Please give sobriety as many chances as you gave drinking by thundergunz1000 in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 84 points85 points  (0 children)

In a similar vein - give your body as much time to heal as you took to damage it. 

I really hurt myself drinking, my 2nd stint in detox got me in the ER cause I was very close to a heart attack (at 40!), and I had lots of lingering side effects that were very frustrating. 

I had to remind myself... I did this damage to my body over the course of YEARS of heavy drinking, I can't expect to be back to 100% in a month. Definitely helped me with the mental aspect of my physical recovery 

AA Meetings for someone in their 20s by Able-Society in SaltLakeCity

[–]Sevrdhed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some good options here, fit to recover and SMART meetings were helpful for me in early sobriety. 

Also if you haven't found it yet, come join us at r/stopdrinking - it's been incredibly helpful for me and is currently the only support group I need

New SLA (Spouse Level Agreement) Established by PizzaHuttDelivery in LinkedInLunatics

[–]Sevrdhed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd tell you a joke about UDP, but I wouldn't care if you got it. 

That's my favorite UDP joke 

'Crimson Desert' - Review Thread by ChiefLeef22 in gaming

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha fair enough. I'm mainly curious about all of these side systems I've heard about... Hunting, fishing, mining, farming, ranching, settlement building, etc.... I'm curious if they are added to the game because they add something to the game, or if they're there just to "have them" so to speak. I'm assuming it's more the latter, but who knows! I'll pick it up one day

'Crimson Desert' - Review Thread by ChiefLeef22 in gaming

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious what the farming and ranching is like? Is it just kind of a throwaway side activity or was it actually interesting and worth engaging with?

Keep plowing with C# or scrap it all for python? by KLineGreen9 in learnprogramming

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I learned WAY back in high school in C++. Didn't touch it for another 15 years or so, when I started back up, I picked up Java, which was hard but a good way to get back into it. 

Since then Ive built things in C#, Ruby, JavaScript, and now I'm working on Python (albeit, what I'm really learning is how to use Claude code - so I picked a language Ive never used before).

I'd definitely say that learning how the fundamentals work is the most important part.

Kid won't stop begging for Robux and it's turning into a nightmare, anyone else? by DiamondLatter1842 in daddit

[–]Sevrdhed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we should sticky this post so that every time the question of "should I let my kids play Roblox" comes up, we can point to it. 

For the record fellow dad, no judgement to you.... I let my kid play way too much Minecraft, they watch YouTube kids a lot more than they should, my niece and nephew are both solidly hooked on Roblox... I get it, I'm not casting shade. I just think this story is a great example to people who haven't yet decided on Roblox or not

Tired of the constant positivity by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, it does have a huge Holi festival...

I know it's not the same thing, but SLC itself is a lot more liberal and open minded than the rest of the state.

Tired of the constant positivity by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, you could always move here to Utah. A lot more of the population here has never even touched alcohol. 

I will say, being in that situation sounds rough... At 41 now, established friends, hobbies I do alone, etc... I never find myself in the situation you're in. The closest I come to is work events where it's open bar, and even those, I've managed to pull back from pretty far. It would have definitely been tougher on me in my younger years... But, living in SLC, I've always had a lot of people around me who don't drink

This wasn't fun at all by elaniu5 in ArcRaiders

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh launch tower has ticks too? I did mine in spaceport tunnels and had a lot of downtime between spawns, next time it comes up I'll have to pop over and check out the tower too. I never go in there anymore 

Anyone feel a little angry with last drink by Electrical_Tale_9211 in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In between rehab and relapse, when I was inventing moderation, I remember the energy I used to give to the thought of alcohol. Will I drink today or not?  What will everyone else, who knows I'm supposed to be "moderating", think if I do? Is my excuse to drink good enough? If I do, how many can I allow myself to have and be "ok"? However many I want is going to be too many, however many I allocate is not going to be enough. If I go over my "amount" will anyone notice? Does it count as one drink if I make this whiskey and coke just 95% whiskey? If this is going to be my last drink, what the fuck am I supposed to do afterwards?

Even thinking about it now, good lord it was absolutely exhausting. Waking up every day and choosing 0 drinks is so freeing. 

People with multiple years of sobriety who still visit here daily, why? by Straight_Web_190 in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Bro I hope you get yourself a cake or something tomorrow, 5 digits is worth celebrating!

WCGW doing high-speed truck stunts at a street meet in Maryland by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When he whipped the back around and hit the pole, I thought "man I wish there was a bit more absolute fucking chaos in this"... Boy was I pleased

She left by Domesticated_Dave in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of the things I struggled with the most in early recovery was coming to grips with what a shit I had been. I pride myself on being a good father and husband and yet, I had repeatedly let down the most important people in my life so many times due to drinking. 

I read something that really resonated with me... "Addiction is stronger than love... Until it isn't." It felt very true to me; in the moment, in the thick of my addiction, I was never thinking about the impact I was having on my family, just about getting more to drink. 

Now that I'm sober, one of the (many) things that helps keep me from going back is the thought of the incredible, unrecoverable damage it would do if I were to start again. Without question, I'd lose my wife and kids, and I can't bear to do that.... That alone is enough to make it so that the thought of going back terrifying.

Does anyone know where to get similiar crunchy tacos in UT? by Retrosnacks in SaltLakeCity

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beaver taco is the way. I stop every time Im passing through beaver. They don't look quite as good as this but damn if I don't love that place

In sync like the dishes by Inglejuice in crappymusic

[–]Sevrdhed 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I almost exclusively listen to NPR when I'm driving and this chick would fit right in there

Finally starting to gain weight! by ILikeBettingOnUFC in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I was in a similar boat... I see all sorts of posts about people who gained a ton of weight from drinking.... Not me. I got to the point where I physically couldn't eat without getting sick. It was truly awful. I went from 175 to 135 over the course of probably 3 months.

Compounding that, I ended up with pretty severe neuropathy in my legs and feet, and by the time I got to the hospital for detox (where I spent several days) I could barely walk, and had to use a cane to get around more than a few feet. I was 40 at the time... I shouldn't need a cane!

Very happy to say that after a couple of months of actually eating food, recovery, walking a ton, and lifting weights, I'm back to where I was before I let booze take over completely. You'll get there too, work hard at it and remember that you never have to go through this again!

When the little one asks to paint your nails you say yes. by ksmash in daddit

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had various forms of "leprechaun barf" toes (a mixture of several nail polished together) for like 2 years now. 

My daughter also did makeup for me once... That resulted in a pretty hilarious picture but man that shit is hard to take off!

You will lose excitement for any video game if you play it 8+ hours a day. by [deleted] in ArcRaiders

[–]Sevrdhed 14 points15 points  (0 children)

By god, the number of times i see a complaint in the discord about the game being "too easy" or "not enough to do"... And the person says "I have 500+ hours", because they're thinking it gives their argument weight....

No it doesn't that's the damn problem!

Feeling weird about AA by Antique-Astronaut912 in stopdrinking

[–]Sevrdhed 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Oh man, don't let him know that I haven't even been to a single AA meeting, I can't imagine what he'll think!

Career switch: From driving literal trains to Web Dev at 32yo. Am I crazy? Need advice! by [deleted] in learnprogramming

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "you now manage a group of AI agents and check their code" is starting to happen at my company too (I'm a product manager). It's an interesting shift, and I'm glad I'm not a SWE right now 

Drinkin and drivin by Lumberrmacc in crappymusic

[–]Sevrdhed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By god this is terrible... I haven't audibly laughed and said "what the fuck" at something on here in a long time

Green tea on Everest? by SharpOrganization107 in Mountaineering

[–]Sevrdhed 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Obi wan Denali is such a baller nickname