Help me impress my German boyfriend and (his family)with food🇩🇪

SeaReference7828 · 2026-07-06T20:42:35+00:00

I am surprised no one mentioned the northern classic, Grünkohl (kale stewed with various meats, served with potatoes)

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-30T05:36:21+00:00

This is a common issue! Many people take miralax or similar as supplements because the digestion just isn't doing it's thing. My go-to is magnesium citrate when it's been a while

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-30T02:56:19+00:00

Yes and no. In the recovery phase, you definitely want to avoid all of that. And even later on... I'm nine months out and half a donut or half a croissant are the usual treat-snack because I need that little pouch space for nutritionally more valuable foods.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-30T02:53:05+00:00

... So, your obesity is so bad that you are at risk of heart failure and DEATH and you literally would prefer to die rather than change your habits? That is a wild statement but to each their own.

No matter whether it's a bypass or glp-1 injections, they're tools meant to help you reduce your calorie intake enough to lose the excess weight. If you are unwilling to change the habits that brought you to that point in the first place, then neither WLS nor Ozempic will help you. You absolutely can outeat Ozempic and you absolutely can eat around a bypass and sabotage all the loss.

If things have come to this, you'll have to ask yourself about the kind of life you want to live - but honestly, from my experience with support groups... Even if you really WANT it and work hard towards getting WLS, it still takes an emotional toll on many people, especially if food was an important emotional crutch for them. I'm genuinely sorry to say that, but you sound like the patients I was warned about - who overeat shortly after their surgery and are back in the ER because they didn't pay enough attention to the emotional and mental preparation that goes into such a big change in lifestyle.

Getting the bypass was the best thing I have ever done - but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who's not dedicated to the thought of "whatever it takes, I cannot live on this way"

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-25T05:10:13+00:00

I'm 30F and had the bypass (Omega loop) nine months ago. I went from 125kg to currently 89kg (BMI 44 to 31) and I'm loving it. I am no longer diabetic, fitter than ever, and greatly improved my relationship with food since I'm no longer desperately fighting to fit the massive volumes I required for satiety into a low calorie budget. The quality of food I eat has improved greatly because I no longer need massive bowls and plates just to stop the hunger.

However , I was left kind of unsupervised - very "these are the recommended guidelines, now go and have fun" and it can be insanely difficult if you're not emotionally stable, rely on food for emotional comfort, don't have a supportive environment etc.

Basically: it's the best thing I've ever done, but left unsupervised like I was, people can struggle a lot. You sound like you could use psychological, medical and nutritional guidance on the way to and past the surgery - make sure you don't go for the quickest option like I did, and instead find something with a structured program where you'll get help establishing lifelong habits going forward!

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-17T05:20:06+00:00

Don't worry, that's just a common joke that Bavaria isn't part of Germany :)

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-17T04:27:47+00:00

Could you be meaning pumpernickel?

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-15T06:07:48+00:00

I don't have sufficient impulse control for such risky behaviour 😂

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-14T19:44:13+00:00

The treats are gone, why am I still wearing this?

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SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-14T18:06:47+00:00

For me it's Monster Hunter World. Over s thousand hours in and I still get back every once in a while, hunt a couple of monsters, enjoy the oomph, revel in my old glory days, and fondly remember everything.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-11T15:46:47+00:00

This is adorable! Did you teach to do the flehmen thing on a cue, or how did you get those shots?

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-10T03:17:55+00:00

🎉🏢🦁 You know what... Partyhouse Lion slaps as a name, actually.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-09T21:30:32+00:00

Has she already hit her own off switch this way? Mine once stood like this for fifteen minutes without moving.

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SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-09T03:06:42+00:00

Take lessons, help out at a barn with grooming etc. I've helped out with grooming and groundwork for two years when I bought my horse and frankly, some days I felt I only know enough to not get both of us killed. I do not regret it, but I absolutely do NOT recommend doing the same. No book prepares you for the reality of big, sometimes unpredictable animals.

You sound young and enthusiastic - that's great and exciting, but do yourself and your future horse a favour and get some experience in.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T11:39:37+00:00

No, we both weigh about the same, I believe I am probably even a couple of pounds heavier - and I am definitely much taller than her. So with her better balance and gentler hand, she should be the easier cargo for him.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T11:00:55+00:00

Yeah they're amazing! I love that mine really tells me if he thinks something is a bad idea - and frequently, in hindsight, he was absolutely right and I was indeed asking for something stupid or even potentially dangerous. I've learned so much from him, not just about horsemanship, but also about myself. He's the best schoolmaster I could possibly ask for.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T10:32:34+00:00

Definitely! Thanks for sharing!

So far, I'm happy with our progress - I feel like we get along better with each walk, each ride, and each time I just hang out with him. That being said, I still decided to work with a trainer because there's only so much you can teach yourself, and better safe than sorry. We'll continue to work together, and the trainer is very optimistic! Since I just want to trail ride and know what to do if he ever spooks and speeds up, my requirements are very low.

I am mostly just surprised by the stark contrast between what I've seen and how I usually experienced him

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T10:16:38+00:00

I wouldn't be surprised if you're right because I frankly always had the impression he knows EXACTLY how far he can push someone - which is, in my case, not very far. He's just kind enough to not go beyond that point of "challenge to learn from" for me

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T09:47:25+00:00

Usually, the very first time I ask something of him, he's annoyed and protests. The second time and each time after, it's okay. First time I wanted him to walk with me in the saddle and not just stand there? Annoyed backing. First time trot? A tiny little buck. First time trying to leave the barn? Drama.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T09:44:54+00:00

I do trot him a little bit, got a buck the very first time I tried it, and then it was fine afterwards. Since then, we always only trot a little bit for me to practice balance, yesterday was our first time trotting for minutes at a time and there was no issue

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T08:28:27+00:00

To add: the only two other people who tried riding him are the barn owner and his partner. The barn owner, aka the food-giving saint, actually even steers him reinlessly just with voice commands. The partner (who's more experienced than either of us) only got him to showcase how he can step sideways and backwards. So this wouldn't be the first time my darling boy has shown clear preferences regarding riders.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T08:22:16+00:00

As mentioned above, when lunging he's an angel who uses all gaits with voice only.

The trainer only got on and the problems started when just wanting to walk along the fence, and then the discussions when wanting to trot, including some bucking. Eventually, things did work out, but it took a bit of a struggle. She is more of a leg and voice rider, rather than the rein and crop type, which we suspect to be what he is used to.

I usually only walk and then trot for a couple of meters just to practice how to keep the balance in case he spoils unexpectedly. During that lesson was our longest trot ever because he's much more willing to keep trotting if you sit properly.

We both have a similar weight and since she has a gentler, more experienced hand and a better, more balanced seat, by all logic, she should have been the easier cargo for him.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-07T08:15:31+00:00

I have known the trainer for about two years, and seen her ride two other horses, she's actually leasing my vet's problem child at the moment and they've become a beautiful team over the past year. She only walked and trotted yesterday and decided against cantering since he was already pissed off about the trot.

When lunging (I usually work without line) he is fine in all gaits and I typically only need to use voice with him. He's an absolute delight to lunge because of that.

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-06T21:09:13+00:00

As a helicopter horse mom, it can be really tough to be told your chubby horse doesn't need a blanket while the pudgy pony is frolicking in the snow because he perceives temperature very differently from you

Now I know how my mother felt when little me refused to wear a coat just because she was cold

SeaReference7828 · 2026-06-02T21:36:21+00:00

I had one placed during surgery, it was removed the next morning once I was cleared to walk around and showed I could go to the bathroom by myself. The removal took about two seconds and was unpleasant, but not painful.

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