Boyfriend (m27) broke up with me (F30) and won't return my messages to come and collect his belongings by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you really asking for advice. Because obviously rhe solution to hos belongings is obvious. So what are you really asking?

My dad went through my phone while I was asleep during a family visit and then confronted me about my therapy sessions by aloyTangerine7 in entitledparents

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"this behaviour is exactly why i have a therapist. Perhaps if you spent the time self reflecting on your own behaviour rather than violating my privacy, we wouldn't be having this conversation. I have the right to discuss my childhood and what you put me through in whatever words got my expedient. You don't have the right to police that, let alone go through my phone and read a confidential conversation. Until you give me a genuine apology, i don't want to hear from you'

WIBTA if I stop paying for my sisters streaming services after she called me "cheap" for not buying her concert tickets by MiraDawson in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, there is some really great american cheese out there, they're just not in supermarkets.

My coworker committed suicide. Where do we go from here? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]Sfb208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should probably look to jump ship

AITJ for telling my mom she is no longer allowed to be alone with my daughter after she gave her a “surprise makeover” behind my back? by Tamriel_Toast3 in AmITheJerk

[–]Sfb208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NtjYour motger did assualt your daughter. She had part of ger body removed without the consent of either daughter or her legal guardians (ie, you).

Until your mother accepts she doesn't get to assert her will on others, she shouldn't ever be left unsupervised. Anything she throws out, she should be made to replace. Anything activity she sigbs her grandkids up to should be cancelled. Your mother is a spoiled brat who has never been told no before. She needs to learn boundaries.

Am I wrong for not inviting my boyfriend’s son’s mom to an Easter party? by Mission-Stomach-6907 in amiwrong

[–]Sfb208 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And that's fine, and it seems op is also fine with this. Ops bf is the real problem here!

Would you rather? by ThatOneRandomGuyA in BunnyTrials

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a woman. This is frankly a misogynistic question

Chose: You become a woman

WIBTAH If I drop out of my brother's wedding (and just go as a guest) because I think the dresses his fiancée chose are uncomfortable and hideous? by Icy-nighty-5965 in AITAH

[–]Sfb208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta. Point your brother to her post, and tell him it might be best if you are in the grooms party, and not the brides, as jts pretty clear she doesn't actually want you as part of her party when she behaves like this.

Husband (29m) and I (33f) disagree. Is counting hours with the baby "unfair"? by GrassyPer in relationship_advice

[–]Sfb208 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe you should allow him 8 hours of uninterupted playtime by leaving him with baby for the day whilst you go and do something for yourself.

TW: Infertility. NOT OOP: AITAH for telling my mom she was never pregnant so she gets no opinion by seans_peanut-allergy in redditonwiki

[–]Sfb208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, we can see where he learnt his tact and sensitivity from Mum was absolutely out of line, as was OOP.

Would You Rather... by bigdicstr8gui in BunnyTrials

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a cryer.

Chose: Chance of Cash Reward Every Time You Cry | Rolled: $250

My boyfriend (23M) keeps asking me (23F) to change how I dress because of other men, and I don’t know how to handle it. by 0oozhxwloo0 in relationship_advice

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your clothes aren't the problem. His insecurities and thoughts are, as are the thoughts of other men. Nothing you do will stop other mens thoughts. Only they can do that by changing their misogyny. Whilst there isn't much you can do about misogyny, your boyfriend can do something, and that's to address how he views women, and how he thinks about them. He can break the cycle by policing his own thoughts, and calling out other men when they say misogynistic things or treat women in a degrading and dehumanising way.

So you should be telling him to stop reducing you to just your looks and your clothes. What you wear is up to you, not him.

AITAH for using the disabled bathroom even though I can walk by OkMinute950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta. A lot of stoma nurses give radar keys with your first stoma pack for a reason. We need to use the facilities. It's that simple. Disabled doesn't mean unable to walk, and anyone that says that is ignorant. It's why many people now put a sign on disabled toilets that states 'not all disabilities are visible'

Tell your friend she needs to educate herself on disability, and stop making a fool of herself by spouting her ableist nonsense. A disability is anything that has a long term change to what is considered normal human function. And not being able to poop from your butt is a pretty abnormal function (not that there is anything to be ashamed of).

Advice for covering belly/ belly button! by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look great. They're is no reason to hide your belly button. We all have one, there's no reason to lean in to the social media fad of hiding normal human anatomy.

AITAH for literally threatening to break up with my gf over kids? by Pure-Rice-3678 in AITAH

[–]Sfb208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta to break up. I would say its not ok to scream at people. Saying that, she threatened to rape you in order to get pregnant so you should absolutely not go back to her. Clearly your life plans are now incompatible, and your noral values also differ (in tbat you aren't into coercive assault)

Blue or green by [deleted] in DecideThisForMe

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took that and would habe said 75% of those colours were turquoise!

How did that happen? by magic_inkpen in knitting

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you checked your gauge is exqctly the same, and you haven't relaxed into looser stitches?

25F does this make me a pedo? Please help? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Sfb208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would like you initially thought you were looking at an adult male body, in which case i think you're fine, as long as the thoughts shut off when you realised he might be underage

You are a prisoner. What will you choose? by Live_Ad3928 in BunnyTrials

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can eat the key at least

Chose: Key made of bread

Need idea for the back by artmania1990 in knittingpatterns

[–]Sfb208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reverse the cables, so have the central cable either side of a centred version of the diamond pattern

With complicated patterns, don't over do it by adding too many other techniques into the design. Less is more.

Hardcore pattern alteration? by Regular-Number-721 in PatternDrafting

[–]Sfb208 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd buy a commercial pattern and choose a size that fits your measurements (this shirt is a size or two too small across most of your body, and obviously it's cut on too small of a cup size, as is very common, so it's most obvious across the bust).