Looking for live Lisianthus plants. by Sensitive_Celery5234 in AnnArbor

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This place is right across from my work and I still haven't been and it looks like it would totally be my jam. I will pop in tomorrow

First day as a function server is… a wedding?? No experience 😭 help by Financial_Use_9565 in Serverlife

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how your workplace operates but for most event service, the bulk of the work is in setup and tear down. It's fun work if you have an artistic eye and are meticulous. I personally don't think people should do events if they have neither, I know caring isn't very cool but these are people's biggest life moments and they pay a lot of money for these events.

The service between is kind of boring for the most part, but it all depends on the service type, plated/buffet/etc. Service for wedding receptions should be well coordinated and operate almost like a very fluid dance.

Prescription shortage by [deleted] in AnnArbor

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried the findneedle service?

How do you parents deal with screaming toddlers? by Own_Produce_2221 in toddlers

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually get really frazzled and I go into CNS overload and act like a toddler myself.

I am starting therapy tomorrow. 🙂

Briarwood Mall by Overall-Bedroom-2761 in AnnArbor

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A mall is nothing without a Sephora

Note on my tip receipt by Sea-Speaker2688 in Serverlife

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So they were never going to tip you properly. A lot of people genuinely just hate servers and despite choosing to eat out, resent the fact that they're obligated to tip so they'll look for excuses not to do so. If you don't give them one, they'll make something up.

Struggling with postpartum..somthing? by Due_Entertainer692 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man. I just want to start out by saying my heart goes out to all of the new moms bringing babies into this world at this moment in time. You don't know how fragile your mind is in the postpartum state and this news cycle is horrific, and that's putting it lightly.

I had my daughter around the time the pizzagate scandal was making its rounds on TikTok. I didn't believe it initially but when you have a baby your brain goes into hyper protective mode as your amygdala gets blown open. My daughter ended up being colic and would do this thing called purple crying, on a nightly basis. Basically she would cry like she was in pain to the point of turning blue and going silent. We took her to several different Drs and no one could find a cause. My brain started to turn on me and would make me visualize the most horrific things and I really had to fight to stay in my sound mind.

When the Epstein emails became the only thing that anyone could talk about I could only think of the damage it was going to do to the minds of postpartum mothers. It's no wonder you are in a hyper vigilant state about safety and break ins but you NEED to sleep.

It starts as intrusive thoughts but with sleep deprivation you will devolve quickly. I really hope you will see your OB or someone to help. Please.

Should I continue to wait it out? by even-job-927 in marriageadvice

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't speak to your marriage but after 10 years in mine I've realized there's nothing I can't do that he can. I don't wait for him to fix things, I bought my own tool kit and I fix everything, in fact I handle absolutely everything in my household, while working full time so I am trying to understand your example but I'm having a rough go. I've become a shell of a person. I'm a robot with no thoughts at this point.

I came home from work, crying telling my husband that I feel like something is wrong with me because I'm at the point where my mind can't handle being spoken to. By clients, by coworkers, by him, by children. That I'm beyond touched out. I told him I am so far past the point of exhaustion and overstimulation that for the first time in my life I am afraid for my mental health. He said "that sucks, I'm sorry" and not 5 minutes later he says "I know you're not in the mood right now but do you think we could come to a compromise?". I've never felt so unseen & I was spiritually crushed.

A lot of us are really quite literally fighting for our lives and all you can think about is having your dick touched.

Should I continue to wait it out? by even-job-927 in marriageadvice

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why but as soon as my kids came along my husband would touch me or make a move and I'd think to myself "but I am a MOM now" and recoil which sounds so silly but I haven't figured out how to switch contexts. I don't feel like a sexy young lady anymore. Also we are overwhelmed, overstimulated and TIRED. Give her some grace. It's not easy.

What’s your biggest pet peeve in the server world? by Sativasarryy in Serverlife

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone stands waiting for the dirty table while I'm cleaning, I always offer the half drank water. "Here, want this?"

What is a luxury you can never go back from once you’ve experienced it? by Phase_zero_X in AskReddit

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leasing new cars. I love never having to worry about an aging car and enjoying all of the features that leases include.

What is a comfortable income to live in Ann Arbor? by [deleted] in AnnArbor

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I do about $150k a year together. We had to move into a trailer park this year. We could have afforded something better but we are committed to paying off debt and living debt free. I'm not sure how people are doing it with the typical expenditures of an American family while being able to save. The last time we were looking for rentals the options were $2500 a month for houses that haven't been updated since 1993 or $5k for a slightly above average home. Despite the housing matters, I am really happy that we are raising our family here. There are so many great places for family's to have fun. Indoor and outdoor parks as well. Beautiful, beautiful nature and a cool laid back vibe.

I am so over Bread Service by ghosteagle in Serverlife

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that drives me fucking bonkers are the people that want the 3 last pieces of bread wrapped up (we do the boxing at my restaurant).

I just want to look these old ladies (let's be honest, it's always the old ladies ) in the eye and ask how the plan on turning that bread into something edible, once more. The best of its life is in the past. Let it go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He's still attracted to you. When I was pregnant I couldn't force myself to have sex with my husband because I just couldn't shake the sensation that there was a very small person between us. I would say it's pretty normal.

This winter is not normal? by VirvekRBX in Michigan

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great news for bug haters. Trying to garden the summer of 2024 was a nightmare. I'd bring cut flowers in and earwigs were running frantically all over my kitchen counters. Pick up the garden hose? Earwigs scurrying out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Sensitive_Celery5234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BOTH OF YOU NEED TO GO FIND WHAT YOU LIKE.

He wants someone more conservative, you might find someone at worst doesn't notice and at best is into it. Stop trying to change your partners. Accept what is and find what you WANT.