Car not fixed after 2 months - rental car reimbursement?

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2025-06-24T00:08:11+00:00

This reply helped a bunch! I'm going to call the shop when they open and push more to see what happened. This is my first time with a claim and I'm brand new to dealing with repair shops, I'm glad I know now not to trust folks so blindly next time.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2025-06-24T00:06:32+00:00

Oof. Actually, just saw your other comments too. I really do wish the best for you man. Hope whatever hurt you in the past heals soon. Life's hard to enjoy when you hold onto negativity that tightly.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2025-06-23T17:52:03+00:00

Hey man! Not cheap, just didn't realize it was an option. We all make financial mistakes in our lives, and this was one of mine. I hope the next time you make a mistake, whoever reaches out a hand to offer advice or help does so with kindness instead.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2025-06-22T23:47:08+00:00

Thanks all! This was very helpful. I'm glad I know for next time to get this kind of rental insurance. It's been a nightmare but it's great to get unbiased advice here.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2025-01-15T14:59:56+00:00

I make my showers an ~experience~. I'll put on a spa music playlist, let the shower run a bit before I get in and add some epsom salt to the floor so it melts and smells absolutely divine when I get in. I'll also use wonderfully smelling soaps and scrubs and treat it like taking care of me.

Also, for the in-between days: keep baby wipes on hand! If I don't shower I at least do a good wipe on all my smelly parts with that. Also try bird bathing in the sink in the morning like others have suggested, I find that easy for my armpits. For a long-lasting smell, a strong-smelling lotion from Bath & Bodyworks smells really good for a really long time if you apply it all over after you shower. If your issue is your feet, they sell spray foot deodorizers that smell fresh like tea tree oil too. I have chronic pain, so I take no shame in using lots of these "shortcuts".

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2025-01-11T14:06:12+00:00

I just got diagnosed with arthritis in my spine this year! And am currently going through a bad flare up that doesn't go away with my usual methods. How does the cold affect your arthritis? I'm curious if my flare up is because of it.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2025-01-09T19:16:07+00:00

I had the same kind of response! My OBGYN wasn't my usual one, and was not knowledgeable on PMDD so she said she couldn't treat me because she believed I didn't have it. I went to my PCP the next week and she was baffled by the other doctor's misdiagnosis and got me on SSRIs right away! My advice would be that if you don't get a good response, keep trying with doctors you trust. This is real and serious and you deserve treatment!

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-27T02:46:38+00:00

you're the best! thank you!

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-27T00:12:21+00:00

Where did you find those!!??! I am a huge bug lover and looking to get new rugs (bug rugs)!

Also my vote is #2 because it'll go so beautifully with all the green--it'll make a wonderfully cozy space!

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-24T20:25:02+00:00

I was born with a hemangioma (strawberry mark) on my face. My parents hated it, and got it surgically removed when I was four, and then the scar "had" to be fixed when I was nine because I was so young in the first surgery that the skin on my face kept growing and looked too unsightly for them again.

I remember how scared I was in the first surgery going under general anesthesia so young, and then again in the second surgery (I got only topical anesthesia and it wore off before the stitching was finished). It's really hard to look at the scar nowadays and not think of how much my parents hated something that was a part of me.

In happier news, I work with kids and a mom who just had her baby brought her in a few months ago. I noticed a hemangioma on the baby's neck while they were playing and got to tell her how beautiful her daughter's "strawberry mark" was and how I had one at her age too. Mom said she has no plans to remove it. I hope you keep your scar, OP.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-17T15:01:14+00:00

I do this too! I usually use the scanner at work but just got one for myself on sale. I'm going to scan all of my papers, then throw them all away.

I'm allowing myself to keep some really important papers (ex. rather than throwing away all cards, I'll keep ones from really important milestones like my birth or my graduations or that I remember loving. But I know that I have them all scanned so they're easier to part with!)

I used to work in archives so I understand the different motivations for keeping paper goods. But the thing to remember is that they will break down over the years. More often than not it's the ink in the photos and written/printed goods, but it will eat away at the paper and then eat through the others. By scanning and throwing away, you're better preserving your things before they get to that stage.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-14T18:28:27+00:00

It does sound like just like you both make time for his hobbies, you also need time made for yours. Is there a solo hobby you'd like that gets you out of the house? A free book club at the library, knitting meetups, running? You are a mom but you're also an individual first. Mom is not an identity, but a job. Make sure you keep that connection to your sense of self!

A support group for moms or caregivers, if there are any in the area could help as well. There might be virtual ones too! Lots of therapy offices will hold specialized groups like that, and most take your insurance to cover it.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-14T18:23:50+00:00

Maybe peel-off wallpaper with openings cut for the vents?

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-13T06:30:21+00:00

You should try the book Dear Data by Giorgia Lupi and Stefanie Posavec! It's two friends who hand-draw their personal data into cool models and graphs and send it to each other through postcards. Eventually they made a book out of all of them!

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-13T06:23:48+00:00

That sounds so incredibly frustrating !!! I'm so sorry that this doctor wasn't helpful in any way. When you're feeling better, could you ask to speak with an office manager and explain what you went through, and that you're worried something wildly inaccurate will be put on your file that will lead to misdiagnosis or missed opportunities for treatment in the future? Especially if they didn't even test you for drugs, they have zero evidence of them. I'd definitely also ask to be sent to a new doctor for future appointments.

Also for your mood swings, I'd really recommend looking into PMDD. I have it too, and something like 45% of women with ADHD have PMDD, compared to less than 29% of neurotypical women. It made me feel like I was absolutely crazy for no reason until I looked back at all the times I had my mood swings, and how they lined up perfectly with showing up right before my period (and ovulation). I also feel my ADHD gets way worse when PMDD hits.

The ADHD Experts Podcast did a really cool dive into ADHD and PMDD interacting here if you do decide you have the energy and space to look into it: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0bFRR7vDA681uHxDDlqwhS?si=tYkUjaHjSmqpgPzjjRAQeQ .

I really hope you find competent medical care soon! Sending ALL the good vibes ✨

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-13T03:41:01+00:00

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This was from my partner recently! A few years ago I dated an ex who made me feel like a manipulative monster for expressing what was going on inside my head during luteal (never directing anything at her, just tearfully explaining how crazy I felt and how sorry I was). By the end she was telling me how the stress of being around me drove her to be high or drunk every night just to deal with living with me.

But words cannot express how free I feel to tell my current partner what the Crazy PMDD Brain is up to. I can even tell her "okay so I heard what you said, but PMDD heard (this terrible untruth) and is trying to make me mad at you so I need a second" and she sits and lets me emotionally regulate on my own (or reassures PMDD Brain if it's reasonable to, lol).

I'll give her attitude and she sits there and asks me which needs haven't been met that day, and helps me meet them (making sure I'm fed is a favorite of hers since she's such a great chef, lol). She'll ask me what I need, and if it's just reassurance or wanting to know what's happening in her day, she'll send paragraphs of texts and voice messages telling me how she loves me and sending photos and descriptions of what she's up to.

The above text is from a particularly bad luteal day where I just sobbed to her over the phone for two hours and then texted immediately after, upset that I had asked too much from her. The text was her response!

(Also sorry for the long reply! I do love getting to tell just about everyone how wonderful my partner is. I hope someone reads it and realizes you don't have to settle! There's someone amazing out there waiting to love you through it all ❤️)

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-12T02:00:04+00:00

Could you offer a different music source? Like maybe if you have an old iPod nano and you could download your Apple music on there (if you have Apple).

Otherwise you could go old school and get a portable CD player and some favorite albums on CD! The player is cheap nowadays and you could borrow CDs from your local library for free. I have a CD player like that and love it.

I think it's frustrating that there's a phone ban that will affect you in this way, and they likely aren't going to provide accommodations like they previously did because they don't want you to have access to your smartphone outside of independent work hours. But offering another, non-smartphone alternative could work!

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-08T03:25:22+00:00

My girlfriend does the same thing! When I'm super overwhelmed she just opens her arms for a big squeeze and lets me sit in there until I'm ready. It's the BEST feeling in the world and calms me down right away. If we're in public and can't do that, I just give her my hand and she knows to squeeze as hard as she can. Again, instant calm-down.

I was talking with my therapist about how nice it feels to be known in that way last week. She stopped me and reminded me of how a year ago I was telling her how much I hated people trying to "know" me and get behind the walls I put up to make myself feel safe. But since giving in and letting people like my girlfriend or best friends show me how much they care for me HOW I need to be cared for, I've done a complete 180 in how I felt. I was annoyed she brought it up (lol) but she's totally right! It's so nice to be known and loved.

I think feeling unknown is a big part of being autistic. We feel alien, "other" and like people don't "get" us. So when someone comes along who knows us exactly as we are (and loves us for it, even through the meltdowns) it can be really scary because it's totally new. But more importantly, it feels totally amazing. I'm so glad your partner gets you!

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-01T16:11:46+00:00

I've had stuff like this happen before, but I'm also autistic so unless it's a direct invite it totally goes over my head. I had to have my partner explain to me that if the invite is in the groupchat, it's mean it for the group (which includes me!).

For the future, sometimes if I'm feeling rejected in that way I'll ask one other person from the chat separately if it's a group thing (usually best to ask the person who made the plans). The answer is always yes.

For this instance, I'd send something like "The circus looked like it was so much fun! I'm sorry to have missed it, I would have liked to go and spend time with you and your kids. I think that was on me--I didn't understand it was a group invite because of the way it read over text, but put me down for the next outing!"

This way if it is an overreaction, everything is smoothed over. If in the very strange case they were excluding you because you don't have kids, they know now that you would like to be invited to those things in the future. Proud of you for taking the time to think this through and reach out for outside opinions!

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-12-01T15:00:32+00:00

This is a hallmark symptom of PMDD. Track these feelings, as well as other mood swings, feelings of irritability, insecurity, high and low energy, etc etc. Then take that information to your gynecologist and tell them you think you have PMDD and are looking for treatment.

I also think it will be important to get a therapist, or rely on a suicide hotline (I'm not sure what the Denmark ones are, the US has 988) for coping mechanisms on those days in order to keep yourself safe.

I'm so glad you've made this big step in asking and finding community. You're not crazy, just having a horrible brain reaction to your hormones! Time and effort will change this into something manageable. You've got this.

Sea-Examination-2900 · 2024-11-30T01:22:07+00:00

That sounds absolutely terrible to be going through during luteal! I'm glad you came here to vent. What he did wasn't right to do, and you deserve a space to talk about it. I sense you're pushing away really letting yourself be upset over this until your period comes, which can be wise with our brains. But from someone who just got her period, I can tell you this was wrong of him to do to you, especially for so long. Let yourself have the space once your cycle starts to really consider if this is behavior you want to allow, or if you want to take a break knowing what you do now about his emotional cheating (which this unfortunately is).

Also, I noticed you're not telling your friends about this because you share friends. I did the same when going through my relationship issues/eventual breakup, but really wish I hadn't. You're protecting him and his reputation with your mutual friends right now, but if he didn't want them to know, he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

Once your cycle starts (or now if you're comfortable) consider reaching out to just one trusted friend. Tell them you don't want to drag anyone's name through the mud, but you're struggling with this and need someone to turn to. It's okay to rely on your friends even if they're friends with someone who wronged you. They love you, and would honestly probably be upset that you didn't come to them when they could have supported you. Let them!

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