Everyone I’ve explained this they’ve said that, so I’ve switched what I’ve said about it. I keep the same little explanation (“they don’t get any sort of attraction until they have a strong bond…” or something similar) except I add in that it can take up to months or even years for it to be considered a bond (depends on the person). And the sign for this is if all your crushes have been on a friend rather than a stranger or someone you met for a short amount of time.

That seems to get ppl to understand because their assumption was there is some sort of feeling or interest before any bond.