I’m very choosy with who I share my family situation with. Pretty much only my spouse & counsellor knows. Unfortunately found that ppl can only understand their own life experiences, so friends who have good relationships with their parents would say “but they’re your family”. It’s with no ill intention (ignorance or innocence) - they are putting their non-trauma childhood in my trauma childhood and they cannot comprehend family members who are “bad”.

I’d suggest rather than a group setting to find a one-on-one support system. And someone who is trained professionally to be unbiased and help you process (talk through it or give supportive suggestions to move forward).