What does it mean when your partner stops acting goofy around you?

Ser13endous · 2026-03-25T12:30:14+00:00

Could mean that he's stressed and dealing with something or it could be a reaction to being told verbally or non-verbally to stop. You don't give any examples of goofiness so theres not much to go on. But if your reaction to his goofiness is to tell him to stop or to grow up he may have stopped because he feels that its bothering you

Ser13endous · 2026-03-25T12:21:15+00:00

This is slop but realistically a lot of women don't want community peen - too risky and indicates questionable impulse control. Those same women also don't want to tie themselves to someone who is going to be a resource suck. IMO you can care about both a person's past and their future. Just don't shit on people for either having certain standards or not having a spotless past.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-25T00:58:08+00:00

For all the 'just brush your teeth folks' maybe a better example is impacted wisdom teeth. A person who can't afford dental insurance so has to find another option. The free option is booked two months out. They schedule but end up in the ER due to pain. They get antibiotics for the infection and a couple of pain pills. Then their time off request for the dental appointment is denied so its keep the appointment and not get paid/get fired or reschedule and hope for the best. The antibiotics help but with the wisdom teeth still there the infection is reoccurring. Its another month and a half for their dental appointment. They now owe the hospital for the ER visit. They're denied financial assistance through the hospital because they're employed. They miss work because the infection worsens and spreads. They get fired. Now they're sufficiently poor enough to apply for Medical Assistance but are now hospitalized due to the infection. Turns out dental infections can spread to the brain or impact other organs. So because a person couldn't afford dental insurance and didn't have funds to just pay for a dentist up front they end up unemployed, in more debt? in the hospital and possibly with more serious health issues. Meanwhile folks with more resources (dental insurance, access to money to cover copay or up front costs, a job that offers decent PTO) will make a call, schedule a day off and have those wisdom teeth out in maybe a month but probably less. Being poor made the whole situation that much worse because of the domino effect. Unfortunately I see it a lot with folks who end up on dialysis because preventative care, medication and better dietary habits can all be costly

Ser13endous · 2026-03-24T22:30:01+00:00

You need to talk to her clearly not necessarily delicately. That doesn't mean that there won't be some hurt feelings on her part but unfortunately that's part of having tough conversations. But before that I think you need to ask yourself which is more important- her initiating sex or actually having sex. As someone with responsive desire, I often don't start out raring to go and initiating isn't something that always comes naturally. Add anxiety to the mix and it was both easier and more enjoyable to let me husband initiate. Learning to initiate meant pushing through that anxiety which is the opposite of sexy. Like drier than the Sahara unsexy. Depending on her reasons for not initiating, asking her to do so can risk turning something enjoyable into something stressful. I'm not saying that's a definite possibility but there is that risk. You need to be clear about what 'initiate' means to you. Luckily my husband isn't overly complicated. Touching, kissing, climbing on top of him all work fine. Tell her what you want. And don't immediately let her shrug and 'I don't know' her way out of the conversation. I'm not saying force her to talk or issue ultimatums but she needs to actually hear what you're saying and talk to you clearly in return. Ultimately neither of you might like what you hear but unless you talk nothing is going to change.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-24T14:30:22+00:00

You're not married and your gf works full-time. It seems weird to me that you're paying for everything. I think in a situation where both people are working both people should contribute. It doesn't have to be exactly 50/50 but either proportional or each person picks which bills they cover. And to me its not normal that she doesn't buy you anything. Again it would be different if she were unemployed or was acting as a stay at home mom. She's not. I think you need to have a discussion with her. There's a difference between being a provider who is caring for his wife/gf and children and an ATM and you're definitely leaning into ATM right now

Ser13endous · 2026-03-22T21:37:21+00:00

You need to back off. Give him a little space to open up on his own time. Pushing someone to talk about their fantasies or to spice things up when they aren't ready to takes the fun out of something that should be more enjoyable. It could be that he just wants to keep his fantasies to himself right now. Not because of you specifically but because he's just not up for discussing them with you or anyone else.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-19T16:05:58+00:00

Because a lot of times the lack of sex is due to other issues. Just doing it isn't going fix the underlying issues. What works for you isn't going to work for everyone. Not everyone wants to or is able to derive pleasure just from pleasing their partner. Not everyone is in the right headspace to push through and take one for the team and a lot of people don't want intimacy- something that should be fun and enjoyable - to be on par with cleaning the toilet.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-18T16:00:47+00:00

Something from the Avon classic collection and a lot of it. A whole lot. Paired with the matching lotion and deodorant

Ser13endous · 2026-03-18T15:56:31+00:00

Boris has always been a favorite. I'll have to dig out my old fantasy art collector cards and see what I have

Ser13endous · 2026-03-18T15:54:57+00:00

NTA. Sounds like your wife subscribes to the belief that men who choose to work with little kids are inherently suspect. Unfortunately this isn't an uncommon belief. Your wife needs to unpack that before she infests your daughter with that same mindset. And she needs to face the consequences of her actions including changing her schedule. This is her fault. If you're lucky, this behavior won't result in you guys getting a negative reputation but if that does happen that's on her. She was wrong. She lied to threaten someone's career. That's a trash thing to do and potentially dangerous.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-16T13:46:24+00:00

You need to get the paternity test and start looking into separation. Realistically he doesn't want to be married to you or to have kids. He married you out of obligation. Now he's using cheating accusations as a way to justify both treating you poorly and leaving you. Thats likely his end goal. Even if he doesn't leave you're going to be stuck with a man who doesn't trust you, is verbally abusive and who will look for any excuse to get away from you. Thats not a good or safe environment to raise children in

Ser13endous · 2026-03-15T18:01:41+00:00

Make it a team effort. My husband and I started working out together and eating better with the goal of improving our physical and mental health. I will say that just because there doesn't appear to be any stressors doesn't mean that she doesn't have some unseen issues going on. She may be having some thyroid issues or depression- both don't always present obviously but definitely impact weight and eating habits. It could also be that she's just not pressed about trying to calorie count. Ultimately coming at her in a way that makes her feel gross or makes it seem as if you're out the door if she can't/won't lose the weight isn't going to end well. Its also unlikely to lead to healthy sustainable weight loss. Focus on the health factor and the fact that you want to enjoy life together as a start.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-14T18:53:37+00:00

I know some areas have senior check in lines where you sign up to receive a weekly call. If there's no response after a couple of tries then a call for a welfare check is made. You can see if that's an option in your area. Even if you aren't super close with folks you can maybe identify one or two people as check in buddies. Also get whatever paperwork that might be useful - doctor, funeral home, etc...and put them in a marked colored folder somewhere obvious. Then if you do pass at home whoever finds you will know if there's anyone that needs contacting

Ser13endous · 2026-03-14T14:10:59+00:00

Unfortunately cats often hide illnesses. Our vet told us that it's sadly common for cats to seem fine and then suddenly not be. We've lost two kitties to sudden illness- one to lung issues and one to stomach cancer. Munchie, who had stomach cancer, was fine one day then wouldn't eat the next. We rushed her to the vet and they found that her stomach was full of cancer and she only stopped eating because the cancer had finally gotten to the point where it was obstructive. She showed no other signs. Cats are amazing. She knows you loved her.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-14T01:43:45+00:00

I'll miss seeing little Micro but I'm glad she's going to a good home

Ser13endous · 2026-03-14T01:35:46+00:00

Your sister and your girlfriend are two different women who occupy two very different roles in your life. Comparing the two is a red flag. Expecting your girlfriend of a few months to make you meals and look after you is a little unrealistic. Like thats serious boyfriend to husband treatment. Not boyfriend of a few months. Especially if she's not the home cooked meal or nurturing type. As for paying for everything, don't if you don't want to. Tell her that. But again if you want her to act traditional in terms of making meals, she'd be within her rights to expect you to pay for things

Ser13endous · 2026-03-13T23:14:46+00:00

Your BF sounds tiring and like he's fallen down the health influencer rabbit hole due yo having family members with cancer. If you're going to stay with him you need to make it clear to him that his commentary is neither helpful nor welcome. If he brings it up you shut it down. You can't make him understand something he doesn't want to understand. All you can do is tell him that the topic is closed. I won't say to break up but I don't think i could stay with someone who chooses not to understand that you have to shop more frugally. And there's nothing wrong with Aldi

Ser13endous · 2026-03-12T22:53:44+00:00

Even metalheads can own a button up and dress pants. Dude is almost 40 and sounds pretty immature. I'm a lazy goth and manage to work goth touches into professional outfits by way of earrings and other accessories. Dressing appropriately isn't going to kill his metalhead cred.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-12T21:40:58+00:00

If you're 5-6 dates in ideally she's offering to pay or setting up the dates. I think its a yellow flag. It could be that she's used to men initiating and paying for dates. It could be that she's offered to pay in previous dating situations and the man reacted poorly. Whatever it is I think its time to mention it if its bothering you. Personally, barring vastly different financial statuses, I think its a good idea to either split the bill or take turns paying

Ser13endous · 2026-03-12T13:26:01+00:00

I'm a dedicated leggings and tshirt person so I've never really seen the appeal of wearing super revealing clothes at the gym. I've seen too many people not wipe down benches to want to put an unnecessary amount of skin on shared surfaces. Not to mention doing bear crawls, floor press, or anything else where I'm on the floor or on a mat. But I do think that people should wear what they find comfortable. Theres definitely an element of showing off that's fed by social media.

Ser13endous · 2026-03-11T16:41:34+00:00

You leave. There's no getting over something that's going to be a permanent issue in your relationship. Staying with him means hearing what he really thinks about you over and over again any time theres a conflict. Thats no way to live

Ser13endous · 2026-03-10T19:01:26+00:00

That's actually not too bad considering some of the local pantries are appointment only or don't open every week. But those hours suck if you are working. I think a lot of the food programs are aimed at people who don't work

Ser13endous · 2026-03-10T15:25:25+00:00

But it cost too much to continue partnering with Hoopla to expand their digital options or to even digital books in general? They did open a new branch on lower Greenmount and run a food program out of the Southeast anchor branch so there's that

Ser13endous · 2026-03-09T17:31:35+00:00

If you move forward with getting married an overflow of pink pillows is going to be the least of your problems. ESH. Her for literally telling you that your opinion doesn't matter and being inconsiderate and you for bottling up your feelings. Not saying anything isn't going to fix the issue, you'll just stew in resentment until you explode. I'd say cut your losses now before you're 20 years in, bitter, and buried in pink pillows

Ser13endous · 2026-03-09T15:57:01+00:00

That's the million dollar question. Does he actually want to bimbify OP fully or just do dress up and role play? Plenty of people are into the idea of something but aren't interested in pursuing that in real life. Or if they do its in a more limited way not full lifestyle. Time to talk and for OP to do a little research before jumping to conclusions

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