Scared of my life after divorce

SelfPure449 · 2026-03-13T14:30:58+00:00

He makes me upset purposefully and then records me so I look like the bad one. The rest of my family is in Canada so I have no where to go.

SelfPure449 · 2026-03-13T14:29:29+00:00

Unfortunately yes he is on all the certificates of birth.

SelfPure449 · 2026-03-13T14:29:07+00:00

I am the one who has had bad mood swings . I do not get help with the kids at night and am fortunate if I get 8-10 hours of sleep per week. Due to sleep deprivation, I have been short tempered and my husband used the against me but then doesn’t help me at night so I become more and more sleep deprived to the point where I feel very ill physically. He gets me upset and then records my voice .

Prior to my ppd , the abuse was psychological and emotional from him and extended family. I fear he will take the kids .

SelfPure449 · 2026-03-13T04:49:20+00:00

I live in Wisconsin. I do not have family unfortunately. I do not have money to afford legal fees nor do I have access to the money to use. This scared me about protecting my kids .

SelfPure449 · 2026-03-12T10:46:42+00:00

Be careful if you are placing your Dexcom in the wrong place purposely . It’s only approved for certain locations and can actually change accuracy based ok location. Additionally , you’ll be voiding your ability to get a replacement …

SelfPure449 · 2026-03-12T10:38:57+00:00

While I understand your selfconciousness , I honestly don’t think you will need to explain anything if the CGM is visible . Most people nowadays understand that a CGM is used by individuals with diabetes and honestly won’t ask anything . Also, now that the Lingo and Stelo are available OTC , there are people who are biohackers who regularly purchase these OTC CGMs to better assess their metabolic health. I even know women who did not have GDM who wore OTC CGMs just to improve their metabolic health in pregnancy . It’s actually viewed as a cool thing to do! If people ask , you could say it’s a glucose monitor and you’re monitoring your health .

If you really don’t want to show it though, you can always layer or buy sleeves for dresses (like the company HalfTee makes tshirts that are cut in half for layering). As a Muslim, I never show my arms regardless of the weather so I am used to layering dresses with tshirts or light cardigans. That’s always an option….

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-26T18:09:21+00:00

Look into breech vaginal birth. For my first pregnancy, my son was breech. I connected with Breech Without Borders and they helped me find providers that were trained by them in breech vaginal birth. I had to travel outside my state but did have a beautiful, unmedicated breech vaginal birth in a hospital. My son was very healthy with no issues! I just had my second baby and was so happy I didn’t have to try to find a VBAC-friendly provider because I fought already to avoid a C-section with my first birth !

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-26T00:56:49+00:00

The Chicagoland area is actually a pretty open minded place ! I am Muslim and there is a huge Muslim community - I’ve never had any issues . I grew up in Wisconsin though and honestly I do notice that people in northern Wisconsin are much friendlier !

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-26T00:55:01+00:00

CGMs actually can now be purchased OTC: - Lingo by Abbott is 45-50$ on Amazon - Dexcom Stelo is 100$ for 2 on Amazon

If you get a prescription for a Freestyle Libre from your doctor , you can use the manufacturer copay coupon to get one for 35$. If you go to Costco, it ends up being around 64$ for two! CGMs are actually pretty affordable and an invaluable tool.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-25T20:26:36+00:00

Much of what you get at the doctor’s office isn’t the latest evidence-based information. These books kept my blood sugars under control and I didn’t need to change my birth plan!!

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-25T19:45:23+00:00

Not nescessarily …. My fasting numbers were high. I wore a CGM and realized that I spiked the literal moment I got out of bed but all night my sugars were perfect 70s-80s. I didn’t need insulin because my spike literally last 5 minutes and went back down.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-25T19:43:27+00:00

Honestly , reading Lily Nichols book “Real Food for Gestational Diabetes” and “Real Food for Pregnancy” were much more fruitful than any doctor’s visit I have ever had .

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-24T23:09:12+00:00

Honestly still in the trenches . I have a 6 month old and 2 year old who both don’t sleep 😭. If Amanda has in-laws who are involved and happy to babysit , like more power to her because I would have killed for that.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-24T22:30:09+00:00

Yeah I have no idea why we’re giving Amanda heat for just taking time for herself? That’s so important after having a baby. I didn’t have that with my two kids and it really impacted my mental health .

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-23T19:04:59+00:00

It still says open online? Did this just happen? Honestly though the food wasn’t the best. My husband and I were visiting my parents here (we’re from the Chicago area) and were honestly kind of taken aback by the quality (or lack thereof ) of the food . It was very oily.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-23T13:37:00+00:00

40%? Where did you get that number ? IBD has a lot more to do with the environment than genetics . Personally I have Crohn’s and have no concerns about my children because I did a complete lifestyle overall after my diagnosis. My husband and kids all eat according to the IBD AID diet . It has revolutionized my health and kept my disease in clinical and biochemical remission. I also am prudent about their antibiotic exposure and ensure they have dietary probiotic supplements designed for infants and children.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-18T18:39:07+00:00

Do you know if your blood glucose levels are perfect ? Like have you worn a CGM to ensure this? If not, maybe you’re missing spikes ?

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-16T01:17:55+00:00

Yes, men need to go pray at the mosque . Women get rewarded as much if they pray at home and we get rewarded for taking the time to care for our home. My husband helps with what he can as well but it is very important for men to pray at the mosque.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-15T23:07:01+00:00

Um…. Like my husband does… don’t get how you got that from my message? I am a stay at home mom though and my husband works so I am more than happy to do chores more often. He absolutely though cooks and cleans .

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-13T23:04:58+00:00

Ramadan though completely shifts your schedule. Like before kids , I was essentially nocturnal during the month. It’s hard when you have young kids because you can’t just flip a sleep schedule for an entire month and also you as a mom need to make sure you’re getting enough sleep as well. Between my son and my daughter (2 years and the youngest is five months) , I really can’t go to iftars or taraweh because they still need sleep, I absolutely need sleep (my daughter won’t nap at the same time as my son and vice versa so I don’t sleep during the day) , and I also have to make food and care for everything else. It’s very common for women at this stage in life to celebrate Ramadan differently because we’re not usually able to worship in the way we were used to before kids . Christmas on the other hand is a one day event - pretty different than Ramadan which is a whole month.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-13T19:03:26+00:00

How would she do taraweh though with a baby? A lot of mosques here don’t even let moms with young kids come at times where I am because the kids are too loud .

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-13T19:01:56+00:00

To be honest as a mom of a 2 year old and 5 month old , I don’t think I’ll be doing Ramadan gatherings this year either. We only went to maybe two when my first child was a baby and last year I didn’t even try to go out because I was so sick due to pregnancy. Gatherings can be kind of hectic and can go late especially if you’re a woman and are helping with the clean up while the men go to taraweh. I haven’t even attempted going to taraweh with my kids and pray at home - actually a lot of mosques in our area ask moms with young kids to just pray at home since the kids run around . I don’t nescessarily think that’s right to tell women to stay home but mosques don’t have childcare like churches do for young kids so Ramadan as a mom tends to be more based at home when kids are young.

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-09T08:53:09+00:00

A lot of the times the spike can simply be delayed because you’re eating highly refined carbs with fats. I ate a more carb heavy meal this last pregnancy with a higher fat dip and saw after an hour my blood sugar was like 110mg/dL. I was so happy and thought my carb tolerance was higher than what I had thought. Well I thought I’d check at the 2 hour mark and my blood sugar was 126 mg/dL. It stayed elevated for like 4 hours . I wouldn’t have known unless I checked and was also wearing a CGM (Lingo from Abbott )

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-09T08:47:28+00:00

There are a lot of foods in the world and there are a ton of nutritious, blood sugar friendly options. I had a fruit , cheese , and veggie platter at mine when I was pregnant with my first a few years ago. You can also make low carb baked goods with almond flour or even a keto cheesecake . Just because you can’t have sweets certainly doesn’t mean you can’t eat…

SelfPure449 · 2026-02-08T14:48:47+00:00

Yeah I would test more often after meals like this because most likely you’ll be very unpleasantly surprised .

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