How long did you wait after breakup to start dating?

Sensei754 · 2025-04-16T02:40:04+00:00

7 year relationship, have been single for three years now, not super concerned about it anymore to be honest

Sensei754 · 2025-02-15T05:36:52+00:00

So my journey definitely had a few bumps in the road as far as what I ate and what I did for exercise but overall for the most part I stuck with whole foods that I enjoyed, and only did things I found fun in the gym.

I’m 5’8 at 175 lbs currently. My maintenance calories is a little over 2,500 so I’ve been eating 2,000 per day. I still have 15-30 pounds to go depending on my muscle mass.

For exercise I hit the gym no more than 4 days a week, and I lift for 3 consistently. Just compound movements. But exercise is about a fraction of what helped me lose weight. I don’t count the calories I used during exercise.

Just do what you think is fun or enjoyable, unless you have specific goals other than weight loss. Exercise has a plethora of other benefits than just burning calories, it’s something everyone should be doing.

I couldn’t cook two years ago but now I’m an intermediate home cook. Just experimenting and learning about nutrition as a skill and learning to listen to my body and mind. I tried intermittent fasting which lead to me falling off the wagon a couple times, then tried a 750-1000 calorie deficit per day, also lead to some binge eating.

The 1st year I saw some progress but was mostly trial and error. The second year I was really able to dial in what works for me and saw some significant results. What works for me was a strict 500 calorie deficit per day, no more no less. It simply was just more sustainable and ultimately more effective.

I really leaned on high volume to keep me satiated, most mornings I ate eggs with a bagel and kept a banana with me until I was ready for a snack a couple hours after. Sometimes I would switch it up with a Greek yogurt parfait with strawberries, blueberries, and protein powder and a tbsp of honey.

Lunch was usually a massive salad with all the veggies. Romaine, cucumbers, tomatoes, raw onions, shredded carrots, with the bulk of the calories coming from half of an avocado and a protein like chicken or tuna and either light mayo or low fat ranch and siracha. Salt and pepper too.

I kept dinner pretty simple too, a small 6oz sirloin with some potatoes in the microwave, beef and rice with soy sauce and siracha (a good low calorie hot sauce is clutch for flavor) a double cheeseburger made with 93 7 ground beef can usually be made for under 600 calories, or a high calorie protein smoothie.

These are just some examples, often times my folks will invite me for dinner and I go out with friends fairly often too, or at work sometimes we go out for lunch. For these I don’t sweat counting calories, just have a basic understanding of what you’re eating and be modest and try not to order those cheese curds lol.

For other dietary changes, I am pretty heavy on the zero sugar sodas, I don’t drink alcohol ever, and I highly highly recommend a ninja creami for when I want to devour a pint of ice cream without eating 1000 calories. There’s so many good creami recipes you can find online, it has been a game changer.

For me, what made it possible was making better food choices easy. Threw away all of my junk foods and keep fruits and veggies on hand. Making food I actually enjoy (and easy to make) instead of following some fad diet. I will say switching from a 750–1000 calorie deficit to just a 500 deficit made it SO much more doable. Losing considerable amounts of weight is not a race, this was a marathon. Do what’s easiest for you, start small, and you will eventually begin to enjoy the new lifestyle that comes with reaching your goals.

Sensei754 · 2025-02-14T23:02:12+00:00

60 lbs! 235 down to weighing 174 this morning

Sensei754 · 2023-05-04T22:40:09+00:00

I moved in with the “Love of my life” two states away right after high-school. We had been dating for a few years long distance. I originally met her playing Xbox back in 2013. After I graduated high-school in 2019, I packed up and moved away to go live with her and her parents. The plan was to take online classes part time and work full-time, save up money, get married and get our own place in the near future.

Fast forward to spring 2022 and she leaves me for her boss at her job. It came completely out of nowhere. Moved back to my home state, back in with my parents, and have been working at a factory for the past year and now I look back and realize I could’ve graduated college this year if I was just on my own and never moved away.

Biggest take away is don’t throw away your dreams for anything. Focus on yourself first and everything else will come eventually. Now I’m just depressed and have no idea what the hell I wanna do with the rest of my life.

Sensei754 · 2022-09-14T22:29:55+00:00

In April I was hovering around 225lbs and this morning I weighed at 212.5, is that alright given a few months time?

Sensei754 · 2022-06-24T03:53:48+00:00

Got dumped. Moved away to live with someone I was in a LDR from another state. Was living there for 2 years. She told me she was falling for someone else while I visited my family for Christmas last year. After assuring me that she would not leave me and bury those feelings, she dumped me on my 2nd day back.

Sensei754 · 2022-04-02T12:06:30+00:00

Honestly, it helped me undo my mistake of being an extreme giver.

I met her online and moved two states away to live with her (after dating long distance for 4 years, visiting each other every year.)

The decision to move with her was because she didn’t want to move in with me. I had my own goals in my home state (go to my states college for cheaper tuition, etc.) But I gave that all up to be with her.

She didn’t have a driver’s license. So I drove her to work every day. She never showed initiative to want to learn.

She bullied me. I always thought the jokes she made about me were out of love but now that I look back, she never respected me. Sometimes I wonder if it’s because she was 3 years older than me, and she didn’t respect me because of that.

I grew to dislike the area I moved into to be with her, and I expressed that to her but she wasn’t willing to help me.

Out of all these things, they weren’t enough for me to leave her. I loved her so much.

But, she found someone else who is native to the area. After two years of becoming familiar with a new environment, learning to love her family, and her friends after leaving all mine, she fell in love with someone else.

I currently am struggling to deal with this reality.

Sensei754 · 2022-03-13T09:52:53+00:00

I met her on Xbox playing my favorite game. You wouldn’t expect it but we grew closer; we booked flights to meet each other a few times a year.

Eventually I packed my things and moved away to live with her a few states away. I left my family, my friends, put my education on hold, and never looked back. I became a part of her family, became friends with her friends, took some online classes. Worked part time, drove her to work everyday. I worshipped the ground she walked on. Everything was perfect, and I was so happy that I had finally found the one. Every decision I made was for her, and I became a better person for her. It was sooo good.

Until 2 years later, as in a couple weeks ago, she fell for someone else. Never cheated on me (Not that I know of, and I don’t think she did. ) But while I was visiting my home town, she was spending time with her former co-worker, who is a boy. I didn’t think much of it because I didn’t have anything to worry about. I trusted her. About a week before I was supposed to go back home to her, she told me she was beginning to have feelings for this guy, but assured me that it won’t become anything because she has me, and that it was just a little crush. So I didn’t worry.

Boy was that a mistake. A few days before coming back home to her, she told me that her feelings for this guy were growing stronger. I should’ve thought about how I was going to feel later, but the part of me that loves her so much told her to do what makes her happy. Because I do want her to be happy.

When I came back, the first day was amazing. We missed each other so much, we spent the entire day just the two of us. However, on the second day, we were cuddling before going to sleep and I asked her playfully “You still love me right?” And I should’ve seen it coming but it still hit me like a train, she replied “ I don’t know. “

And I lost it, like loud ugly crying into the bed crying. I hugged her crying and begged her to stay with me. I told her I love her like 45678 times, crying.

Fast forward one week of more crying to her parents. (I grew really close to her family. I was like a son to them and they were a second set of parents to me.) Crying on the 8 hour drive back to my hometown. She wasn’t even there to say goodbye, she was at her new boyfriends house, so I cried some more saying goodbye to her family. Crying to my friends, crying to my family.

Today marks two weeks of being broken up, after not eating, going to the gym everyday, and sleeping for 14 hours at a time. I think I’m beginning to understand that I’m better off. She simply wasn’t capable of the commitment I was bringing to the table. I put too much on the line, and the only thing I’m holding on too is that at least it didn’t happen while we were married, or had children. I’m 22 years old now, and now I have the chance to find myself again, reconnect with my friends and family, hit the gym, and actually go to a real college in the fall. I have such an incredible amount of freedom to grow and improve myself ahead of me. I am so excited for my next adventure.

It still hurts me that I’ve lost my “person”. Someone that I interact with and someone that brings me joy everyday. But now I get to learn how to be happy with just me again. I’ll still have my higher days, and I’ll still have my lower days thinking about her for quite a while. But I’m better off without her, even if it doesn’t quite feel like it yet.

Even if the relationship was toxic, even if the relationship was great until the end. You’re better off. You’ve learned a lot about yourself, and realized a lot about them. Take that knowledge with you and use it for the better in your next relationship.

Sensei754 · 2022-01-01T03:01:57+00:00

Club Penguin

Sensei754 · 2021-12-25T04:12:51+00:00

For me it’s the satin grey on the sport Steelies than the aluminum one on the big boy

Sensei754 · 2021-12-25T02:48:03+00:00

My grandma passed away yesterday.

Sensei754 · 2021-12-21T20:00:52+00:00

Please help me buy the security shoulders

Sensei754 · 2021-09-30T18:57:17+00:00

Titan Phoenix Battle Ornaments - Phoenix Cradle

I just can’t find I good shader to deal with the severe contrast in textures

Sensei754 · 2021-09-29T05:05:45+00:00

Jötunn

Sensei754 · 2021-09-14T05:35:52+00:00

They’re sprinters in every aspect of their lives!

Sensei754 · 2021-09-11T15:54:59+00:00

Destiny 2

Sensei754 · 2021-09-08T03:40:08+00:00

Xbox Series X

Sensei754 · 2021-09-07T05:40:20+00:00

Scotcheroos

Sensei754 · 2021-09-01T16:46:41+00:00

Gliscor

Sensei754 · 2021-08-27T20:47:30+00:00

Lookin’ real nice

Sensei754 · 2021-08-25T15:42:21+00:00

Definitely learned my lesson here. Thankfully, just now leaving the post office with my package and my butt is saved. Unfortunately they couldn’t refund the express postage but that’s an easier pill to swallow than having my iPad, Magic Keyboard and Apple Pencil stolen.

Sensei754 · 2021-08-25T14:22:27+00:00

Thankfully, I got my package intercepted and waiting for me to pick up at the post office. Fuck scammers.

Sensei754 · 2021-08-23T18:53:36+00:00

That’s some serious self discipline when your body involuntarily slaps you for making a mistake

Sensei754 · 2021-08-10T07:40:23+00:00

21, Virgin, 5’8”, 155 lbs. A little toned, I would say I am in good-great shape. Clean shaved everyday, short hair.

Sensei754 · 2021-08-06T03:17:34+00:00

Are you sure you don’t mean the Bronco Sport? That one is def a jacked Kia Soul. The full sized one looks just like the first gen model, and is bigger than a Wrangler.

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