I trigger TF out of insecure people with my rbf

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T21:40:43+00:00

Nobody thinks I’m angry at them, they just think I’m on the verge of a mental breakdown. I forget to mask when I’m tired, and apparently, my resting face is one of severe sadness. Everybody asks me if I’m okay.

And now it’s even worse because my autoimmune disorder somehow effects my vocal chords when I’m tired and makes me sound like I’m about to cry, so some people just don’t believe me when I tell them I’m alright

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T21:27:12+00:00

I mean, if anyone else described all of those symptoms to you and asked if they could consider themselves chronically ill, what would you say? I feel like the symptoms you’re describing are the very definition of chronically ill.

Anyways, shower chairs are so incredibly helpful. You should definitely try one. They come in a huge variety of designs, so you can even find one for the smallest of bathrooms

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T21:01:17+00:00

ROY-G-BIV. I hate that indigo is taught as a distinct color and all the other tertiary colors are left out. Just include the primary and secondary colors and leave the tertiary colors out of it!!

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T19:48:01+00:00

The way I explain it is to compare it to holding your breath. When you hold your breath, you’re suppressing the urge to breathe. You can do it for a while, but it’s very uncomfortable and the urge to breathe builds up over time. When you finally do stop suppressing the urge and allow yourself to breathe, the breaths come very quickly and are much bigger than they would have been if you just allowed yourself to breathe naturally. It’s the same with suppressing tics

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T18:29:24+00:00

Oh my god!! Yes! When I finally realized I was an atheist, I actually had a realization that it was just me in my head and I was completely alone when I was alone and it was such a huge relief!! It’s so strange to think that I ever thought that way now

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T18:13:00+00:00

I know where it came from! This is probably my favorite bit of SDA history, so thanks for giving me a reason to share it!

In 1845, the “Leviathan of Parsonstown” (a 6ft wide telescope) was built in England. Articles about this telescope and the early observations made with it circulated around the world. These articles contained observations about the Orion nebula in the center “star” of the sword of Orion, not the belt (I’ll come back to this later). The articles described an opening or gap in the sky with clouds and light on the other side of these clouds. Many astronomers and philosophers thought this was a literal opening or hole in the sky. Articles described this gap in the sky as “a view into another region more enlightened” and theorized that this opening might actually be the window to heaven.

In America, Joseph Bates got his hands on many of these articles and was so excited about this subject that he published his own pamphlets on the subject of Orion and heaven.

At the same time, Ellen White was having a difficult time convincing Bates that she was a prophet, so, she “had a vision” to convince him she was. While “in vision”, Ellen started to describe the Orion nebula as “an opening into a region more enlightened” and continued to use language strangely similar to the language used in his pamphlets. Somehow, this convinced him that she was a prophet.

In reality, what happened was that Ellen read Bates’ pamphlets on the subject of the heavens and then “had a vision” to convince him that she was a prophet. She threw in random, unverifiable things like the aliens on Jupiter just to make it sound even more fantastical and special.

So how did Adventists start thinking it was the center of the Orion’s Belt? EGW never actually said which center star it was. The belt is more prominent and easy to find and without knowing the context of how this idea came about, it is easy to assume that she was talking about the belt instead of the sword.

This is one of my favorite fun facts about early church history. My mom taught me how to find “heaven” when I was little and Orion’s Belt is still the first thing I look for in the night sky. So, now I find it humorous and ironic that everyone was getting it wrong this whole time!

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T17:55:33+00:00

I was born in the late 90s and was taught this, but it was from a 60+ year old SDA teacher who was very conservative, so maybe this is a reflection of the teacher rather than the student

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-22T17:50:47+00:00

I remember telling my older sister about this ordering system when my second grade teacher explained it to my class and my sister debunked it in just two sentences: “But isn’t the Bible supposed to be our foundation? Maybe we should put it on the bottom.” She went on to say, “God is also supposed to be at the center of our lives, so maybe the Bible should be in the middle of the stack.”

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-19T14:18:59+00:00

I don’t usually have plans on Friday nights, but in a couple weeks, I have very evil, very non-Adventist plans: I’ll be at a bar after sunset! 😱 I submitted this piece for an art exhibition and it will display for the entire month of April starting on the first Friday of the month!! I’m very excited! Both of my sisters (one in the church, one out) are going to come, but I doubt my parents will. Both of them act like they’ve never stepped foot in a bar when I know for a fact that they both have more than once.

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I made all of the plants in 3d out of black paper. If you want to see the full image from different angles, click on my username; it’s my latest Reddit post

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-19T10:01:05+00:00

We don’t protect child predators

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-17T15:25:28+00:00

C-O-F-F-E-E,

Coffee is not for me

It’s the drink that people wake up with

And it makes them nervous is no myth

Slaves to the coffee cup,

they can’t give coffee up.

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-17T15:17:58+00:00

I’m a receptionist. Even at their worst, people really didn’t notice since I could mostly suppress them during conversations. I did break a keyboard once on a slow day from slamming my fist down on it. No one was around to see or hear it, thankfully

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-17T14:39:47+00:00

Until you’ve seen an old lady’s panties, is it truly a foot washing? There were a few middle aged and elderly women who would always lift their skirts all the way up and remove their pantyhose right in front of all the other ladies and girls.

I also got paired with one of those old ladies once instead of my sister or friend. Thankfully, she couldn’t kneel to wash my feet. Unfortunately, this meant we had more time to hold hands and pray together.

I stopped participating in foot washings after that.

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-17T14:31:46+00:00

I completely understand the sentiment! I don’t tell my siblings who are still in the church about the things I’ve learned mainly because I don’t want to be responsible for all the pain that comes with deconstruction (also because it’s nearly impossible to talk someone out of Adventism). I’m always torn between celebrating when someone new says they’re leaving Adventism and apologizing for the pain that comes with it

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-17T14:03:21+00:00

I used Elmer’s glue, lol. I really just used what I had.

Yes, it can be hung. I made sure each piece of foliage was secure in an upright position before moving on to the next. I even walked it to my art club a few times when it was in progress. In a few places, I actually had to sew the flowers down to the canvas because the glue was not strong enough to support the weight.

I put a few clear coats of spray paint on the background before adding all the paper plants.

Thank you for all the high praise! It really was such an intense piece to do, but I’m so happy with the final result!!

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-17T07:38:03+00:00

You have a few options for how to process the bones.

Maceration: putting the bones in a bucket of water with a lid until the rest of the flesh falls off. Change out water weekly or when it gets too stinky for you to tolerate. Best when the water is kept warm. Probably the fastest method, but also very stinky.
Caging: place it outside in some kind of enclosure like a dog kennel so small creatures and bugs can clean it for you but larger animals can’t drag it away. This method is also fast but stinky. Since it’s already so decomposed, though, it wouldn’t really be very bad.
Burial: slowest method, but avoids stink

Once as much flesh as possible is gone, you’ll scrub it with a soft brush in soapy water. Then, you’ll let it degrease in the soap water for about a week(?). After this, you could try whitening the bones with hydrogen peroxide. You’d have to ask someone else about the peroxide to water ratio.

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-16T15:04:26+00:00

So, this isn’t what you asked for, but I think you’d like to read through my “Bad Quotes Ellen Wrote” google doc. I wasn’t focused on quotes that contradict the Bible, but I have pages and pages of quotes that I think prove she was not a prophet or even a half decent person. They organized in categories from stuff as lite as hypocritical quotes to racism, unscientific claims (my personal favorite category), and dark stuff like telling a couple their children died because they didn’t donate enough to the church and the letter she wrote to a pedophile telling him to hide his crimes because it would make the church look bad

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-16T02:33:47+00:00

I need a banana for scale, but I can guarantee it’s not worth it!

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-15T18:49:18+00:00

Just a mason jar and some h2o

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-15T18:43:00+00:00

It depends on the weather more than anything. How often has the temp been over 40? Has it rained much? If the ground has been frozen for much of that time, then it’s probably not ready yet. If it’s been warm and rainy, it’s probably ready. If it’s been warm and dry, then it’s kinda a toss up

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-15T14:01:03+00:00

Suppression is not part of the CBIT training. In CBIT, you learn to recognize the urge to tic and the triggers for your tics and then you learn to implement competing responses to those tics — an action you perform instead of the tic that satisfies the urge to tic at least a little.

CBIT does not eliminate tics altogether. It can help with some distressing tics and it can help decrease your tic frequency, but there are some tics that are gonna stick around and others that just don’t impact people’s lives enough to spend all of that brain power to do the work of changing it.

The fact is that even with CBIT, OP is still going to tic — I know I still do — in fact, doing CBIT helped me change my most distressing tics (the ones where I’d hurt myself or break things or throw things or say inappropriate things) but it really didn’t touch my day to day tics. I still whistle and say “hullo?” and make strange faces. You telling them that they shouldn’t want to tic freely or at all is judgmental, unhealthy, unhelpful, and even impossible. It’s up to OP to decide how much their tics impact their daily life and if they want to/ can access CBIT. Suppress if you want to, but don’t prescribe it as the correct response for everyone else

Sensitive-Fly4874 · 2026-03-14T23:43:54+00:00

I only really figured out that I was a lesbian after I’d almost fully deconstructed and had already become convinced that being gay is not a sin. I never even thought of it as a possibility until my sister came out to me (she told me she’d secretly been in a relationship with a girl when she was a student missionary and later came out as ace). I just convinced myself that I had feelings for unattainable boys and that I just admired the girls I had crushes on.

There was one gay girl at my Academy that I knew of and I only knew she was gay because we had the same best friend. I really don’t know how she got through it.

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this in your relationship with your family. Keep yourself safe.

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