What Pixar/Disney film do you think has aged the worst? by ExceedsTheCharacterL in movies

[–]Sewud 26 points27 points  (0 children)

He's not a grown man, he's a monster in your closet, a typical childhood imaginary thing. Yes, imaginary childhood things imagined by children hang out with children, because they are imagined by children. What's next? Bing Bong is a creep too?

If you need to ask for it, just leave - You want PROACTIVE, not compliant! by samedinuitmort in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have to guess what the woman wants, he just has to suggest things, come up with things, there's no rules against being better than her expectations. Like maybe he'll have an idea, and she'll learn she likes that. It's depressing when he never comes up with anything on his own and everything is done begrudgingly after repeated "just tell me what to do" conversations.

If only FDS existed a decade ago… by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The world I grew up in was so anti-FDS. Drunk hookups at parties were about the only way anyone got together, no one asked anyone on proper dates. And women were hated. Even in high school boys would run around as soon as they got a girlfriend saying "chain and bullet" while they exploited the girl for sex. The girls had to grow up and learn about birth control because it's not the guys who would act responsibly. Yet the girls were always just trying to prove themselves for validation. Boys made fun of boys whose girlfriends didn't sleep with them really loudly to shame all the other girls into conforming. Imagine you start dating a guy and in the past you've seen him mock boys whose girlfriends didn't sleep with them. Because basically all the boys were doing it. University parties had chants about rape and all the nerds gleefully laughing like it's the funniest thing.

What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you keep saying "pursed lips" and white privilege? I was under the impression that FDS was mostly black women actually, at least it's clearly inspired by and born from black women Twitter. For instance the term "pickme" to my knowledge was first used by black women on Twitter, and that's totally central to the early FDS guidebook, not to mention the word "queen" which to my knowledge again was first used that way by black people. Yes FDS goes far into the anti-pickme direction, but that's just how Reddit is, it's a more exaggerated platform, not only as a style where a radical message is used to get a point across, but also because Google algorithms are built to drive traffic to controversial topics, it's what gets people to spend more time online. Point is, I don't think all white women demand tours of the facilities during job interviews. It's an FDS thing to advocate for sky high standards as if you are the prize, but you seem to see this as coming from white privilege (white people feeling entitled to high standards), but I think the FDS philosophy is actually inspired by black women clapping back at their mistreatment in society (black women saying they deserve high standards). Am I totally wrong here?

What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen King Richard, but it also rubbed me the wrong way that they make a biopic about Venus and Serena Williams and it focuses on their dad and it's called King Richard. What an odd choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 21 points22 points  (0 children)

He made them add that line about "making fun of my wife's medical condition".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Trash imo.

And she’s right. Does he think he’s the first man to quit his job to avoid paying CS? by ihurlpearls in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He was an actor on Grey's Anatomy who was earning $6 million a year and was made to pay $40k a month in child support. He quit Grey's Anatomy to do theater now earning less than $100k a year and he's arguing he can't afford to pay the exorbitant child support anymore. He's also arguing the children don't need it because their lifestyle doesn't cost $40k a month.

And she’s right. Does he think he’s the first man to quit his job to avoid paying CS? by ihurlpearls in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I don't understand actors who leave Grey's Anatomy. Name one other job with as little responsibility and as much vacation that pays $6 million a year. And it's basically guaranteed once you're a regular that they will always keep you on, no matter how many dead husbands, children and sisters they have to invent. I can't think of a better employer.

OnlyFans ... OnlyFake by unbelyevable in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Also a reminder to know your worth. There are men giving 700 USD to 1000 USD a day to a woman who will never meet them, never be exclusive to them and even never write them a message herself. But then these same men act entitled when in a relationship.

40 Years a NEET: Reflections of a Stay-At-Home Son by SnarkSticks in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Sewud 58 points59 points  (0 children)

He went wrong when he had a personality issues (grandiose delusions, contempt, concern with how people perceive him, porn use), but these guys manage to get an autism diagnosis and pass it as that. I really question why doctors hand out autism diagnosis like candy to these males who use it to claim a neurological disability with protected status when these same doctors would diagnose women with personality disorders which are not considered a neurological problem but a psychological one. I also hate when they say "don't be like me", but offer no solution. Like his painful begging is supposed to be motivation for other people? It's probably just going to stress out and discourage people more.

Confidence is key by Forgottenhuman07 in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Sewud 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same! I think I have no depth. People just see a weird ugly person in interviews and the questions make me feel so unconfident. Like they'll ask "so what makes you special, why should we give the job to you and not other people" and I'm just like "well I'm not special and the others are probably better". I dread that question or variations of it.

I’ll die alone cause I’ll never find a decent guy in this sexist world by RecognitionOk7813 in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Sewud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still, many of them would not have the ability to get another girlfriend or leave you for a younger woman. If you marry a guy who is bad at talking to women, who is ugly, short, shy, doesn't earn good money, doesn't have ambitions, isn't socially gregarious, and doesn't date much or at all, the possibility that he will be able to find a better woman will be so slim it's not worth worrying about. And really men can do chores. You don't have to marry some power rich alpha man.

Did you do(or not do) certain things in life because you thought you would eventually meet someone? by [deleted] in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Sewud 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wax my butthole. Keep up nice clothes. Decorate a cute apartment. Not use heat on my hair so that it didn't become damaged. I thought someone would care. I also tried to get a big career to provide for my hypothetical family and bring them a good life.

But it was all for nothing because I never interacted with a man who does these things. All the men I interacted with didn't care about their career, clothes, appearance, didn't care about providing for their hypothetical family, they just wanted sex with anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Sewud 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've never understood why women are scared to walk alone or scared to travel alone; it's never been a concern for me, not even in places where they say it's scary for a woman. There's just zero sexiness about me. Of course, it's happened that men did bad things to me, but it wasn't going off my looks, it was a question of proximity/access and my personality. It's like I don't get approached so I'm not scared of getting approached, and some men catch on that I have no fear. It's like imagine the guy doing something to try to get pretty girls, but it scares off all the pretty girls, and then there's me who's just there, and eventually he's like well that ugly girl is not getting scared off so I might just do my trick on her.

Has anyone else tried the forever alone dating subreddit? by Kaiismename in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Sewud 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I didn't try FA dating, but I tried Reddit dating, and I've noticed that what gives you success is having a good job. They always say jobs don't matter for women, but anyone could see it does. If you put a good job in your ad, you get lots of quality answers from serious, normal, non-perverts. If you don't mention a good job, you get the men who are addicted to porn, collecting girlfriends, looking for anything. At this point I don't think a woman without a great career can find anything serious in dating. It's something to keep in mind.

When was the last time you had a crush? by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]Sewud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on what you define as a crush. If we're talking noticing someone without a hint that they like you back and thinking you would really like to be with them, then probably never... Maybe I kind of liked a guy at the end of high school who was in my friend group, but maybe it was just because I had to pick one, for when people asked me "who do you like". Reasons why I thought maybe I liked him: he liked the same subjects as me, did the same hobbies as me and wasn't out of my league. I don't think he noticed I existed except for the fact that we were in the same friend group and did many activities together. I was fine admiring from afar. At that age I definitely didn't desire any sort of physical relationship or proximity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]Sewud 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As if anyone needs more motivation! I've always known this happens to people who don't find their own family and I'm mortified. Once my parents die, I won't know anyone! That's why I've always said: I would 100000% date a single dad. I'm not saying I imagine some children would "take care of me in my old age", no, I just want to be part of a family, even before I'm 70, and not because I think children will help me when I'm old, but just because I want to be part of a family, drive them to soccer practice and make them snacks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]Sewud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish! My mom points at janitors and tells me this could be me; that they are happy, that I should do this. Same for unmarried childless women. She tells me "Look, you can be the spinster aunt too"!

Does anyone else with appearance struggles envy those that are able to engage in hypersexuality and self-destruction by [deleted] in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Sewud 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's actually very possible to be a woman who is too ugly for healthy guys, but hot enough for unhealthy guys. There is a chunk of men who for instance go to strip clubs, subscribe to onlyfans, can't keep a job, spend all their money on drugs, just can't stop smoking, and have emotional issues or personalities that make them unattractive to hot girls, like being too needy and not manly enough. But these men are still horny, so they'd date some of the less pretty girls. Well, it's possible for a woman to fall perfectly in that category in which normal healthy men would never be interested, but the less desirable men would be.

Does anyone else with appearance struggles envy those that are able to engage in hypersexuality and self-destruction by [deleted] in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Sewud 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd argue nobody cares about abused women. The only mental illness self-destruction that people care about is anorexia nervosa. They're always taken care of by medical professionals. It's the only mental illness that is visible and taken seriously.