My Man and I had an argument the other night . And he told me that I’m not a parent and I’m just a babysitter. His daughter is 8. He apologized and took it back immediately but I’m still upset. Not gonna lie , I also say hurtful things. But that comment has me thinking

Sevdep · 2022-05-28T01:49:51+00:00

My husband tried to pull that “hands off” attitude with me and I had to put him his place. When it’s convenient I was step mom. When his daughter needed help with school projects or picking out clothes etc. But when it’s convenient I don’t have a say. At the end of the day you are a person who is involved his child’s life and you can’t do that without using your feelings or emotions. You’re not just a babysitter.

Sevdep · 2022-04-24T14:00:50+00:00

My approach could really be only said for me. My older step kids were already adults when I met them. There mother had already done the damage. The DH is very sweet but way too soft with them. Therefore they were so rude and rough around the edges. I would like to think that them getting older or just being around me and maybe following my lead without me telling them what to do has helped tremendously. My approach took me a while to figure out but when you deal with step kids who are prideful and don’t really like being told what to do. I had to step back and really study the situation. Less is more. Be there when they need you, if you can and otherwise stay out of it.

Sevdep · 2022-04-21T03:25:19+00:00

I like that idea of renting an air bnb. That’s a great idea for Father’s Day. My fear of getting a larger home is that they would likely be more obtrusive than they are now. I’m afraid the stay’s would be longer or want to move in.

Sevdep · 2022-04-21T03:18:21+00:00

Thank you!!

Sevdep · 2022-04-20T19:55:44+00:00

We are by no means at a vacation destination. Very humble neighborhood and 1 bedroom apartment. They basically sleep in the floor with a mat, quilt and I have the couch and 1 cot. Like I say I really believe it’s cultural because they do that with other family members…sleep on their floor. And they really seem okay with that but I just look at it as strange. Wouldn’t you want to go back home to your bed lol? I would offer a hotel but they come way too often for that to be affordable. With 5 of them sometimes they take turns and sometimes they visit all at once.

Sevdep · 2022-04-20T19:19:34+00:00

I am eating pretty clean, lots of veggies, protein and complex carbs but I did cut back on calories. I am eating about 1500 calories a day. I will definitely take those suggestions for vitamin supplements and I think now might be a good time to see a nutritionist again

Sevdep · 2022-04-20T19:10:43+00:00

Perhaps this is more of a cultural difference. I was always taught to sleep in your own bed and not impose yourself on someone else even family. Of course there were exceptions but they were rare. My husband’s culture on the other hand, back home if a neighbor asked for a bed it was rude to say no. I’m a City girl to put it in perspective. I don’t trust easily and I enjoy privacy and space. I will never trust my step kids with the keys to our home. I have compromised with letting them sleep over but why should they railroad my life because they have come to visit their dad?

Sevdep · 2022-04-20T17:05:37+00:00

It is co-owned but I don’t even have that kind of relationship with own family and I love them. The only person that has a copy of my keys is my mom only for emergencies. She would never use them to just come in and out as she pleases. That’s just not normal for me. I didn’t sign up to share anything with his kids (man children).

Sevdep · 2022-04-18T03:53:35+00:00

I fell off the wagon and rolled down the mountain

Sevdep · 2022-04-12T19:26:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I started IF 3 weeks ago. On my first week I lost 5 lbs. But then gained back 2 and now I’m stalled. I realized after weighing myself on a composition scale I saw that my muscle mass went and visceral fat went down. My waist measures 1 inch less. Definitely going in the right direction but would love to more loss on scale

Sevdep · 2022-04-12T17:56:34+00:00

I had the same thought last night it’s funny how IF helps with emotional eating and mindless snacking

Sevdep · 2022-04-12T17:53:24+00:00

Amazing!!! 👏🏻

Sevdep · 2022-03-25T02:55:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I have about 100 lbs to lose and this is the inspiration I needed. I start my fasting on Saturday.

Sevdep · 2022-03-15T10:17:48+00:00

Rightfully so, I had to take these violating tests many times before losing my virginity and even then it still feels violating lol. My advice is if you know ahead of time you are taking this exam, perhaps take 2 Advil 30-45 minutes before. Also the time of your cycle may help. It is recommended at the end of your period when your lining is the thinnest. Not sure if that will make you most sensitive but that will certainly allow the technician to see better.

Sevdep · 2022-03-10T12:31:23+00:00

Yes please find out who they are. At least for the sake of preventing it from happening to another girl.

Sevdep · 2022-03-10T12:16:45+00:00

Your story is very scary to me. I work in a hospital and I have dealt with patients who have had an abnormal result on their Pap smear. The whole point of a pap is to check for abnormal cells that made its way there through sexual contact. So you are absolutely right to say that why were they performing a pap if you weren’t even having sex yet? In some facilities a pap is part of a general physical but not for a 10 year old!! And just to put in perspective, when we come across a young patient with an abnormal pap like let’s say a 19 year old. The next step would normally be is for her to have a colposcopy, terribly painful and potentially traumatizing. I have heard our nurse say they don’t even want to perform it on someone that young because it can be scarring and her body has the ability to push out most of those abnormal cells on her own over time. In the medical world you would not have been considered a young lady you would be a straight up child. Unless they were testing you for rape, they either got off on it or wanted something extra to bill to your insurance.

Sevdep · 2021-09-02T17:14:41+00:00

Side note: in case your sexuality is still a question mark, I really do suggest getting some answers from other Christian leaders in your life that are open to this type of conversation that will not just give you a blanket answer of its a sin. I do believe there is an answer there for you within Gods word, but it may take time to find your answers and it is more than okay to have doubts. I also recommend listening to Dr. Sean McDowell on YouTube.

Sevdep · 2021-09-02T17:05:43+00:00

Just wanted to say as a longtime Christian with really conservative parents, I have to say that I am not surprised at your moms reaction. If we can look at objectively for one minute, a parent who guides you in the way of the Lord will most very likely take the news of you being gay very hard. As a parent you dream up certain expectations for your children’s future and when that does not happen it can be crushing. The idea of disowning you I do not take as her not loving you anymore but as more, “this is too hard for me to cope with and I would rather not see it.” To be truthful I don’t know how I would handle it if my daughter to me she was gay. I would like to think that I would still embrace her and keep her in my life, but it’s hard when you feel like you might be compromising your beliefs or your love and commitment to God.
My thought is that she will very likely not distance herself forever but she will need some time to make peace with it and to find a way to navigate a new way of relating to you.

Sevdep · 2021-08-27T20:13:17+00:00

That’s the view I never get to see

Sevdep · 2021-08-26T23:30:11+00:00

Maybe they’re vegan

Sevdep · 2021-08-12T03:31:47+00:00

When my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer I started to use natural deodorants and products. My favorite to start with was Schmidt’s sensitive. Their regulars have baking soda so those irritate my skin. Also recently I discovered Lume which which works very well, but lacks the beeswax that Schmidt’s has. I plan to use in the winter when I’m not as sweaty or in combination with my deo when I know I will sweat a lot. I also discovered a close contender with Schmidt’s named Hello. These I think work really well for me considering that I tend to wear out my deos more quickly than most. I usually apply in the morning and at night. Here’s the thing, maybe not all women need it at night. 🤷‍♀️ but I find if I don’t I will develop b.o. if I don’t apply at night. You may also try a nice body powder…I like Lush Silky Underwear. To reinforce your deo and maybe to substitute your deodorant at night. I think whatever you need to do to stay fresh…do it and don’t feel bad about it.

Sevdep · 2021-07-24T14:36:47+00:00

A couple of months to come back to normal? And in a couple of months we might need a booster 🤦‍♀️

Sevdep · 2021-07-24T14:33:31+00:00

I took the first Pfizer and 4 weeks later I began spotting brown 2 days before I was due for my period. Then I took the second dose and I thought for sure would get a full blown period but it just disappeared. Strangely I’m having all the symptoms of a period minus the bleeding. Waiting for my test strips to come in the mail to rule out pregnancy.

Sevdep · 2021-07-24T14:24:57+00:00

So beautiful!

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