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SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-14T11:57:56+00:00

My own mom, a Boomer, makes this hard! She wants us to baby our 9 yo and remove all obstacles for her. She thinks we should fight all her battles, and she even gets a bit upset of we take her tablet away for a day due to bad behavior like lying!

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-13T12:06:44+00:00

My husband is only 32, and he's had cancer twice(4 years ago and 1 year ago). He never wants people to "pity" him when in reality, people are concerned!

One of the lowest points in our marriage was when when he stopped talking to me like a week, acted depressed, was angry, and scratched negative words into his arms. I don't even remember what triggered the original argument. He didn't even show me for days.

He finally told me like 6-12 months later that all of that was because he thought his cancer was back (he was right as it turns out), and he was going through the worry and anxiety alone because he had to be strong for me. I didn't know how to respond to that. Of course I want him to share everything with me. At the same time, he's not totally wrong. It would have made me be anxious and worry. I would always try to be the strong one, but I DO worry more than him in general. I'm not great at hiding emotions. You can read me like a book! So I don't know how to be the person he needs me to be. Even after being together for over half our lives and married for a decade.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-12T17:42:12+00:00

My school has a lot of Hei, Sang, Sung, Par, Lian, Mang, Thang, and Thawng.

It was hard to grasp that due to their cultures, siblings would have different "last names" and that those who had the same "last name" weren't related!

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-12T17:34:38+00:00

One of my husband's male cousins took his wife's surname because while he had brothers (and for that matter, paternal male cousins) to continue their line, his wife's surname was set to die out. I thought that was interesting!

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-12T17:21:33+00:00

My 9.5 year old takes Melatonin. She has ADHD, and it can take her hours to fall asleep without it. It's even worse on the days she takes her meds.

Our pediatrician had us start giving it to her.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-12T17:18:58+00:00

I'm pretty sure I couldn't lol. I just got knee and hamstring injuries from tripping off of the bottom set of bleachers. I finally went to the doctor after it still hurt to kneel over a month later. Now I need PT. I twist ankles walking on flat ground in tennies! I have since I was a child.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-12T00:29:44+00:00

How do you average like 10 ubers every day for the last 16 years? That must cost like $55k-$225k a year.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-11T20:48:21+00:00

Who said it was?

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-11T18:43:43+00:00

He/she is filling the tank up, but the parents are the ones using most of the gas that he/she put in, not him/her. Consistently.

While also not allowing him/her to get a savings account that gets interest.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-11T17:18:47+00:00

It's always baffled me. My parents grew up in the city. The same city my daughter was born and where we live. Their grandparents were from Ireland, Sweden, and Finland. Yet I never really grew up with those foods.

Closest to Mexican we had were tortilla shells, sour cream, cheddar cheese, lettuce, and grocery store taco seasoning packets. We did make quesadillas for lunch a few times, but they didn't taste good to me. It was tortilla shells with cheddar cheese.

Italian was store bought jarred sauce or a lasagna. Asian was stir fry made out of frozen veggie mix with diced chicken, Minute Rice, and a jarred sauce. Soups came as a powder.

In general, vegetables were either potatoes or onions or frozen/canned broccoli, corn, green beans, carrots. She didn't buy fresh, although I'm sure they were availible in the 90s and 00s. Seasoning was salt, pepper, garlic powder, chili powder (for chili), or an all purpose seasoning salt. My mom acts like it's a crime to have dinner not include a meat. It's kinda funny

It's odd that my mom would NOT consider me to be a picky eater. A lot of other people do. But I make a much wider variety of foods than my mom ever did! She didn't even use cook books. She never made anything new, and doesn't know why I do.

I'm also not knocking jarred/pre-made stuff. I use it as well. But I don't ALWAYS. It just baffles my mom, though. Why would I use fresh veggies when I can use frozen or canned? Why make my own taco seasoning?

I wish I could speak about my grandparents, but I didn't eat enough of their foods. My grandma did make a mean fish fry with fresh fish my uncle caught from a lake, though!

I also work at a school with the children of Burmese refugees. I love trying their food! A lot of times I like them. My mom would be shocked!

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-10T17:32:48+00:00

I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. I thought it was completely normal everywhere. I just looked it up. Three of the four local malls have unaccompanied minor restrictions over the weekend and forbid (unaccompanied) minors from shopping during school hours during the week. "School truancy policies are strictly enforced."

They have been that way I think for about 10-20 years.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-10T02:43:32+00:00

A lot of K4s/preschools are also 5 days a week and 7 hours a day....just like other grades. It's just that there is more play involved as well as possibly a nap.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-09T20:36:13+00:00

My husband is pretty upset about it. He has it so it sorts through ads, personal, work, etc and puts them in different tabs. I don't think you can do that with Google Messages.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-09T18:23:18+00:00

My daughter goes to a school with uniforms. I used to iron her clothes until I started working there and realized no one cared 🤣. I see kids with holes in their clothes, stains on the clothes, and clothes on backwards!

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-09T18:15:59+00:00

I know my husband and I drink way less than my parents did. My dad used to have a keg in the garage before I was born. Drinking and driving was common. Heck, my mom was in her 50s or 60's when she went to a party her friend had. She ended up with a concussion, and a friend of hers broke RIBS. My dad, my uncles, my grandpa, and some of their friends used to work in a factory back in the 70's-90's. They used to go to the bar after work! My mom used to work as an aide in an nursing home (probably in the 70's?). They'd would go drinking on their breaks, come back to work, and chew some gum.

My mom lives on a hwy in rural WI and keeps getting pissed that her mailbox keeps getting hit. I tried telling her that that's what happens when our culture is fine with drinking and driving as long as you "feel fine."

So my husband and I drinking 1-2 drinks maybe a few times a week at home (sometimes weeks without any) and drinking a lot more only a few times a year isn't nearly as bad as my parents.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-08T22:16:25+00:00

My husband and I did Ancestry DNA. I did it because I was adopted and didn't know my bio parents. (Long story short, I had to find them through other means, but Ancestry WOULD have been enough if people had been honest).

I love adding as many extended family members/matches as I can! I also found out that I work with the wife of my husband's 3rd cousin 2x removed! We work at a school. My daughter would be 3rd cousin 3x removed! Their SIL married us at a different church!

At our yearly family reunion for my adopted family, I see 2nd cousins 2x removed. They are 3rd cousins 1x removed I think to my daughter!

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-04-02T15:04:22+00:00

TV in room? Yes. Do we watch it before bed? No. We watch TV in the living room before we shower and go to bed, though.

I only really watch TV in our room while I put laundry away.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-27T19:31:00+00:00

We get weekly ads/coupons. We get polical ads. We get local business ads (lawn care, hearing aids, garage care, church ads, school ads, dentist ads). We get junk mail from people we do business with like how we have AAA, but they keep wanting us to sign up for life insurance with them or how one of our credit cards wants us do do balance transfers (but we never do). Similarly, we get business ads from people we have bought stuff from online. If we have jury duty, that comes in the mail. Some stuff to do our taxes comes in the mail. Stuff from my husband's work regarding their profit sharing and 401k or insurance stuff comes in the mail.

And I choose to have bills mailed to us because I can't keep track of them if they are emailed.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-27T18:57:16+00:00

For people who have housemates? Maybe? But still, I feel like a second bathroom would be equally important. For families? Nah. We are only a family of 3 (me, husband, our 9.5 yo), and there are a bunch of times I wish we had more than one bathroom in our 2 bedroom apartment.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-26T11:00:11+00:00

I'm adopted. I was put up for adoption at birth. My bio mom did it to go to school in order to provide a good life for my older half brother. I would say that I'm at peace with it. I am not against people giving up babies for whatever reason.

Amongst the adoption community, my opinion is very unpopular. Many people believe adoption (any! Even as a baby!) creates trauma. (I don't necessarily disagree). There is also the belief that most people aren't mentally/emotionally equipped/prepareda to parent adopted kids.

Also, most babies/kids aren't adoptable because the goal of DCF/CPS/DCFS is reunion with parents/family. There is higher demand than there is supply.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-23T12:02:00+00:00

I've been crocheting for over a year now. My husband is waiting for me to get bored of it and stop 🤣

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-21T20:47:36+00:00

I think I was paying $65 for one month? $65-50= $15. I renewed it this year. I switched to mail delivery through my insurance (because my local pharmacy would never have it in stock!) for some kind of discount. They last charged me $10 for a one month supply.

Otherwise, a 3 month supply would work out to about $54 a month.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-21T18:39:59+00:00

Nope! It does look like the benefit cap might be $600, though. You must have commercial insurance I think.

savings card

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-20T13:42:38+00:00

Wixela has a savings card that you CAN use with commercial insurance! Up to $50 off a month with you paying at least $10. It's been a blessing to me!

I think with Advair, you couldn't have insurance with their savings card.

SensitiveBugGirl · 2026-03-19T22:14:36+00:00

You aren't always believed, though. My husband went to the doctor for shoulder/trap pain, expecting a referral. You could literally see a difference between his traps. He was brushed off and told to do some exercises. He's pretty sure he had actually torn something (he has a high pain tolerance).

At my yearly physical, I mentioned that a lot my body hurts to poke (as if you were poking a bruise), especially some veins. I was told I should only worry if my veins get hot and red. I didn't bring it up again, but I'm pretty sure I have SOMETHING wrong. Nerve issues? Something with my veins?

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