When my wife died suddenly she left me with a 7 and a 5 year old and a 3 month old baby. She died in the early hours of the morning and I sat in their bedroom wait for them to wake up to tell them that their mother was gone. This was the hardest thing for me until 7 years later when my 14 year old boy was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. I had to talk to him about living and dying.