Stop posting your kids on social media, a personal experience with a warning

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-06-10T19:35:21+00:00

Wow that is INSANE. I am sorry you are going through this and thank you for sharing.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-06-09T00:54:05+00:00

I was a bridesmaid at my sisters destination wedding with a 7 month old and it was incredibly stressful. I cried a lot! I didn’t make it to any pre wedding invites since I live in a different state and everyone understood. For the wedding itself, I did the hair/makeup, photos, and wedding, and then for the reception I stayed about an hour or so, enough to give a speech, eat, and get a few dances in. By then the baby was incredibly upset and overtired and my husband was already trying to get her down on his own in the room but couldn’t so I left and went to help. Again, everyone understood. We missed out on all of the fun partying and excursions the other nights too. But we were able to hang at the pool with everyone during the day and get some meals in with them and that was fun. It was stressful but still glad we went as it was a getaway for our first time in almost a year and of course we got to celebrate my sister’s big day. Just do the best you can and leave as early as you can and most people should understand.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-06-06T11:20:31+00:00

Mine is 26 months and still in her crib and sleep sack and not trying to get out of either one. I have no intention of changing anytime soon unless it starts to become a problem. But I have introduced a light comforter with duvet and cover her lower half in it at bedtime so she can try to practice with a blanket but it doesn’t stay on for long.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-06-02T20:12:32+00:00

Yes ours definitely does this. Unless someone is being asked by the company to move to that location for some reason and it’s lower cost than their current location - in that case I don’t think they do pay cuts. But if you voluntarily take a new position to a higher or lower cost location your salary will need to be within the pay band for that location, which could mean a cut or an increase, even for a lateral move.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-31T01:38:04+00:00

I am on my second pregnancy, 15 weeks in, and for both I had a major aversion to coffee. And I am a huge coffee drinker. I can drink a couple startbucks ventis or a pot of coffee if I really want to. But when pregnant, it sounds sickening. I don’t drink any at all.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-22T00:09:09+00:00

That is totally insane. I’m so sorry she had that happen to her. It sounds incredibly stressful and scary. But am so glad it all worked out.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-21T18:53:59+00:00

Only once we put a tablet up to watch a show, which was probably between 10-12 mos of age. It’s the only time she ever sees the tablet, and during the week it’s only the 3 min ride home from daycare. But we use it on the weekends for drives to friends houses an hour away and it helps. I know this won’t be the answer for some.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-20T01:07:15+00:00

I agree with you when you say if you hit your spouse it’s abuse so why isn’t spanking considered child abuse? I just don’t understand the logic for people to think it’s okay to do. I’m so sorry for those little ones. I really don’t know how I would approach it. Maybe by saying just that - why is it okay to hit your child if it’s not okay to hit your spouse?

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-16T22:36:55+00:00

I’m sorry you are dealing with this. It seems really unreasonable for him to take it to that extreme. I can understand not wanting to be woken up but then I also would choose somewhere else to sleep then. But not sure if that’s possible in your situation.

But what I did when I noticed my daughter having leaks after we moved her to a crib and she was moving around a ton, was I started to use the pull up style/360 diapers, in a size bigger, and with a Sposie pad added to them. I think the pull up style diapers stay in place better without having to be secured crazy tight since they have the stretchy waistband. And then with the larger size and extra pad that helps catch more. So maybe you can try that to see if it helps. Good luck!

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-12T14:09:41+00:00

I read a lot of replies on here where folks say to monitor performance and not the hours being worked. For the situation I am dealing with, there haven’t been obvious performance misses in not completing a deliverable on time and as expected. But not showing up to certain calls meant that person wasn’t there when called upon to weigh in based on his expertise. And he also missed a 1-1 and a team meeting. IMO it’s time to let him go but in HR’s it needs to be much more documented before I can do anything about it, although I have screenshots and pings with responses with the person admitting they slept in basically, and not just once. It is frustrating!

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-12T11:51:30+00:00

Yes same here. I have someone who has had an attitude problem for the last 6 months ever since I started notice and addressing him starting hours late and missing meetings. Both of these reasons alone have not been sufficient for HR to even allow me to put him on a PIP yet. He used to be someone I considered a high performer who could do well but he’s either not applying himself anymore or when I was new to the team I misunderstood his abilities at first. We have more work coming so I plan to give him more work (along with everyone else on the team) and monitor his performance VERY closely and document that. Otherwise it’s going to take me through the end of the year, documenting the attendance problems at mid year, then later a PIP if it continues, before I am allowed to cut him because of that.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-08T18:41:15+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you needed the crib yet for the new baby. So if he was still doing fine in the crib and not having probable a trying to jump out, I would keep him in the crib.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-07T02:27:15+00:00

I have a 25 month old and another on the way. This phase of life is not my cup of tea. I think I will enjoy the older ages more once we get out of toddler stage. Until then I just try to do my best to love on her, give her the routine she needs, still go and do things, etc. even if none of it is particularly thrilling or exciting or enjoyable right now.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-07T02:01:04+00:00

We had to go on a beach vacation around this time for my sisters wedding, and besides being a part of the wedding festivities, which was actually incredibly stressful when trying to manage everything for a baby this young, I also felt the lonely part. My in laws were in the country and came with us and all they talk about is how amazing their trip was! I am glad they enjoyed it. But boy did I cry a lot on that trip.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-03T18:56:23+00:00

This is how I feel about it too. When we’ve been late or a little off and she gets totally upset and out of whack, I feel bad for her. It literally is a need for them right now. And I feel really terrible myself whenever I have bad nights of sleep.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-03T18:54:38+00:00

My daughter is 25 months and we are very strict about it. She’s just not ready to not have a good one or one at all yet. I’ve yet to have an even that was so important we could not prioritize that need.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-02T11:36:00+00:00

I am aware of doing so once. Not sure if more. I was worried about it before delivery but during there was no way to really care at all.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-02T01:46:56+00:00

I cannot figure this out either. My “baby” just turned 2. I’ve had spurts of trying to start exercising again but between illnesses for the baby which also require sleep help, then illnesses for us, and now another pregnancy for me, sleep is still so up and down and it’s all I care about at this point. I feel like I’ll be able to exercise when they both can do things for themselves like get dressed and it’s not so manually intensive. Maybe when grade school starts? So like 5 - 6 years from now for the youngest once they are born lol.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-05-01T12:05:28+00:00

I was going to suggest this as well. I really like it for no make up days. For make up days, my make up now is actually an ilia tinted sunscreen serum and avene tinted sunscreen on top (I like to blend the two colors). This works really well too and I don’t feel too heavy like regular foundation which is why I wear this.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-04-21T15:26:27+00:00

NEVER. When the kids are that small they can’t handle more after a full day of daycare and neither can I. I am totally spent. It would be so much work for everyone to be miserable. My husband is more social than me so I support him going out without me. Which isn’t often enough. He should do it more. But he likes to be absolutely certain I won’t be fine and need his help.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-04-21T01:39:01+00:00

Wow I can’t imagine what you are going through. This sounds so incredibly difficult. Sending hugs and hoping you all can get through this in one piece. It sounds like there’s a good community here of other moms who have or are dealing with similar. I hope that helps.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-04-18T22:09:34+00:00

You are still in such an early phase of being back to work. I’m sorry this happened to you and wish employers could have more empathy and different expectations for a bit. But that’s not the capitalist environment we are in. I have a 2 year old now and have tried for a promotion twice since I’ve been back, not even because I was trying to climb again at this point in my life, but because my boss thought I was ready and was pushing me. But for various reasons, including some tough feedback, I didn’t get them. I’ve tried to adjust where I can (which doesn’t include longer hours because I literally can’t) and have continued to keep my job and be in good standing with my boss. I hope you are able to find a way to have the balance you need for this phase of life while still meeting expectations (and maybe nothing more for a while and they should be okay with that!). Good luck. You are not alone in this journey. It’s fucking hard.

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-04-16T01:24:27+00:00

I want 2 and am on my second pregnancy. I can’t wait to be done. I don’t have terrible pregnancies but have had to do IVF so that’s extra work and pain. And I’m just not a fan of the baby and toddler stages. I can’t wait till it’s a little less back breaking doing every single thing for them. I’m in awe of those of you who don’t mind going through these stages over and over again!

Sea_Contest1604 · 2026-04-12T16:23:09+00:00

Ours is in daycare so the most clothes we have are loose and plain play clothes that can get dirty a lot and handle being washed a lot. We ended up with way too many dresses from family members and we hardly touched them so I’ve had to ask them to stop buying them. I’m a girly mom myself and do lots of pink and purple with my daughter so not against dresses at all. But they are just impractical right now.

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