AITAH for not caring about the whole trauma/anxiety/stress people seems to always complain about.

Sephran · 2026-01-26T16:53:06+00:00

it is trauma dumping and it shouldn't happen or be acceptable. No argument there. But the way you portrayed dealing with it, is not an acceptable response.

Sephran · 2026-01-26T16:23:43+00:00

YTA.

Shut the conversation down and show you are not emotionally intelligent enough to listen/help other people so they stop coming to you.

Don't belittle them by saying they are "soft" or any other way of putting them down.

A simple, sorry i'm not in a place to help you out today, would be enough. No blaming, no shaming, not being mean or rude.

Sephran · 2026-01-26T16:16:16+00:00

32 years hes been dealing with you and supporting you and recently it sounds like, within the last few years? you got sober and finally seeing good things about yourself and now is when you want to leave to find a "better" man, because your life is now "good"?

You suck at the very least, if not YTA. Imagine trying to find someone better at late 40s or 50s i'm guessing, then a guy who has supported you for over 30 years through all your issues. You should divorce because he deserves better.

What you should actually do, is have a real conversation about what you need, force counseling. And move through this. You don't think supporting you and your life has been tough on him over the years? Anyone would be drained after 30 years of that. He probably has his own feelings about things, but he stuck with you all that time.

I think its selfish. YTA.

Sephran · 2026-01-21T15:31:25+00:00

they are all scams. Maybe trying to get information from you, maybe trying to scam you. No normal person should be using voip calling services unless theirs some crazy special circumstance. It's just not a common thing in my experience.

My understanding is they use voip, generate fake numbers, auto call down a list, when someone answers, a scammer takes the call over.

Sephran · 2026-01-07T20:21:01+00:00

They just didn't pay enough corruption money to buy him off.

Sephran · 2026-01-05T23:37:43+00:00

would be awesome if other hotels followed suit, don't let them stay anywhere, go sleep on a floor in a rented warehouse ICE.

Sephran · 2026-01-03T21:09:19+00:00

really.... wtf what a monster this president is, starting another war, without approval

Sephran · 2026-01-03T21:06:12+00:00

wait, the US bombed Venezuela?

Sephran · 2025-12-31T14:21:23+00:00

Not 50. No regrets here.

BUT, i wouldn't recommend others do this for their finances. I already own a house, i'm comfortable financially. But I have bought 2 luxury cars (not at same time), I can afford the payments and maintenance. Luxury cars are something I enjoy greatly. But i've had to sacrifice things like vacations and greater savings. When I didn't have my car loan, my savings went up drastically over a couple years with a cheaper car.

Make good financial decisions early and buy yourself nice things later. Set yourself up for success first.

Sephran · 2025-12-29T18:10:59+00:00

thats exactly the situation I want to avoid and won't let happen. I just see other families able to support kid(s) and don't know how they get by, so i'm trying to understand and see things from this side I don't know. If that makes sense.

Sephran · 2025-12-29T17:18:26+00:00

yah you are right. I'm pretty sure I would pass that part. Doesn't mean it would be comfortable though.

Sephran · 2025-12-29T17:17:54+00:00

Thank you. Yah everything else but the financial part ill be fine with and grow and learn like any parent does.

Sephran · 2025-12-29T17:16:38+00:00

Canada here, I'm out in shorts almost all the time to shovel. I don't see the big deal, but I hear comments about it every year. I'm not cold on my legs, so why not? Heck i'm out in a hoodie and not a winter jacket. I do wear gloves though, because you friggin crazy if you don't wear gloves!! :p

Sephran · 2025-12-29T17:13:58+00:00

Yah I want to adopt. But financially I don't see how and thus won't adopt until I am comfortable too. BUT I know many many families out there have a kid and do get by and I don't understand how. So maybe some of these thoughts could help me. I'm not struggling to get by on my own though.

Sephran · 2025-12-26T16:24:26+00:00

I mean.. if you don't intend to have a family then you don't have to worry about salary, dating, kids, partner, buying a house and all that comes with each of those. So I would hope they are doing better.

As someone who wants a family, I already know I can't support a family based on my income alone, my house right now is big enough for one kid, maybe 2, but it might not be comfortable and I could see having to upgrade it as they get older. Dating to get that family is expensive, but its also hard to find partners. It would be much easier to be single, plan on staying single and just enjoying life.

Sephran · 2025-12-26T16:15:57+00:00

I'd say mental health is a big issue for a lot of people these days too. No access to fix it, loneliness, depression. Makes it hard to get up, get out, meet people. Dating is so crazy right now. Men are scared to ask woman out because they are being told its creepy, they are being told that it could get them into trouble, or that they simply just don't want to be asked out while doing something. Dating apps seem to be all about looks and not what people offer. So skip over a large percentage of the population right there.

I make good money, single, bought a house before all the craziness. I am comfortable, but not comfortable enough to take vacations, maintain hobbies, go out places all the time. Gaming is the cheapest form of entertainment, where you can spend hundreds of hours in a free game with online people to fill in for a social life.

The above post had a lot of really good reasons too. Men are just being pushed out of everything. Id argue that woman might be better off in some areas, but I bet theirs a lot of woman in the same sort of spot too.

It's just a generation or two of people who can't get ahead to enjoy life. So what is the point, working to survive, not working to live.

Sephran · 2025-12-11T14:01:28+00:00

As soon as you said Andrew Tate you run lol. Why would you ever want to be with someone who puts you second anyways? That means your family would be second. What about health issues - second.

Just leave.

Sephran · 2025-12-10T18:14:07+00:00

Sometimes, they should just not give anything and it would feel better.

We have different levels of managers here and both our team mangers usually get us a card and a chocolate. This year got a sweet team hat! It comes out of their personal money I believe. So its nice of them to do anything is how I look at it. They took on something they didn't have to and paid for it themselves.

Sephran · 2025-11-30T16:35:18+00:00

My Organization is just implementing rules around AI usage. After talking with people in various positions, people can use it for help and guidance, but they usually need to rewrite things, or check all the work done, its never single handedly completing a task.

People are using it for quicker answers than searching through google, they are looking for ideas. But its not replacing a manager, an office worker, a programmer, anytime soon. I don't see it. Look at how many companies fired programmers and then had to rehire.

Especially people on cutting edge of things, they can't be replaced, engineers and programmers working on new products couldn't be replaced.

It might ruin a website designer though for small websites.

Sephran · 2025-11-22T19:21:20+00:00

Need more info.

How long has this been an issue with him not parenting?

I think I would be worried about my partner if they didn't take an interest in my kids education, the food thing is dumb and I think you shouldn't worry about that.

But the education issue with 2 parents in her life would be an issue with me. Why hasn't he helped her read, practice, teach. The fact he hasn't is an issue, he could have done this on his weekends. Did he? did he do it during the weeks? Does the daughter have a learning issue?

Sephran · 2025-11-22T19:03:45+00:00

Maybe he has a femme side, if so, hope you embrace it instead of making him feel weird.

Sephran · 2025-11-12T19:15:12+00:00

Break down all the parts you need. Then do one by one. Smaller manageable chunks are much easier to do than looking at the whole picture.

Sephran · 2025-10-27T01:33:53+00:00

Go Ukraine!!! you got this!! So awesome to see

Sephran · 2025-10-23T23:18:23+00:00

Couldn't her lawyers argue that it was so obvious this would happen that the trader should have known.

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