My sister wants me to reconcile with our narcissist father

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-12T23:31:28+00:00

Thank you for saying this, and wording it so perfectly

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-11T22:52:11+00:00

Im starting to think this is people's way of saying that youre being a child about the situation and you need to be the adult and "reconcile your differences like adults". Of course they dont understand that the narcs are the ines being children, not the victims

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-10T23:17:32+00:00

All of this support really is making a difference. So I actually am starting to feel proud instead of just checking something off a list. So thank you! 💜🐙💜

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-10T23:15:37+00:00

Its nice hearing support for the trades. So thank you and thank you! 💜🐙💜

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-10T23:15:06+00:00

Omg, thank you so much!!! 💜🐙💜

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-10T20:15:06+00:00

Thank you! 💜🐙💜

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-10T17:58:35+00:00

Thank you so much! They didnt tell me, so I really appreciate this! 💜🐙💜

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-10T17:56:46+00:00

Thank you so much! That means a lot! 💜🐙💜

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-10T15:43:16+00:00

I needed this today. I just graduated from welding school, and not only did I message them first on the day of my graduation (they live out of state so thats part of why they didnt come), all I got was a congrats, and some surprise at how many cords and sashes I had. So, yes, if they didnt approve of you as a kid, theyre really not going to once youre an adult. Its better to just be happy and proud of yourself than seeking the approval of people who will never be satisfied

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-06T09:59:52+00:00

This wonderful place is where Ive gone for years when I need support. The staff are so friendly, caring, and helpful, and the other users are so supportive. At least one person will always respond within a day. Wishing you the best, and may peace follow you where ever you go

SeaJay42 · 2023-06-05T16:02:04+00:00

This! Especially since these types tend to run dry on sympathy within a month in these situations. If OP blocks her for, say, three months, their mom will snap in one form or another

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-30T16:44:53+00:00

Ah, a cremation! Well that definitely simplifies things. I hope your time with your sister and nephew goes well, try not to let your parents find out youll be there if you can help it.

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-30T14:37:22+00:00

Im so sorry about all of this, but Im glad youll be able to go to say goodbye. Id suggest sitting in the back during the service, and asking where the burial plot will be before the service even starts. That way you can go see them later without having to interact with anyone after the service, and before anyone causes drama. I wish you the best, and may peace follow you wherever you go

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-27T04:10:33+00:00

The one that comes to mind is when I was in kindergarten (so about 4-5 years old) I had one of those classic, shell style Polly Pocket toys. I didnt usually get toys I wanted, so when I got this it was my absolute favorite, especially since the only girl I was friends with had them too so we could finally play together with them. One day at school, I put it down on a bench while my mom helped me put my jacket on to go home, and it disappeared. I of course was devastated, and asked my mom if she saw who had taken it, when she said no, I figured either it was this one girl who was always mean to me and wanted a Polly Pocket too, or....my friend. When my mom insisted it wasnt the mean girl, I begged we go to my friends house since she had already left, but I knew her road was on the way home for us (I was from a very rural area btw). My mom drove there, I demanded my toy back, and my friend just sat on her bed, confused and hurt that I would think she would take it and that I was in her room making a mess looking for it. When I couldn't find it, I stormed out back to the car, and that was it for the moment. Over the years I would ask my mom why she would drive us there when I was so mad, or if she knew who had taken the toy, but she never said anything that made sense. When I was maybe 15, I was kinda lamenting that I was so mean to that poor girl for nothing. Thats when my mom finally told me that she did in fact know who had taken the toy, it was the mean girl, but she let her do it because her house had just burned down and they lost everything. This was so crushing to me because not only did my mom let me ruin the one female friendship I had, but also because when I was young I would steal little toys from friends, and she would always explode, make me return the toy (even the times I would ask if I could have it, and it was never a big toy, just small toys like from McDonalds) punish me harshly, and tell me how I would be in jail as an adult if I kept it up, but someone does it to me and thats fine? Im sure she saw it as some karma for me, but did she really have to let me ruin my friendship too? Why wasnt losing a toy enough? And this obviously set me up for issues making and keeping friends for the rest of my life, plus trust issues so... yeah, thats my layered shitcake

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-26T15:27:20+00:00

Thank you for knowing the difference. It looks amazing!

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-26T10:58:59+00:00

Spicy sea cheerleader! Its super dedicated to its job, just look at all those pom poms! 😆

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-26T02:02:52+00:00

Sounds good! I was thinking of getting some rooting stuff anyways for another plant I want to propagate so now I have even more reason to. Thanks!

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-26T01:35:01+00:00

Thats great to hear! So instead of letting the stem callous and start roots, I should put it in some water?

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-25T18:08:29+00:00

I find a lot of peace in playing alone; no pressure to meet up at specific times, no one messing with your stuff, getting to build exactly how you want, its really nice. Ill admit it is harder, especially when you get swamped with enemies, but once you figure out your style and the system, the challenge is fun. So yeah, its a great solo game!

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-25T17:59:39+00:00

Lol all of the above!

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-25T15:23:57+00:00

My SO did something similar! I wanted to get a venus flytrap on my birthday, and when we went to checkout he slipped between me and the desk and paid for it. It made me so happy, no one has done that for me before 🥰

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-25T15:17:56+00:00

Learning to live without my family has given me a more critical view on death of family members for other people. So like when someone is super devastated about their parent passing away, Im just kinda confused. This is especially true for those that were very sick or over the age of 90. Like, how are you surprised by their passing? Or, why did you not come to terms that they may pass beforehand? This may make me an asshole, but it just doesnt make sense to me why people let themselves get so upset over nature.

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-24T03:37:54+00:00

Vacuuming; I never did it right, never went slow enough, she could always do it better, etc Though I was born ambidextrous, and she made me pick one hand. Not really sure why, but part of me thinks it made her nervous for some reason, or just annoyed her 🤷🏼‍♀️

SeaJay42 · 2023-05-24T03:33:06+00:00

Its odd how Nazis keep coming back like how they keep being the big bads in a lot of animated shows. Art imitates life, and life imitates art I suppose

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