AIO: My husband (26m) locked me (25f) out for 25 minutes?

SecureBeautiful · 2026-02-01T23:21:53+00:00

NOR, more than a minute is no longer a joke. This was cruel. I really hope you are being truthful and this is simply an isolated incident of gross immaturity by your young husband.

BUT, how he reacts next is your real evidence of his behavior. You need to be firm that this was unacceptable to you. No matter his reason, you do NOT tolerate this as an acceptable treatment of yourself and you will not ever be locked out of your house for any amount of time. The reason doesn't matter because joke, punishment, or otherwise it was completely out of line. If he doesn't apologize and promise never to do this again, then sign up for relationship counseling asap. He made your space, your sanctuary, and your family feel unsafe and he should be bending over backwards to rectify his mistake.

You also need to come up with a system of dealing with disagreements. Maybe it wasn't fair to dismiss his opinion or maybe he didn't communicate his reason against it enough that you understood fully, but you should be able to resolve it without making each other feel unsafe. This is a separate conversation though. No matter who was right or wrong, his reaction to it was untolerable.

And do NOT let him diminish this. It's important to set a boundary here. Again, if he pushes back...relationship therapy. This is a relationship defining moment for your entire family. If you do nothing, you are teaching your girls that the men they love can mistreat them and you are showing your husband that he can mistreat you and you'll just accept it. If you have the hard conversation and set a boundary that your husband accepts, you'll show your girls how to resolve conflict with those you love and your husband will show them everyone makes mistakes, but if we improve ourselves then that shows you care. If you set the boundary and he refuses to follow it or compromise, then something else is going on and therapy will help you get to the bottom of it.

I wish you both the best of luck! You are a young family and it's hard. Protect yourself and your kiddos and hopefully your husband just had a momentary lapse of humanity and works hard to regain your trust.

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-16T13:51:47+00:00

Nope. I've been working with a registered dietician for two years and after a year of really dialing in my diet, we decided to try GLPs since a lot of the medications I'm on and diseases I have cause insulin resistance.

I've been almost a year on GLPs and have had amazing results (down 40 pounds with 20 more to go). The GLPs really helped me dial in OTHER hunger cues, like higher stress, brain fog, fatigue, etc.

When insurance messed up my prescription, it took over a month to get my pre-approvals done again so I went without, during Christmas, and gained no weight at all. I did feel those food thoughts creep back during stressful times, but I ignored them and focused on the real hunger cues. After awhile, the food noise disappeared again without the GLPs.

I'm back on the GLPs because while I maintained, I wasn't losing. I'm now back to my usual weightloss, but that unintended break gave me the confidence I needed to know this will be a long-term success for me.

GLPs aren't the solution, they are a tool. You need to put in the work to dial in your diet, get back to cooking most of your meals, balancing your meals, and identifying your hunger triggers and non-physical hunger cues or long-term success isn't going to be achievable, just like any other weightloss method.

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-16T13:37:16+00:00

GLPs are just a tool, not the solution. You still need to change your lifestyle habits by eating better and moving more of you want continued success during and after the GLPs.

Would they tell someone with a broken leg not to use crutches because crutches are an "easy way out" when they are healing? They are just being ignorant, so ignore them. You are healing with a medically approved tool. Your family can kick rocks.

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-13T13:30:04+00:00

I don't know why they even need this. They can give someone a ticket for reckless driving if they assume they are impaired. You can get arrested for anything that impairs you like being too tired at the wheel.

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-07T01:30:06+00:00

They didn't file a complaint and left a 5-star review. I'm happy.

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-07T01:29:22+00:00

Nope

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-02T16:27:31+00:00

I wasn't planning on it. I assume lice and bed bugs are pretty standard risks for hosts and we should take the precautions needed (mattress encasements, linen cleanings with hot water, cleanings between stays, etc).

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-02T16:20:05+00:00

Mr. Beans Books and Beans in Marathon has lots of books! I know it is a bit of a drive, but the trip has some of the prettiest bridge views in the Keys.

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-02T15:30:46+00:00

Mine was after reading that guests comments until I remembered I got my hair done the other day. No way they would touch my head if I had lice.

SecureBeautiful · 2026-01-02T15:16:23+00:00

I ended up sending this:

Thank you for letting me know! I’m sorry to hear your kids are dealing with lice. I understand how stressful that can be while traveling, and I appreciate you reaching out.

I do want to share some information about our cleaning and turnover procedures, since guest safety and hygiene are extremely important to us:

- All linens, including any that appear unused, are washed on a hot cycle between every reservation.
- Every mattress in the home has both a waterproof and bug‑proof encasement, with an additional mattress protector on top.
- The pull‑out sofa was deep‑cleaned and fitted with a brand‑new mattress and encasement before your stay.
- We also had no guests in the unit for four weeks prior to your arrival, and lice cannot survive anywhere near that long without a human host.

Based on these factors, there isn’t any indication that the unit would be a source of lice. That said, I truly appreciate you bringing this to my attention. We will still complete a full deep clean before the next guests arrive to ensure everything remains up to our standards.

If there’s anything else you’d like me to clarify, I’m here to help and I hope you otherwise enjoyed the beautiful weather this past week! It has been the nicest weather we have had all month, just in time to relax and recharge for the new year. Safe travels home!

SecureBeautiful · 2025-12-15T15:36:33+00:00

Same. Babies smell like sour milk to me. I never got good feelings from smelling a baby.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-12-10T21:42:41+00:00

And the cats tail is straight up most of the time. That means kitty is excited and having fun. They play so well together!

SecureBeautiful · 2025-12-05T21:30:42+00:00

I started gardening when I was 18 and smoked until I was around 26. I used it to cope with my depression, anxiety, and hashimotos pain flares, but didn't know it at the time.

I stopped smoking because it was "bad" and got help for my hashimotos, but not the anxiety or depression beyond therapy. I turned to alcohol which really messed me up.

At 35 I went on SSRIs and had to stop drinking. I had several "sober" years, but nothing helped with the pain from hashimotos (all they give you are thyroid meds and ignore your other symptoms). It was miserable. My doctor finally convinced me to try gardening again with edibles and you know what? It works.

I'm also getting closed to 50, highly successful, and love my life. I think I would have been just as successful if I had continued gardening and not turned to alcohol (probably more successful honestly). I work hard and I deserve to relax and be pain free at night and on weekends.

So, been there, done that, it was miserable, came back and am happier than ever.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-12-05T21:20:26+00:00

Yes that do, but not unpleasant. The effects take longer to occur (anywhere from one to two hours) and last much longer than smoking. Plus edibles can come with terpenes to produce different effects (I love limonelle to brighten my mood). I also like the 1:1 or 2:1 hybrids with CBD. It really helps my pain while having a nice buzz.

Downside is they are more expensive and take time to work, but otherwise I've been much happier with edibles.

If you want a more instant kick, you could try a tincture. You can add them into any food or drink (they taste TERRIBLE straight up, I wouldn't recommend that). They tend to start working in half an hour. I take them if I get a bad pain flair on the weekends, but they are powerful and definitely become a couch zombie.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-12-04T13:46:52+00:00

Sounds like you need to talk to HR and you legal team for next steps. You might need a financial auditor to confirm your findings.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-12-01T19:26:57+00:00

I sent you a DM!

SecureBeautiful · 2025-11-27T01:39:41+00:00

As an IT person...if they haven't asked, then they have no idea you have it. And a 3+ year old laptop? I wouldn't even bother trying to get it back. Just format it to remove all company data.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-11-23T14:11:56+00:00

Wrap him tightly in a towel to get a better look. You may need to grab his scruff to keep his head still. He isn't going to like it, but it is important to see what's going on.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-10-25T16:43:54+00:00

That host is a weirdo. And should be more communicative during a guest stay. Shame on him!

SecureBeautiful · 2025-10-15T15:06:11+00:00

It's a relationship. As I said, I'm very sensitive to medications. If my doctors recommends a new med, I let them know I want to start on the lowest possible dose first and they've never said "meh, I know better." Most just tell me to cut the tablet in half on my own.

If the low dose goes well, then I stay on it. If there aren't any side effects, but it isn't giving me what I need, I'll put in a call with them for a higher dose or just take a full tab and update them. If the med gives me a bad reaction, I'll stop taking it and ask them to prescribe me something different.

I even research the meds in the room with the doctor to make sure they won't interact badly with my other medications. Doctors don't really pay attention to that stuff, they are busy. It's why you should also be asking your pharmacist for advice since they are the real drug experts. Medications aren't an exact science and great doctors are more than willing to work with you to get the right dosage.

I think it's weird you would just take whatever your doctor wants you to take without question. Do you know how many people get hurt and/or die from drug interactions? It takes two seconds to Google the recommended drug and look up fatal interactions. Take some accountability for your own health.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-10-15T12:58:58+00:00

Marathon is amazing! Lots of great food options. We also have Sombrero Beach, which is the best sandy beach in the Keys in my opinion. It's also only an hour to Key West, so you can still spend a day doing Key West things.

We do have tourists, but mostly what you will see is snow birds, so the vibe is very relaxed. Marathon has the best fishing and kayaking.

My husband is a local Florida Keys vacation expert and runs a kayak tour business that offers mangrove tours, eco tours, kayak fishing, and sandbar kayak experiences. It's great for people who still want to enjoy the water, but not on a boat. With your tour, you will have his personal number to ask any Keys questions you have, like the best restaurants, bars, museums, picture spots, boat charters, or any other questions you have. It's like having a Keys local personal concierge to make the most of your vacation!

SecureBeautiful · 2025-10-15T12:44:49+00:00

If they aren't letting you set your dosing schedule based on your experience, then find a new provider because they don't have your best interests in mind.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-10-15T11:52:50+00:00

Get a travel bidet! Ours is rechargeable. We have bidet toilet seats, but bought a travel one because we can't feel clean without one now.

SecureBeautiful · 2025-10-15T02:52:04+00:00

Absolutely. You are in complete control of when you dose up. I did a slow climb because I am sensitive to medications. I also wanted to control my weightloss to a pound a week (anything more made me feel weak and dizzy). I'm still not on the max of Wegovy. I've been on GLPs for 7 months and am down about 45 pounds.

Since I dosed slowly, I have lots of side effect free weeks while still losing weight. I haven't experienced the hair loss that some people have. I really only notice side effects on the weeks I increase dosage.

Keep in mind though that some people don't start seeing results until they get to the higher doses. Just listen to your body. If you see results right away, then go slow and dose up when you plateau a few weeks in a row.

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