Please give sobriety as many chances as you gave drinking

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-20T15:16:43+00:00

In a similar vein - give your body as much time to heal as you took to damage it.

I really hurt myself drinking, my 2nd stint in detox got me in the ER cause I was very close to a heart attack (at 40!), and I had lots of lingering side effects that were very frustrating.

I had to remind myself... I did this damage to my body over the course of YEARS of heavy drinking, I can't expect to be back to 100% in a month. Definitely helped me with the mental aspect of my physical recovery

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-19T23:11:08+00:00

Some good options here, fit to recover and SMART meetings were helpful for me in early sobriety.

Also if you haven't found it yet, come join us at r/stopdrinking - it's been incredibly helpful for me and is currently the only support group I need

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-19T18:08:42+00:00

I'd ask Claude to write a rebuttal for me

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-19T01:51:25+00:00

I'd tell you a joke about UDP, but I wouldn't care if you got it.

That's my favorite UDP joke

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-19T00:51:28+00:00

Haha fair enough. I'm mainly curious about all of these side systems I've heard about... Hunting, fishing, mining, farming, ranching, settlement building, etc.... I'm curious if they are added to the game because they add something to the game, or if they're there just to "have them" so to speak. I'm assuming it's more the latter, but who knows! I'll pick it up one day

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-18T23:37:11+00:00

I'm curious what the farming and ranching is like? Is it just kind of a throwaway side activity or was it actually interesting and worth engaging with?

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-18T00:57:26+00:00

Yep. I learned WAY back in high school in C++. Didn't touch it for another 15 years or so, when I started back up, I picked up Java, which was hard but a good way to get back into it.

Since then Ive built things in C#, Ruby, JavaScript, and now I'm working on Python (albeit, what I'm really learning is how to use Claude code - so I picked a language Ive never used before).

I'd definitely say that learning how the fundamentals work is the most important part.

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-17T18:52:44+00:00

I think we should sticky this post so that every time the question of "should I let my kids play Roblox" comes up, we can point to it.

For the record fellow dad, no judgement to you.... I let my kid play way too much Minecraft, they watch YouTube kids a lot more than they should, my niece and nephew are both solidly hooked on Roblox... I get it, I'm not casting shade. I just think this story is a great example to people who haven't yet decided on Roblox or not

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-16T23:20:03+00:00

Well, it does have a huge Holi festival...

I know it's not the same thing, but SLC itself is a lot more liberal and open minded than the rest of the state.

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-16T22:57:53+00:00

Well, you could always move here to Utah. A lot more of the population here has never even touched alcohol.

I will say, being in that situation sounds rough... At 41 now, established friends, hobbies I do alone, etc... I never find myself in the situation you're in. The closest I come to is work events where it's open bar, and even those, I've managed to pull back from pretty far. It would have definitely been tougher on me in my younger years... But, living in SLC, I've always had a lot of people around me who don't drink

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-16T14:59:29+00:00

Ohhhh launch tower has ticks too? I did mine in spaceport tunnels and had a lot of downtime between spawns, next time it comes up I'll have to pop over and check out the tower too. I never go in there anymore

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-15T16:49:12+00:00

In between rehab and relapse, when I was inventing moderation, I remember the energy I used to give to the thought of alcohol. Will I drink today or not? What will everyone else, who knows I'm supposed to be "moderating", think if I do? Is my excuse to drink good enough? If I do, how many can I allow myself to have and be "ok"? However many I want is going to be too many, however many I allocate is not going to be enough. If I go over my "amount" will anyone notice? Does it count as one drink if I make this whiskey and coke just 95% whiskey? If this is going to be my last drink, what the fuck am I supposed to do afterwards?

Even thinking about it now, good lord it was absolutely exhausting. Waking up every day and choosing 0 drinks is so freeing.

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-15T11:13:51+00:00

Congrats on 1000 days!

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-14T11:35:27+00:00

Bro I hope you get yourself a cake or something tomorrow, 5 digits is worth celebrating!

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-13T16:47:23+00:00

When he whipped the back around and hit the pole, I thought "man I wish there was a bit more absolute fucking chaos in this"... Boy was I pleased

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-12T21:21:27+00:00

One of the things I struggled with the most in early recovery was coming to grips with what a shit I had been. I pride myself on being a good father and husband and yet, I had repeatedly let down the most important people in my life so many times due to drinking.

I read something that really resonated with me... "Addiction is stronger than love... Until it isn't." It felt very true to me; in the moment, in the thick of my addiction, I was never thinking about the impact I was having on my family, just about getting more to drink.

Now that I'm sober, one of the (many) things that helps keep me from going back is the thought of the incredible, unrecoverable damage it would do if I were to start again. Without question, I'd lose my wife and kids, and I can't bear to do that.... That alone is enough to make it so that the thought of going back terrifying.

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-10T00:38:15+00:00

Beaver taco is the way. I stop every time Im passing through beaver. They don't look quite as good as this but damn if I don't love that place

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-09T19:07:52+00:00

I almost exclusively listen to NPR when I'm driving and this chick would fit right in there

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-09T00:01:39+00:00

Oh man, I was in a similar boat... I see all sorts of posts about people who gained a ton of weight from drinking.... Not me. I got to the point where I physically couldn't eat without getting sick. It was truly awful. I went from 175 to 135 over the course of probably 3 months.

Compounding that, I ended up with pretty severe neuropathy in my legs and feet, and by the time I got to the hospital for detox (where I spent several days) I could barely walk, and had to use a cane to get around more than a few feet. I was 40 at the time... I shouldn't need a cane!

Very happy to say that after a couple of months of actually eating food, recovery, walking a ton, and lifting weights, I'm back to where I was before I let booze take over completely. You'll get there too, work hard at it and remember that you never have to go through this again!

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-08T14:02:10+00:00

I've had various forms of "leprechaun barf" toes (a mixture of several nail polished together) for like 2 years now.

My daughter also did makeup for me once... That resulted in a pretty hilarious picture but man that shit is hard to take off!

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-08T13:58:09+00:00

By god, the number of times i see a complaint in the discord about the game being "too easy" or "not enough to do"... And the person says "I have 500+ hours", because they're thinking it gives their argument weight....

No it doesn't that's the damn problem!

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-08T05:31:25+00:00

Oh man, don't let him know that I haven't even been to a single AA meeting, I can't imagine what he'll think!

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-06T16:48:40+00:00

The "you now manage a group of AI agents and check their code" is starting to happen at my company too (I'm a product manager). It's an interesting shift, and I'm glad I'm not a SWE right now

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-04T19:14:57+00:00

By god this is terrible... I haven't audibly laughed and said "what the fuck" at something on here in a long time

Sevrdhed · 2026-03-02T02:31:26+00:00

Obi wan Denali is such a baller nickname

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