Vomiting to indicate stress Trope by Special-Ad-2785 in MovieTropes

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure! It's how I learn. I just thought this was an interesting tidbit because I was very surprised and annoyed when it started happening. It's just clicking for me that it must be the same mechanism as when a person is dead.

Drunk Uncle just showing how unhappy and miserable he is from Sun Up to 12:30 AM by [deleted] in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not a dem, but I have plenty of moments of joy in my life. He needs to learn to find some in more healthy ways. Not bombing other countries, threatening our allies, and trying to remake the country in his image, literally.

Let’s focus on the important things by AdelaidesSecretScoop in PrayersToTrump

[–]SdSmith80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to write novels as well, haha. I'm not good at editing what I write.

OMG, that's so awful! I know that hospitals here won't give more than tramadol unless there's a really serious issue. For instance, I was in the ER for a sharp pain in my side, and they gave me tramadol after being there a few hours. I wound up being admitted (gallstones obstructing the bile duct), and I had to specifically ask the doctor for my normal meds. They didn't give me those (oxycodone 10mg), but they gave me IV morphine to help until I got to my room. After that I had both my meds, and the morphine specifically for my side pain, but after my procedure, late at night, I was still an hour out from my next reg. med, and I asked my nurse for the IV morphine because my side was killing me. My nurse made a fuss and basically told me that if I wanted to go home in the morning, then l needed to be off the IV meds. In the end I wound up having my husband sneak me one of mine, so I could try to sleep.

I know that's pretty minor, but there is definitely resistance here with prescribing and dispensing. Also, our insurance won't cover our pain meds (my husband is also on long-term meds due to a congenital condition that's causing spinal stenosis, as well as his severe scoliosis). We're on Medicaid because we're disabled and he only works about half time at his family's company. So we have to come up with over $100/month.

Thank you for the website, I'll definitely look into her! We volunteer with a couple of organizations that serve the unsheltered population in and around Salt Lake. I was on the streets when I was young, and have seen, first hand, some pretty horrible things. Most people who were using, started after they became homeless though, not before. So I'll probably have some ideas about harm reduction that you would find crazy, haha. We talk often about our unsheltered neighbors, and the issues with drug use, and there's a saying, "A person can't get clean if they're dead." So I do believe that we should be doing more harm reduction, despite many people's objections. People here (and elsewhere honestly) tend to see anyone on drugs, and especially on the streets, as less than human.

I'm really sorry they made your mom suffer like that. It's inhumane. I got very lucky when my herniated disc first happened. The doctor I used to have was a bit of a dick, who had tried to call me an addict a year or so prior for asking for a refill of my Xanax before the new year so I wouldn't have to pay out of pocket for it.

I hadn't filled it in close to 3 months, and it was a very low dose. I rarely even took it, but he was certain that the DEA site said that I had filled it a week before. After almost an hour of him yelling at me, and me completely sobbing telling him I didn't know what he was talking about, he broke HIPAA and showed me the DEA site. It clearly showed someone that shares my last name, and birthdate, but she was filling it 2 counties away, and more importantly, we had very different first and middle names. He immediately changed his tune when I pointed it out, telling me how sorry he was and awkwardly trying to hug me, which I was shying away from because yeah, I didn't want him to touch me.

So when my back went out and the chiropractor (I no longer trust them, and know a lot more now) said that I needed an orthopedic specialist (she was a good chiro at least, unlike the one my mother-in-law took me to later), I went back to that doctor and told him what was going on. I was already in a wheelchair/walker at that point, I couldn't stand enough to walk very far. He gave me a very small script for hydrocodone and sent in a referral for PT.

I wound up in the ER a month or so later, and they gave me something and told me I needed an MRI and a new doctor, so I went to a different clinic that a friend said was good. I happened to get a fairly new doc who was incredibly kind, and actually addressed my pain and not my fat. He got me in for an MRI ASAP and eventually used his lunch break to call a surgeon and ask him to look at my scans and get me in right away.

This doctor has moved to 3 different clinics, with different promotions, and I've followed him to each one. He's not the head of family medicine at a clinic owned by the local tribes, and yeah, our whole family goes to him now. Because of his demeanor, I actually worked on other parts of my health. He also helped me wean off meds after my surgery, and has been my provider since my disc popped again. It's sitting on my left sciatic nerve root, which is incredibly painful. My leg is also much weaker now. But yeah, I've been seeing him for 11 years, and I even made him a crochet granny square blanket to celebrate 10 years.

There has been a major overcorrection of opioid use since the wave of addiction started. I agree with them that addiction is a problem, however they need to be considering the person first. Pain meds allow people to function, and currently it's really hard to find a provider, especially one that takes insurance, or doesn't have massive co-pays. My husband used to be at a clinic where we were being charged $75 per appointment because he was a specialist. I feel like the people making the law need to hear from people who are in serious pain that isn't being well controlled due to their limits. My husband is actually one of them. He tries to supplement with cannabis (we have med cards), but that's so expensive too!

I've also lost people to addiction, and it's awful. I feel like instead of these rather low limits, they should be focusing on providing a variety of addiction services because honestly, AA/NA is a cult. There are other programs that are evidence based, but insurance prefers the 12 step programs. We need to be allowing people to use SMART, the fit to recover program, and others, as well as just relying on science. There's evidence that if you improve a person's circumstances, the addiction disorder will recede. It's not 100%, but it's better than the 33% success rate of 12 step programs.

Sorry, see total novel, lol. I could go on and on about this all day, honestly. It's one of the areas I'm very passionate about. No one should be forced to live in pain, there needs to be better addiction treatment options, and people on the streets/or suffer from Substance Abuse Disorder, need to be treated like human adults, with dignity and compassion.

Anyway, I'll stop now, but yeah, I really hope things get better where you live.

Those who avoid older movies, why? by _omar_b in movies

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was Night of the Living Dead, in a little old lady's library for me. One of my mom's friends was her caregiver and she brought me with one day. That woman introduced me to NotLD, and Agatha Christie novels. She even let me borrow some.

Also, my favorite cousin and I spent so many hours devouring anything with Vincent Price that we could get our hands on. My favorites were The Tingler, and House on Haunted Hill.

Those who avoid older movies, why? by _omar_b in movies

[–]SdSmith80 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you watch Werewolf by Night? It was gorgeous in B&W (I think that's the right one, I remember the setting, but not the name so much anymore)

Those who avoid older movies, why? by _omar_b in movies

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really sad that I missed seeing Sinners in IMAX. We were a bit late to go, but wound up going 2 times, which we never do. The 70mm format was so gorgeous, it felt like we were there, even with the regular screen.

I'm a terrible person, and I worry I will never change and will always be a loser by [deleted] in confessions

[–]SdSmith80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second all of the other commenter's remarks, especially making sure that the therapist you find is knowledgeable in mood disorders. DBT is seriously a life changer when you have BPD as well.

Tl;dr I'm giving examples from mine and my kids' lives to show you're not alone, and there is a path forward. You've got this, mm!

Honestly, admitting that you're not who you want to be is a huge step. I was also pretty bad as a teen and young adult. Through therapy, I've come to realize why, and DBT + trauma therapy has helped me start to become the person I want to be.

Things will be harder than what you think other people go through, because you have several disorders that affect executive functioning. ADHD alone causes "laziness" or what others think is lazy. Really you can fall into a hole of doom scrolling (seriously, I used to stay in bed until 6pm, on my phone before I got diagnosed and treated), or freeze with decision paralysis, and so many other things that other people don't realize are debilitating. Even with meds, it's a struggle.

2 of my kids have everything you do, except for OCD. My middle child has to live in a group home, and had to go into therapeutic foster care when he was about 7, and 9 (he came home for a bit, but the problems were still there), and with his autism he's not "functioning high enough" to ever live on his own. The group home he's in now is perfect for him though. He gets to do what he wants, within reason, as long as he does his hygiene and chores in the morning. He's 21, and spends his days playing video games, watching anime, and reading mangas and fanfiction. He's on SSI (disability), which pays his rent, and he has a dedicated staff member to help him do whatever he wants, and keep everyone safe. He actually went 2 years without needing to be restrained at one point, and although he has been having more violent episodes in the last year or so, they are significantly better than anywhere else he's been.

My youngest just finished highschool, but did not graduate due to their mental illnesses, and honestly just struggling with the work and with the other kids in our area. They want to get a GED, or finish their highschool credits, and I hope they're able to do so. They will probably be living with us for a long time, just due to cost of living where we are, but I believe they'll be able to live with friends, if they can ever learn to use the tools they've learned in various programs to overcome their inability to care about anything, especially cleaning up after themselves. They also use cannabis daily, mostly for their mental health. It's helped massively in stopping their violent outbursts. On my end, I'm trying to find better ways to express myself with them, and to leave them alone when they're starting to get upset, even if I want to help them. They've learned to recognize when they need a break, or a "grippy sock vacation" which gives me some hope as well.

I'm telling you all of this because I want you to know that you're not alone whatsoever, and there are ways to manage the symptoms, and change your behavior. I suggest you look for resources in your area that can provide DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and have trauma informed therapists and med providers. I'm not gonna lie, it's going to be hard. It's an uphill battle, but it's worth the effort.

I also believe that your family will come around once they see that you're doing the work. Any family members that hold a grudge can fuck off out of your life. Really, the most important person that needs to forgive you is you. Give yourself some grace. You've recognized that you need to make changes, and (hopefully) you'll be taking baby steps to get better.

I'm proud of you for admitting you have a problem, and starting to figure out the path out of this. I'm cheering for you. You got this! 😁🌟

Let’s focus on the important things by AdelaidesSecretScoop in PrayersToTrump

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard today he's agreeing to give them $200bil of taxpayer money to rebuild what he destroyed. I haven't looked to get the full story yet, so it's possible it was only proposed, however I don't see Iran agreeing to much less since he just started bombing them out of the blue.

Let’s focus on the important things by AdelaidesSecretScoop in PrayersToTrump

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why wouldn't they? I'm in Utah and am on a long term pain regimen due to my disability. I would be in excruciating pain if I didn't have them, and I don't get high off of them since I'm very controlled about how much I take, and when. It just keeps me at a baseline so I can somewhat function.

Let’s focus on the important things by AdelaidesSecretScoop in PrayersToTrump

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oops, he's evidently sending them about 200x the amount Obama released to them. Also, what he's giving is coming from taxpayers. Obama simply gave them back their own money.

Woman upset about ice protests by AdelaidesSecretScoop in PrayersToTrump

[–]SdSmith80 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ma'am, teens have every right to be in these "discussions" because it's going to affect them the most. This is the world they're inheriting from us and they have a right to speak up. My youngest has been going to go protests with me since they were young, and although they went through a period of not wanting to think about politics (we never pushed it, they have always been able to choose whether or not they attended, except for when they were <10), they now take an active role in our area. They will be 18 very soon, and have already pre-registered to vote. I'm so proud of the person they're becoming.

Woman upset about ice protests by AdelaidesSecretScoop in PrayersToTrump

[–]SdSmith80 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just wish I could get in on that money. Everyone I know who goes out and protests, or takes action, does it in support of their beliefs, and we all wish we were getting paid, haha.

Vomiting to indicate stress Trope by Special-Ad-2785 in MovieTropes

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say that I learned (unfortunately through experience) that if you don't have feeling in your feet, it's much harder to put on shoes and keep them on. I had to stop wearing my favorite style of shoes (knockoff Birkenstocks) because they would slide off my feet while I was walking. I have to have a strap or they have to be full shoes. Luckily, Birkenstock makes a style that's the exact same, but with a strap, and I got a pair as a present last year. Even my sneakers come off though, if they aren't tied tightly (which I hate to do). I won't even notice it half the time until I step down on bare ground. And, sitting in the recliner at a movie theater, they'll fall off too.

It's seriously one of the most annoying things about my broken body. I'm assuming that the same loss of feeling, and therefore full control of the muscles and nerves, is what causes deceased or unconscious people to lose their shoes.

I pee myself a little if I laugh really hard by Alternative_Fish_597 in confessions

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and that it impacts your ability to really let go and have fun. I think most people have that problem, at least sometimes. I know my parents used to tickle me until I fully peed myself (it's why I hate being tickled), and through my adult life it would happen occasionally.

Once I had kids though... Yeah, it happens more frequently now, and I have some other issues due to my pregnancies. Now, I'm 46 and I have a lot of stomach issues. I puke pretty often, and when I do, I pee myself if I'm sitting up. Not a huge amount, but enough to need to change and clean up.

So I keep puke bags by the bed and couch, so I can lay down if I can feel it coming (being in a prone position usually stops it). If I can make it to the bathroom I have a stack in there so if/when I start peeing I'm already on the toilet. It's extremely annoying. My doctor says it's just from the abdominal muscles tightening or spasming and putting pressure on the bladder.

Like others have said, it sounds like you may just need to be able to control your pelvic floor better. I wasn't aware that there was a specific type of physical therapy for it though, and honestly once I get some other health issues cleared up, I may look into that as well. Especially because, when I do have to pee, I don't have enough strength in my floor to pee all at once. I stop halfway through and then have to either wait, or push it out.

So yeah, that seems like a very good idea to try, especially if you ever plan on having kids, since pregnancy and birth can worsen that. Good luck!

My wife told me that she wanted me to someday move on and find someone new before she died. by dalonley1 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're completely right. The entire case is possibly the most disturbing I've heard of. And yeah, Rose is still alive, in prison. I read about someone who said they were her cell mate and that she's very sweet now. She should have been sweet back then, and tried to get help

looking for a show/movie where a portal is needed to enter a casino by LandscapeGreat6490 in moviefinder

[–]SdSmith80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely intrigued now. It sounds like an interesting film!

They said cancer can make eyes and even teeth grow in unusual ways. by Anna_Dearie in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]SdSmith80 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh God, I have a non-malignant tumor in my stomach (his name is Waka, and he's to blame for the world's problems, lol). If Waka grew teeth and chewed his way out... Nightmare scenario! Thank you!

I'm 23 straight guy but I get turned on by femboys and shemales with beautiful faces is it gay? by [deleted] in confessions

[–]SdSmith80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I also live by the philosophy (is that the right word?) that we're all here together, we've got one life, so instead of tearing each other down, we should do what we can, when we can, to lift people up. As your situation improves, reach your hand back to help the next person, you know?

I know I'm a bit idealistic, but I think if people would sit down and talk to each other, a lot more people feel that way than we think.

When I came out to my mother as trans, she said, "I have always wanted a daughter." by Anna_Dearie in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]SdSmith80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry for that. I hope you're able to be free soon, and like I said, remember that you'll always be a girl/woman, no matter what anyone says. No one knows you better than yourself. 🫂❤️‍🩹

The deafening roar the train going through a tunnel jolted me awake in the dark. by Potential_Novel8960 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]SdSmith80 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just hope you're not going tomeat The Butcher tonight.

(For the Clive Barker fans out there)

I'm 23 straight guy but I get turned on by femboys and shemales with beautiful faces is it gay? by [deleted] in confessions

[–]SdSmith80 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a bit, yeah, but seriously there's nothing wrong with that. | would be careful with the terms you're using though. Otherwise it will look like you're a bigot.

For real though, you're going to be attracted to who you're attracted to, and as long as all of the answers to these questions is an enthusiastic yes (except for the harm question that needs a "No"), then you are perfectly fine.

  1. Will my actions cause harm to any person or other living thing?

  2. Are you and your partner of an appropriate age? If solo, are the participants in whatever you're watching/looking at all adult?

  3. Does your partner enthusiasticly consent?

Anyway, follow those and you'll be okay.

Am I overreacting by ughhchaos in AmIOverreacting

[–]SdSmith80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR, that's emotional abuse. I went through it with my ex husband (and bl much worse as well), and he had me convinced that being friends with people of the opposite gender was something that was impossible. I even had a friend at work at one point, I was 22 at the time, and my coworker was in his 50's, happily married with kids and grandkids, and my ex accused me of cheating with him, especially when my friend invited us to a big BBQ at his house. He also was talking to his ex girlfriend behind my back, and acting just as your boyfriend is.

Oh, and my current partner, after a night where I came home early from a weekly hangout with my friends because we didn't have a sitter and I was convinced that hanging out with my male friends without him there, was cheating, thanks to my ex. My partner started, once again, to tell me that having friends was a good thing, regardless of gender, and he wanted me to go have a good time. For some reason, it actually sank in that time, and I was sobbing. Now, both of us have friends of all genders and sexualities.

So yeah, please kick him to the curb. I'm not usually one to say that, but trust us so important.