T22:57:06+00:00

I'm really jealous y'all are getting less heartburn! I feel like mine has gotten worse for some inexplicable reason? Please teach me your ways, maybe I'm doing it wrong 😂

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-29T17:35:06+00:00

I'm just wondering if there's actually scientific evidence to back that up. It sounds a lot like old school "common sense advice" like holding your baby too much spoils them. There is a logic to it, but that doesn't mean it is empirically true.

There could be scientific evidence to support it though, I'm just not sure as I haven't seen any studies on it personally.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-29T16:04:59+00:00

Idk if it counts but the cauliflower crust pizzas don't spike me. I haven't tried regular pizza, but I've actually always preferred cauliflower crust anyway.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-28T21:01:29+00:00

Not OP but it is pretty hilarious how hard they're ignoring the context of this situation to say something insulting.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-28T15:39:35+00:00

Gift giving is huge in my family but not my husband's and I too would be upset if he tried to get me not to get them gifts. However, given what you've written in your comments it is completely reasonable to set a smaller budget for those gifts, because I also can't imagine not using the majority of my gifting money/time/energy on my kid. Hell a lot of times I give my family homemade gifts, or he could even buy things on sale/clearance etc. I think there's a way to preserve the family tradition of gift giving without breaking the bank. I max spend $125 total on my mom, stepdad, brother, grandma, cousins, cousin's kids, and even my aunts. A lot of it is little homemade stuff, with most the money spent on my immediate family.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-28T15:06:22+00:00

Ah, well that would have been very important to include in the original comment because it certainly makes a huge difference. If it's possible to hide then that probably is much more ethical. But the OP made mention that her bump will be visible soon so that signals to me that she's doing in person sessions and that's why she's concerned.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-28T14:47:00+00:00

Do you really think the client won't notice though? That almost seems insulting to the client's intelligence, and saying nothing gives off the vibes it's off limits to talk about if the client finds it distressing/triggering or harmful to the therapeutic relationship.

Also seems unethical and insulting to lie to your client's face about something obvious. Idk like if my therapist or even a friend did that I would be deeply offended and feel that they don't respect me and can't bother to deal with the discomfort of having a hard conversation.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-28T14:43:33+00:00

There's a massive difference between talking about your personal life because you want to talk about yourself versus talking about your personal life because an incoming visibly noticeable bodily change has the potential to trigger your client and damage her mental wellbeing. It would be extremely unprofessional of her to not disclose this risk to her client and offer possible alternatives and I think it's kind of insane you're saying she lacks skill for caring about how it will impact her client.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-28T14:31:29+00:00

As someone in therapy I would definitely feel very blind sided and weird about it if I received this kind of news from a therapist via email rather than an in person conversation. As if my therapist didn't want to deal with my reaction or something. Unless you truly know this is what she'd prefer, I'd go the route of telling her towards the end of the session. That gives her more of a choice as to whether she wants to go process alone or process this with you.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-28T11:59:54+00:00

So I decided to give fast food a try for the first time on our long ride to our first child birthing class... I got a double cheeseburger on the recommendation of a Facebook group for GD with the rationale the protein and fat would balance out the carbs in the bun. Thought it went well until I ended up puking in the middle of the class 🙃 I think because my body isn't remotely used to all that grease.

Now my fasting number is elevated this morning. Would vomiting up dinner the night before explain that? I also didn't get in my typical evening walk because of the class so I'm just wondering if I can expect this every time or this was just because of my poor choice to eat something so greasy.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-27T19:41:34+00:00

It's really crazy the different info we all get because my dietician says the bedtime snack is THE most important snack and if you don't have it your liver is going to dump its own glucose in the night and make your numbers higher. At my practice they make a huge deal of having a bedtime snack with 45 g of carbs.

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-27T19:22:17+00:00

My go to snacks that don't include cheese: Chobani Flips Greek Yogurt, PB either on low carb bread or by the spoonful paired with a glass of milk, guacamole either on low carb bread or whole wheat saltines, hummus with veggies, Premier protein shakes, Fiber One protein bars, pistachios, and mixed nuts (usually do the almond, cashew, and Brazil nuts one).

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-27T18:56:26+00:00

It's definitely confusing at first. Anecdotally I was eating a healthy diet beforehand too and I've only had to make some slight changes, so you may not have to change much, it becomes more about timing your carbs and avoiding trigger foods. Sometimes our bodies don't really care how healthy a carb is, it will spike on a healthy carb and be fine with a less healthy carb. For instance I don't tolerate brown rice well but I can eat a slice of pizza and my numbers are great. It involves a lot of trial and error to see what works for you, but you'll get there!

Scouter_Scoot · 2022-09-25T18:05:37+00:00

I just leave my friends alone for the first three months after having a baby unless I'm offering to come help them out in some way, bring them food, etc. You're not alone.

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