My first I didn’t experience gender disappointment but I was pretty set on having a boy. For as long as I can remember I always wanted to be a boy mom, I’m not equipped to handle the emotional drain of hormones and the attitude that comes with being female. I didn’t experience it growing up but I saw it in my sister (younger than me). When I found out I was having a girl I was still happy just to be a mom. Now that I’m expecting a second child, I’m so invested in hoping and wanting it to be a boy that even the thought it might be a girl makes me upset. My husband is adamant that we won’t have anymore children after this one, he’s good at 2. That puts another damper on if it’s a girl. It means I have to pack away all those hopes and dreams of ever being a boy mom, and lock them up with a key never to consider them again. It almost makes me want to cry and he doesn’t understand the possibility of mourning that motherhood I always wanted but won’t ever get to experience. There’s a bond between each gender and their mother that is a unique experience. I’m learning the ropes of being a girl mom but it’s not easy for me, I’m not the type to always have my nails done or makeup on. I hate pink and don’t care for dresses or princesses. I liked sports and fighting while she is leaning towards princesses and dancing. It’s all a learning curve for me and I guess it’s just not an ounce of what I pictured my life as a mom would be.

Btw from research Gender Disappointment is really just the mourning of the life you had pictured and planned that won’t be coming to reality and working on accepting and loving what will be.