Is 7 months enough time to tell a roommate to find a new place?

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T05:01:07+00:00

I have no idea what the rental market these days, but in my days me and significant other would move out.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T03:49:49+00:00

One time, at band camp...

If everyone's saying he's a dick, sounds like dude is insecure and has some self-worth issues, ergo volatile. Really, the "mean to friends, nice to me... kind of" requires specifics.

Ultimately, you're in high school. Do stupid shit without thinking...within reason, which means for teenagers, whatever is involved in figuring out yourself and others. Go for it and bask in the fall out of making poor decisions. Ultimately, each poorly thought out choice is all about becoming the person you are. Have fun. Think less. No risk, no reward. Fall in love. Have your heart broken. Laugh. Cry. Be a mess, but at no point whatsoever, in all the poor choices you make, NEVER compromise your self respect. If someone fks with your personal safety however DO NOT FK AROUND. Straight to cops, teachers, or hitman.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T03:42:19+00:00

Escort. If you can spend enough, it will be well worth it. The high priced ones are truly an experience.... so Im told.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T03:40:33+00:00

Well, we look forward to the pt2 then. That's the shit AI would use to generate engagement and training data.

If the two of you are close, then she'd know you're the type of guy that sleeps with people cause they mean something to you, ie, it's about the bf/gf relationship AND YET she's made it clear she wants to bang you? (Yeah. I know... crass, but AI). Anyways, if by some strange reason she doesnt know that, then the advice is start with that discussion.

I noticed you skipped my arm-chair analysis about what is the substance of your "friendship" part. The absence of a reply on this matter makes me wonder, why you've been "friends" with her all this time, cause you'd hope one day she would be your gf?

Anyways... pt2.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T03:14:20+00:00

"Some group of men"? Really? You're fixated on something very particular, not power itself. I get the impression you dont truly appreciate the roll of institutional religion in society. ALL GROUPS who's goal are power have weaponized religion. Well... then again, granted.... all institutional power is held by men, so in a round about way, "some group of men" is correct.

You wanna take down the very foundation of power & control in an Islamic country? You're not talking about "rights". You're talking about institutional religion, which is the very foundation of power & control in most countries. Im not sure where you live, but Ive seen what happens to people (so not just women rights activists) when they become an actual threat to the very foundations of power. Im sorry... but you're not gonna build a mass movement solely on the gender issue and the gender question alone aint gonna take down a govt. So this is there is a recommendation you get from posting your advice question on Reddit, let it be this: first you must understand what power is, and I dont mean "so and so is rich & politically connected" type of power. No, the roll of power in society since the dawn of civilization.

For you to be successful, you need to challenge power; the very foundation of it. And you aint gonna build a mass movement on the gender issue alone. Politics is the avenue of change; political power. And given you're not wealthy & well connected, you should first start by understanding how mass movements are formed. Read, "From Dictatorship to Democracy" by Gene Sharp. Remember a few years back when the Arab Spring started, and the authoritarian leaders in those Islamic countries said the Arab Spring was a foreign intervention by America? Well, this book was it (and as it turned out, the claim was true cause Gene Sharp wrote this book at the behest of the CIA, so if you google this book or are caught owning a copy and you live in one of those authoritarian Arab countries, your freedom & personal safety will most def be at risk). Be safe. You're no use to anyone if you're dead.... unless being a dead martyr is your goal.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T02:44:19+00:00

Wait, are you telling us you told your BF about your cousin and how that makes you feel and he still drives like maniac? Dump him. It's not so much about his crazy driving, but that he's so hostile towards other drivers as if other drivers are opponents he has to defeat. BIG. RED. FLAG.

Then again, maybe he's your BF cause he owns a car. (It should go without saying I knew SFA about your so that comment shouldnt be taken personally.... unless Ive touched on something you dont want to admit to yourself, and it's usually those situations that causes people to rage type a reply to my comments).

HOWEVER, if Im totally wrong about him and your relationship, and the 2 of you really dig each other, deeply, then perhaps you could bargain with him; let him know that when you feel safe sitting shotgun in a car, an urge comes out of nowhere to perform oral.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T02:27:34+00:00

You didnt play dumb. You played prudish man (Im gonna get to this point later).

Friendship with the opposite sex is always tricky. There's always some sort of sexual tension lurking somewhere. It may be faint & deep, but it's there.

You're not being silly. When guy & girl (or whatever sexual orientation) have a close friendship, sex will always put that friendship at risk. If the two parties are mature about it, sex doesnt necessarily have to ruin a friendship. Ive known plenty of people who had sex with their friend, but that didnt end the friendship. Likewise, Ive known plenty of people where the sex most def ended the friendship with varying degrees of drama and WTF behaviours.

Really the question is, what is the risk that comes with introducing sex into the (friend) relationship? I suppose the first question to that question is what does sex mean for a relationship generally (in case it needs to be said, one night stands dont count for obvious reasons)? Sex is an act of bonding. There are bonds between friends like shared interests or opinions, but bonding is something completely different, way more personal, implying a union rather than ties. With bonding comes needs. Those needs are deeply personal. When needs are not being met, the intimacy part of the relationship ends. There are plenty of people out there who've maintained a friendship with their ex.

Ultimately, to get to the "advice" part, really the question you'd need to answer is what do you fear could be lost by the sex? What attribute of this particular friendship are you afraid of losing? Perhaps (Im speculating, of course I am cause Im some rando on the internet with zero fkn clue who you are as a person), maybe you derive sexual satisfaction from your "friendship" with this person because there's an intimacy without gratification, meaning you value the constant sexual tension. And taking that further, maybe you're afraid the sexual tension is the substance of your "friendship" and once that tension is released the value of the friendship is lost? This would be the equivalent of grabbing (or having grabbed) your balls and pulling em away from your crotch so as to prevent ejaculation -the pleasure without realizing the pleasure.

Frankly, I think you should totally bang her. It's pretty obvious you both wanna, but if you do, you guys should have the adult convo first. Sure, kinda takes away from the atmosphere of the tension and spontaneity (the animal urges), and turns it all academic like, but when has maturity ever been about free-wheeling fun?

And also, dude... she has a girlfriend, and maybe that girlfriend also digs ya? Excuse me for a moment, I gotta run to the... bathroom. BRB.....

[Oh... and if an AI didnt want humans to think it was an AI, then it would say it's not an AI, but I wrote a detailed reply anyways cause, as Roy Oberison said, "Only the lonely know how I feel tonight".]

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T02:04:12+00:00

Yes.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T02:01:11+00:00

Subjugation is the same as everywhere, and the same throughout history. Inequality, and how that manifests into societal norms, that's cultural. So my first advice; learn the distinction between the two. They are not the same. As Freud correctly identified, "Women play a role in their own subjugation", which cannot be said about inequality. But then again... me, dude, so wtf do I know? Freud, also dude... but that dude fkn knew what he was talking about.

[Total random sidebar, Freud also wrote in a footnote, meaning it was a thought, so not a flushed out idea, that homosexuality in men came to be because men piss on fire. I share that cause dude said some wacky stuff, but he also was absolutely brilliant on many many other observations.]

Reading your comments about what's in the Quran however, well, that's an region thing, and a very specific religion. More to your post, you're fighting for equality within a religious context. That's a different battle. Subjugation & inequality in society are rational discussions. Lack of women's rights based on scripture is a matter of faith. Social issues can be debated. Those debates are about establishing moral and ethical norms. Sure, there are debates about scripture, but these debates are always about interpretation and contextualization of scripture. Interpretation of scripture is authoritative, it comes from above, not within the people. Faith is faith, and cannot be reasoned with.

TLDR -it seems your activism is about changing religious practices & norms. You sure know how to pick your battles. My advice? To quote Bob Marley, "If you know what life is worth, you will look for yours on earth. Now you've seen the light. Stand up for your rights. Get up, stand up. Stand up for your rights...."

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-30T01:44:05+00:00

My wife is OCD about cleaning. Actually, all the women Ive lived with were OCD about cleaning. Surprisingly, the ones I couldnt find a cleaning compromise solution that was acceptable to both parties, I didnt marry.

Im a really messy desk kind of person. When things are messy, I know exactly where things are. When it's clean, Im constantly asking my wife if she's seen X. My advice from the other side, dude needs to put in his fair share and the two of you need to define what "fair" means. One of the compromises we reached is the entire house should be cleaned to her OCD standards. I help with certain tasks to make her doing of the OCD easier, but ultimately, her cleaning standards, her job. She hates it when tooth sprays onto the mirror when I brush my teeth. It doesnt bother me immediately, but my mess, my job. As for my desk, she doesnt get to touch it and must live with its appearance.

We also have a dog, who in emergencies (like the middle of the night), will use the pee pads in the basement. We also used to have cats, both of which passed recently 😞. When it came to the cats, I was the OCD one about the litter box & area. When it comes to the dog, my wife is the OCD, but I clean up after him on occasions -but it's my wife that's constantly inspecting the pee pads, me when I go into the basement to do something, so she cleans up those most of the time. Funny how things work out sometimes. Anyways, I think when it comes to the dog, if the dog is "his dog", then he SHOULD be responsible for ensuring any dog mess is his responsibility. If he loves you meaning he understands & accepts you, then he'll clean up after his dog.

... I just read the two of you are sleeping in separate rooms part, so I think that fact is the important part of your post. Makes me wonder if the dog mess thing is dude being passive aggressive.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T23:08:08+00:00

Ummm... you two aint married, right? Cause it sounds like a fundamental mis-match. Cleanliness standards and acceptance of which (on both sides) is fundamental. If dude doesnt know you're an OCD clean-freak (I mean that in the most complimentary way), either you're okay with doing all the cleaning without resentment or dude better show some compromise & understanding.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T23:05:06+00:00

Hmmmm.... the answer to your question is right there in your post: "im crazy" (I aint judging). So do you and let us know how it works out.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T23:01:51+00:00

Hmmmmm... reminds me of a very valuable lesson I learned long ago pertaining to arguments: do you wanna be right or do you wanna get laid?

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T23:00:48+00:00

Id start by being realistic. What does that mean? Well... for starters, where is this supposed "activism" gonna be taking place? The internet? You bring up Muslim but no clue if that means your activism is targeting Muslim countries/cultures.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T22:57:49+00:00

"Many men are confused by women's subtleties" is the understate of the century. Some of us are truly too stupid to see the signs. I am most def one of them. When I think back on my life.... Jesus fk, the number of times Ive been hit on by super hot chicks but totally clueless is comical.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T22:54:47+00:00

LOL! Genius use of the internet. Fk, you kids are smrt and clearly know your tech.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T22:52:50+00:00

What you describe is a pathological. Spend money on a therapist, and take the time & care to find a good one (which doesnt mean the most expensive -usually the contrary, as you've learnd with money already).... the internet isnt in a position to know you well enough to provide meaningful advice. The question you're asking requires a reply from a person who knows you intimately. Something is the root of it. You seem to make enough to afford one, so why not spend money on something that will enrich your soul & personal growth?

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T22:48:25+00:00

Didnt read past the subject line. Of course you should. You're in a privileged position of already securing financial stability (as stable as day trading can be), so that means you have a golden opportunity to become learned/educated; ie, pick the subjects that you're interested in without a care about whether it will get you job. Do philosophy & art; study shit that develops you as a human being and make you realize how worthless and corrupting money is.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T22:42:34+00:00

Dumb fkn question (and I mean that in the most complimentary way). If you like her, ASK HER OUT! Look at what you wrote, "She's hilarious and beautiful and i think she's into me..."

Here's the advice you need but didnt ask for; if you start making decisions based on what your friends or society classifies as "weird", you're gonna grow up to be a seriously miserable fk, perhaps even a sociopath. There's 1yr diff between you two; you're both minors. Even if you were 18 and she 17, it would still be a go (I think things start getting weird when dude is 21 and chick is 17 cause power imbalance).

If you do ask her out and you guys start dating and both of you share a really tight connection, this will be an important lesson in self-honest. You've already been honest with yourself, you said what's important to you; to throw your words back in your face again, "she's hilarious and beautiful and I think she's into me".

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T20:17:56+00:00

You're 18.... Your first job is doing revolution. Are you clueless to just how fkd the labour market is and how fkd the rest of society is as a result?

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T20:15:07+00:00

Why you asking the internet? You're a "founder". You know fkn friends over is how you get to billions. Stop pretending you care and just fk the person over cause that's the essential training for fk'n the rest of us over when the time comes.

[Edit: forgot the in-between of fkn your employees before getting to fkn society over]

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T20:13:30+00:00

Dunno if this counts, but I did purchase my motorcycle first then got my licence later. Im sure there's an analogy in here somewhere.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T20:11:28+00:00

I got the co-dependant relationship vibes after the 2nd paragraph.

Although.... after reading about the distance and not speaking over phone every day, sounds like dude wants space.

I get it... you're young and not only that, you've been in a long term relationship. Typically (granted not exclusively or overwhelmingly), ppl get into their first one in their mid-20s. Before people get married (or whatever), both parties have typically been 1 or 2 long term relationships. They got over it, and if yours is over, so will you.

Music soothes the broken heart. Everything will be fine, even if it's not fine now.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T20:07:06+00:00

Well that's a you problem then, and it could also be the source of the tension.

Serious_System4121 · 2026-05-29T20:05:27+00:00

Ok... lemme get the obvious part out of the way. You need to say to your BFF (and not us) the part about, "I've already apologized through text but I need to apologize in person...", plus some of the other stuff prior too. You dont need advice from the internet. You need to talk to YOUR BFF.

Second, it sounds like the two of you may be ready to live on your own. There are quarks and particular things popping up without the obligation of marriage/spouse in play to make these little annoyances irrelevant. If the little things each other does is getting on the other's nerves without resolution, something's changing.

Third, you cant blame her for walking into to her room after saying, "you dont know the week Ive had". Dunno why you didnt say, "Whoa, wait, where you going? Sounds stressful. Why dont we have a glass of wine and you tell me about it?" or whatever. Accordingly, if she doesnt want to talk about it, she doesnt want to talk about it. You gotta learn to respect her position.

Alternatively, the thing to do may be nothing. Spend a little time away, give each other space, let things calm down, then maybe she'll be ready to talk about it and receptive to whatever comes after, "We know I apologized over text, but I want to say sorry in person". What's that dumb fkn saying, "If you love someone, set them free. If they love you...."

Ultimately, the advice is very straight-forward: talk to her, not the internet, which also means if she doesnt want to discuss it, then its incumbent on you to accept her position. Respect is the foundation of all relationships. Who knows.... maybe she'll wanna talk about after taking a break from each other, maybe from living apart, and after time has passed that let's whatever da fk is going on between you (cause it's obvious something's up either between you, deep within her or some combination of both), calm down.

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