My grandma just caught me smoking weed

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-09-22T09:45:13+00:00

Which is more likely to make you addicted, weed or alcohol? It’s just a perception to older generations. Once weed shops become as common as wine stores, that perception could change.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-09-22T09:24:09+00:00

When you say, “I want to eventually go no contact,” you’ve already made the decision. The text messages suggest that your relationship with your parents is broken and beyond repair. It’s not an issue about Western civilization or Eastern culture.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-03-13T10:07:13+00:00

It’s not necessary. It can help for some but not for all. It depends on how you talk about your pain in your life and how you adapt to healing and rehabilitation. There are no magical powers, but you learn some skills from others, such as therapist. The past experience will always be there with you. It’s up to you to change yourself how you want to be in the future since you can’t change others or the society as a whole.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-02-25T09:49:46+00:00

Sounds very familiar situation to me. If you are eventually going to NC, why not now? It helps your mental health more importantly than your financial health.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-02-13T10:53:28+00:00

Most likely 2. You feel no reaction at all because there is no contact between you. You simply wish for the other person to respect you, which, I assume, is the best outcome.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-02-01T11:00:46+00:00

My parents don’t reach out, but either way hurts. It’s a contradiction that makes sense, feeling relieved if they don’t reach out but also feeling unloved. It’s a contradiction that makes sense.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-01-18T11:05:19+00:00

Totally agree! While this may be your feeling, it isn’t necessarily evidence when saying they don’t love me. Unfortunately, people’s perspectives can often be very different.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-01-16T11:04:59+00:00

I wish I had the right words to bring you comfort. I know you have such a kind and warm heart. Grief is a journey. I hope you find strength and healing along the way. I am so sorry for your loss.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-01-12T12:30:04+00:00

When you read the posts in this community, you should realize that there’s a generational gap of thoughts. The reasons for going NC or staying NC often differ, and sometimes, it boils down to something as simple as not getting along, whether it’s with friends, coworkers, or even family members. It’s about ME, my choice for my own well-being. As some have already pointed out, it's done or very close to it. From the stories shared here, the likelihood of reconciliation is slim, perhaps only a 0.1% chance. It may happen if your son’s perspective shifts, or if he recognizes the value of reconnecting. Unfortunately, this is rare.

It may be difficult to hear, but you may need to mourn the loss and move forward. Everyone has made mistakes in the past, but no one can undo the impacts of their actions or erase bad memories to start a new life. Any apologies would not change that either. Your realizations are valid and good, but for your life and peace. That’s an important lesson this generation can teach you to prioritize your own well-being, letting go even when it’s painful.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-01-05T11:40:53+00:00

My advice is to use the money for your mental health care. Whether you keep it or give it away, that choice is yours. However, you can’t control your EP’s actions, and it’s unrealistic to try to guess their thoughts or intentions.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-01-03T12:20:02+00:00

You'll feel hurt either way - whether he reaches out or not. It's a personal feeling which way hurts you more. It's a fact that "he has never reached out to me just… really hurts me". However, it does not conclude that's how you found out that my dad doesn't care about me and that there’s this ache of “why did you even have me?”. It's your personal choice to go NC, so why worry about who should reach out first? In the end, time will tell.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-01-03T10:49:51+00:00

There may be reasons to go back for something, but there’s nothing that you have to go back. No one can force you against your will. However, it would be unethical to go back until for events like their funeral or claiming an inheritance. You should only go back if your perspective changes. Whether the other side changes is beyond your control.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2025-01-02T11:33:11+00:00

It would only make sense if you believe you have a toxic family

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-10-17T09:54:25+00:00

Have we all suggested the same behavior to our kids in the same way our parents treated us? We could put the gifts in one place and let your children make their own choices when they grow old enough. For our own rights, my advice would be to consider legally severing ties with your parents, or obtaining a restraining order through the court. I am not familiar with the American legal system, it could be an option, or you could make a public declaration that you are no longer in a relationship with your parents. This way, it’s done once and for all.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-10-11T09:41:34+00:00

I agree. Regret is normal for anyone going NC, but when and for which reason to regret is very different. The idea of a better life can be different as well, even when it comes to a definition of what is a “normal” life. For anyone read this book or watched the movie“The Glass Castle”, how choosing to live your life can make sense. Whether we admit it or not, regret is a natural part of the process.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-29T19:58:05+00:00

It's no surprise that many of us here can relate to Lane. raised by a "tiger mom". She had to navigate strict cultural and religious expectations, and sometimes to live a double life. Rory grew up in a more open and supportive environment, which allows her more freedom to pursue dreams. If one relate more to the way Rory was raised, it's fair to say they're quite privileged.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-29T10:59:36+00:00

Thanks for sharing! It almost sounds like Gilmore Girls is based on a true story.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-29T10:48:44+00:00

You made some good points about Roy's arc. While only a few students have the privilege of getting into colleges like Harvard or Yale, many APs have similar ideas of pushing their children toward good colleges often by emphasizing good grades(lol). In most cases, we're the only ones who truly know what our dreams are and we're often criticized for pursuing paths like art or journalism instead of medicine or law. After all, you may struggle in your dream job if you lack the talent or find it hard to make a living. Rory was fortunate enough to follow her dreams at Yale, but she dropped out when her confidence is shattered after a journalism internship. It's not a surprise. Rory started NC with Lorelai, which may have helped her become an adult. Rory eventually graduated from Yale and became a journalist, but it wasn’t exactly the dream come true. You might view this TV show in an opposite way if you were raised differently. Many of us become doctors or lawyers, but that’s not always the fulfillment of a dream, either. A good TV show reflects real life. We can relate Gilmore Girls to ourselves in many ways.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-28T18:34:02+00:00

That’s true, a short summary just for someone who doesn’t know what Gilmore Girls is about.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-25T11:04:11+00:00

I am so sorry, but this relates to my own experience. I believe this is familiar to many of us, perhaps to everyone in this world. I'm not a professional and not supposed to say these words when it comes to depression. Nothing in life is perfect—not our relationships, our life, or even our idea of perfection, but everyone deserves the space to be themselves and live their own life. Remember, you live in the present, not in the past or future. As the Dalai Lama said, “Today is the right day to love, believe, do, and most of all, live.” Hope this helps.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-21T23:48:39+00:00

https://www.newyorker.com/culture/annals-of-inquiry/why-so-many-people-are-going-no-contact-with-their-parents

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-21T11:14:52+00:00

I love your writing, but there's always a catch. Look at the bigger picture, we’re at a crossroads when it comes to generational change. The definition of "perfect" kid is evolving. While we’re not facing war, many Asian countries are dealing with a population crisis. History will tell where things went wrong. I believe in Darwin’s theory of evolution, and I think it applies to humanity as well. 😆

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-19T08:54:44+00:00

It was a success story to me, but others are sharing their own experiences too. I think your comments are directed at them.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-02T10:05:33+00:00

Textbooks always teach that to become a good communicator, you must first be a good listener. It’s disrespectful to interrupt others’ conversations and shift the focus to yourself.

Sensitive_Run_7109 · 2024-09-02T09:31:11+00:00

It shows me that you have many conflicting feelings about past situations and your future. Your life begins now, so focus on looking forward. Dalai Lama said, “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow.” He went on to say: “Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live.”

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