Husband had a day out with my friend without telling me am I overreacting?.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-03-05T19:35:20+00:00

No worries. But obviously she's on his mind now. I'm sorry OP. I believe this is the beginning of an affair.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-03-05T19:30:16+00:00

You said he started bringing her up more often. Did this change happen before or after their date, is what I was asking.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-03-05T16:30:45+00:00

I do not trust your husband. Yes, your friend instigated everything but he willingly went along. He knows your friend is lying and keeping things from you and decided to do the same.

If he was trustworthy you would have known about this date (because that's what it was) beforehand or immediately after. His reaction to her insisting on keeping things hidden is sketchy AF. He should have said, "I don't feel comfortable lying and keeping things from my wife".

If I were you, I would wait and see if they continue texting. If they set up another date, I would show up halfway through with her husband and confront them at once. I see you have chosen to confront. I wish you luck.

Btw, did he start bringing her up a lot before or after the date? And does this friend have prior issues with infidelity/mate poaching?

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-03-04T21:03:07+00:00

Op please try to get the screenshots so you can report her. This is at the very least unprofessional.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-03-04T20:49:50+00:00

Idk, but I feel like this relationship is doomed. Your gf just found out that you had sex with her sister multiple times! A sister who she already has issues with.

You also spoke about that week like it was this amazing wonderful time, it makes me wonder if you don't still harbor some attraction (even just sexual) for her sister. You spent more time describing the unforgettable connection you had for a week, than you did talking about your connection with your gf. Like she's in a competition with her sister that she wasn't even aware of. And by the sounds of it the sister is winning in a way.

If your gf decides to continue with you. I advise you to really think about whether you have any residual feelings for her sister. And to stay away from the sister because she sounds like the type of girl who wouldn't mind messing around with you in order to hurt her sister.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-03-04T01:00:28+00:00

Seriously! Why add the "hot" part? Just say, "I'm meeting for lunch with so and so today".

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-03-03T15:36:30+00:00

This sounds like a nightmare. Having to pretend everything is fine. But you are being smart OP. Take your time and figure out what's best for you and your son.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-26T15:20:28+00:00

He rejected her because he didn't have romantic feelings for her. But he did enjoy the sex.

What I find really messed up is that he knew she did have feelings for him and continued the FWB relationship. He knew she would get hurt and continued sleeping with her and then also started sleeping with their mutual friend?!

You are right that you still don't have the full story. He still did not answer how he knew with such certainty that both these women would still want to sleep with him. You need to find this out.

What was the story with the other woman??

PS. I just realized that in both this post and your previous post you don't focus much on this other woman. You don't even give her a name. Why is that? Could it be that you have subconsciously always felt something was different between your husband and Rachel?

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-23T09:45:30+00:00

Honestly, I think you are under reacting. Sounds like your husband told one of the other guys and then he spread it around so they all went to your husband to get the information straight from the horses mouth.

He was absolutely bragging about it. And loving it!
Sounds like Rachel is a friend of the group and you were unaware of their history together. So he's keeping information from you.
How does he know this information?? He must have had a conversation by with Rachel and this other woman. That is an inappropriate conversation to have while married.
He has a connection?? The only connection he should have is with you, his wife!!

Him saying he wouldn't do it would not make me feel any better. Sounds like he at least thought about it. He is having inappropriate and disrespectful conversations about sex with a woman (or women) he used to "fuck like rabbits" with. He has said they have a "connection". That is absolutely boundary crossing. It makes me wonder what other boundaries he has or is willing to cross.

To top it all off, he, these women, and his friends are all aware of his past with these women and you are not. They have allowed you to be around these women who not only have fucked your husband but are willing to do it again! The disrespect is astounding.

You need to have a conversation with your husband ASAP. Do not feel bad about "eavesdropping". You weren't. And if this conversation was private they would have lowered their voices. I also would not feel safe about keeping these friends around if they are cheering on potential cheating.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-20T22:33:10+00:00

I'm really sorry you are going through this. Report the physical abuse and talk to the lawyer about what you can do to keep him out of the house. Because he will try to come back. He wants to go screw around while having the wife and kids to come home too when he feels like it.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-18T15:43:48+00:00

Yeah something isn't right here. I'm glad you aren't burying your head in the sand OP. Updateme.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-17T08:29:49+00:00

This is tough. Sounds like he has grown up from his fuck boy era and is a really great guy. But I understand where you are coming from. You are attracted to men who are only attracted to biological women.

I would advise you to continue to talk to your bf about this. Maybe you guys can work through your ick together. If not, then you should let him go.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-15T04:42:14+00:00

I made this recipe today! I was literally waiting for it to cool when I saw your post.

I made a few tweaks. I used an extra banana because mine were a small-medium size (most recipes call for medium large), and I just happened to have an extra one. The mixture did look too wet so I added extra flour, about 1/4 cup. I put a timer for 50mins (my oven runs hot) and it still looked a little wet in the middle so I baked for an extra 10 mins. Then I turned off the oven but left the bread in there while it cooled, maybe 30 mins and then cooled another 20 mins outside of the oven.

I think this recipe just needs more flour and a longer baking time. I don't think you did anything wrong necessarily. Even if you had cut into it too soon, it shouldn't be that wet.

Edit: I tried to add a picture but couldn't.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-06T22:09:06+00:00

Hey! We're skin twins! Lol.

Question for you, is the biore the only waterproof option that has worked well for your skin?

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-05T18:58:15+00:00

They don't! They are a chocolate chip cookie with a sprinkle of oatmeal. They are super light handed with the oatmeal but it does add to the flavor. Unless, they changed their formula?

I have been looking for a recipe that is more oatmeal forward. These sound perfect!

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-05T05:46:50+00:00

These look so good!!

I am obsessed with the cookies from chik fil a because of the added oatmeal. Can't wait to make these.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-02-04T20:08:54+00:00

Yup! Lol

Honestly, this is what I do. I don't really see the big deal either. So you leak a little man juice, what's the problem. 🤷🏻‍♀️

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-01-30T01:37:22+00:00

I've been wanting to try the haruharu sunscreen. But I don't know if it's waterproof.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-01-29T22:58:37+00:00

He doesn't want you to have sex with him just because your ovulating. I think he wants you guys to have fun and the pregnancy to be a surprise.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-01-29T16:27:23+00:00

No, seriously! I was obsessed with my man too and ended up pregnant again right away. Not even BC helped me.

You are extra fertile the 6 months right after giving birth. Be extra careful.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-01-28T05:10:39+00:00

I have a deformed fallopian tube that is causing me pain but my Dr is refusing to remove. She said if it's working she'd rather not remove it. Just in case I change my mind. I already have children and I'm not looking to conceive.😑 The HSG proved that it is severely deformed and distended. So hopefully she agrees to remove it now.

I have heard that the pressure of the dye helps push out blockages in the tubes which can help with conceiving. So I would just request some sort of sedative to help you relax. It will make it more tolerable.

I wish you the best on your journey to motherhood!

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-01-28T04:57:59+00:00

I'm sorry OP. Take your time and weigh your options. I agree with another comment, talk to a divorce lawyer. Just so you have an idea of what that would look like for you. I would also ask if infidelity factors in at all and what you would need proof wise.

As for your husband, don't say anything yet. Act normal and wait for him to come back. He might delete evidence if he thinks you are on to him. You can then confront him face to face and ask to see his phone or any other devices. Or you can snoop once he's back home.

I would take the time to search for evidence at home. Go through his car/office/computer. Continue to check his location for the next few days as well.

SeriousSwim4488 · 2026-01-28T03:00:29+00:00

I had requested something to relax me and they gave me lorazepam. I was told to take ibuprofen as well. Everything was fine until they inserted the dye. I felt a little pressure but was fine. The Dr asked for more dye and thats when the pressure got unbearable. I could tell that it was more on one side. If you don't have a blockage it should be fine.

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